To ask why non-parents are here?

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I see posters saying they don't have any children, or want any. So if you aren't a parent, pregnant or TTC, why are you here on mumsnet?🤔

The fact I have a young son means squat all. I prefer threads non related to being mum... Unless I have any learnt wisdom to share like infant gaviscon being shit.

Yabu

I go on here for the dilemmas people have about friendships and the advice given. It's surprising on one level how many grown women have friendship problems - but not surprising on another level as I think theycanbe much harder to navigate than actual relationships- you finish a relationship but with a friendship there's no such definite finish !! To end a friendship can be much harder!! Also there was an excellent thread on bullying a few years ago from a grown woman being bullied- one of the comments on this as excellent

@HellonHeels I lolled at your comment 😂😂😂

🤣🤣. You're the sensitive one op.

just wouldn't accrued for me to look at one

You what now ??

People are getting shirty because someone posts about it about once a week and it's been done to death.

I found my way here via the Litter Tray. Also the Feminism board.

See the various different topic boards.

I have no children, and doubt I ever will. My partner however has a 16yo son who lives with us, so I have found this very helpful asking advice about him - as I feel he's almost an adult, but still needs adults, if that makes sense.. so I've sort of been thrown in at the deep end of "parenting" with no experience leading up to it! My partner works full time and I have said that I am happy for his son to come home while I'm there so I would take care of him (he used to go to partner's mum's after school when he was a little younger) - therefore I'm the one who helps with homework, or encourages it to be done, tries to get him to do chores, and occasionally when my partner works late I also have to get him to bed on time.. so it's like I've been thrown into almost being a mum with no warning.

So, that's why I'm here.

Also, I do sort of hope I will have a baby of my own one day, it's just unlikely.

Op people are touchy because this question is asked SO often!

I am TTC so I suppose I'm allowed here? yay me.
Before I even started TTC almost anything I googled Mumsnet was always one of the top results.

Because it's one of the most active forums on the internet and like 95% of threads aren't anything to do with having children

Because we can??? What's it to do with you

Without exception, my impression of people who ask this stupid question, is that they are one of those boring and self-absorbed parents who think that parenting is the be all and end all. Always seems to be women that ask the question to.

OP - this may be the point to recognise you asked a silly question and quietly hide the thread.

Came for AIBU, stayed because there's nothing more I like than clicking on tiresome threads like these.

Well OP for all that you think us childless people are all massively oversensitive (as well as posting on a forum we have no right to be on) it's really quite amusing that you're the one flouncing off your own thread.

You're being

^Women are only allowed to discuss parenting, ttc, without men present.

Anything else we should not talk about without oversight.

MRAs hate this site.

I love it.^

Exactly Fragging . I did wonder if it was the MRAs that had brought the OP to the site and to the question. Lots of MN supporters on Twitter are explaining why there are non-parents on the site and how it's helped them with different issues.

If someone is "genuinely curious" they can do advanced search on topics...

Me not utilising my uterus doesn't mean I can't come here and find like minded people to moan about cat shit😁

I too was brought to MN through property forum part as some pp.

I think people who ask this question should be given a small electric shock by their devices.

Harsh but fair

I wonder this too! I’ve seen a few posts starting with ‘Hi mums!’ and the other posters have been downright aggressive about it! As if it’s ridiculous to assume that, on a website called Mumsnet, you’re addressing other mums! I never came on Mumsnet before having kids - wouldn’t have interested me at all!

Moving house or property improvements. Relationship advice. Aibu - my neighbour is a twat. I could go on

I don't think it's a silly question. The forum is called 'mumsnet' by parents for parents.
It's hardly a stupid question to ask why non-parents would come here. Anyone saying it is is being disingenuous or overly defensive.
I came here long before I was a parent as I was a bit of a baby name nerd and stumbled across baby name threads. I then discovered other interesting forums such as AIBU, Relationships and Style and Beauty. I was on here for 6 years before becoming a parent.

I wonder this too! I’ve seen a few posts starting with ‘Hi mums!’ and the other posters have been downright aggressive about it!

That's not because of non parents but the fact that dads are here too.

Agree with you OP - the entire premise of the website is for parents to support other parents 😂 or it used to be ... now it seems like the whole point of the website is to attack OPs.

Also... MN works like a really good motivation to swallow my contraception pill every morning😂

' I never knew mumsnet had so many forums because it never occurred to me to look at a parenting forum if I didn't have or want children. Just wanted to know why you're here!'

I first heard of Mumsnet years ago, as somewhere very feminist. As a feminist I was interested. Then last month someone linked me to the Trans Widows threads which recount the wives' experiences of trans, which are rarely heard and often shocking.

So I joined to read about that and give my support, then got onto reading other posts which described the range of women's experiences in relationships in our world.

Hope this helps if you're still reading, OP :)

forensic discussions about Farrow & Ball paint shades

I need to know where this is!