Should unsolicited dick pics be an arrestable offence?

[Asta19]

Now i’m not talking about pre agreed photo swapping between two consenting adults. Obviously in that scenario it’s their own business. I’m talking, guy you hardly know sending an unasked for dick pic. Any of us who have online dated likely have experience of this. Exposure in person is, quite rightly, an arrestable offence but it seems that there is no such protection online. Why? You could argue “don’t look at the pic then” but would you say to an exposure victim “just don’t look” no of course not. Taking my own experience, and that of friends and relatives, many of us have fallen victim to the unasked for dick pic. I feel we have successfully dealt with harassment/indecent behaviour in real life. For example it has now been illegal (and a sex offence) for some time, to pinch a woman’s bum. Yet this type of behaviour has transferred online and we’re supposed to just accept it. AIBU? Interested in others thoughts on this.

I think so.

I would have thought it already is covered by some law...

It's gross and I'm so glad it has not ever been a part of my life. I honestly despair. I actually do think it should be considered an offence, no different from exposing oneself in public - I think it has the potential to be just as violating.

However it was through an unsolicited dick pic sent to a friend that I learned that micropenises are real.

That was a special day in the staff room.

I think as flashing in real,life is an offence so should sending dick pics. No idea if it is or not though.

YES

Surely it falls under the malicious communications act? Just a matter of police and the courts actually enforcing it?

Yes

Yes it should be. Would be issues proving it though on platforms where you can delete messages.

Yes. Truly despicable. I hate that this will be part of the landscape for my DDs. And what sort of man thinks that women actually like seeing a pic of his meat and two veg?!

I was talking to one man, met up and I just had zero attraction to him but he was manipulative and played the sympathy card a lot - threatened suicide etc, so I felt like I needed to be there for him.

He asked me to come over one night and I said no. He then threw a tantrum and sent me a video of him wanking. Quickly deleted and claimed it was accident.

I was pretty upset to be honest and told him that I would be contacting the police to report the incident. He said to never contact him again as he’d do me for harassment

• or short version - YANBU.

Of course it should be. But unfortunately it’d probably be abused or hard to convict, he said she said stuff or deleted messages/messages originally through other platforms. I do wonder why Facebook has a “this might be graphic” filter on newsfeeds but it’s not a rhythm they could use on messengers to grab them and atleast blur them out so you could chose to block without having to see the needle in the haystack.

It's disgusting and an instant block if I have experienced someone doing this on online dating, but really don't think it is so upsetting that it should be a criminal offence

yes
and, how on earth do you 'accidentally send someone a video of yourself wanking?
yeah, right

YANBU

I got one through airdrop on a train recently. I didn’t realise I had it switched on for everyone to see. I should be an offence. Bad enough I got it (I obviously declined it but you still see the pic) but my young son often uses my phone on trains. It should be treated the same as flashing. I like to choose whose naked genitals I see !

YANBU

Considering up skirting only just became illegal, I think there's a way to go 😔

Are dick pics already illegal in any western country? Does anyone know?

Yes
It’s flashing

Yes.

It's deliberate and controlling. Designed to make the receiver feel uncomfortable at the very least.

Yes. A thousand times yes. They piss me off so much.
I also think they ought to go on the register of sex offenders for it.

Yes!

I agree it should be. But enforcement could be difficult?

What if the person sending you an unsolicited picture lives abroad? What if you’ve never met the person but are just talking online or over text messages and they have given you false name or address, then should you go on to report it as a crime the police would have a tough time tracing the individual from just a mobile or email address.

When people send unsolicited pictures over airdrop or Bluetooth again how easy is it to trace who sent something, especially on a packed train or public place.

I don’t know the answers but just thinking these could be some of the challenges. Maybe there is technology out there already that could overcome some of these though.

Yes.

Do they really think any woman is going to say wow! Must meet this bloke!? I absolutely cannot imagine for a second why on earth anyone would send an unsolicited dick pic. Do they not know it's a total no-no? If not why not? I don't know of one woman who welcomes unsolicited dick pics 😡

I think it would be extremely challenging to prosecute.