Passive aggressive Facebook posts

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So DH and I had an argument on the weekend and the next day I find that he has posted a less than subtle passive aggressive yet deliberately vague Facebook status aimed at me. Loads of comments asking “omg are you ok?” Then his mum commenting that she has come across many people like this, he’s being ”abused” that he “needs to find the strength to be free” It sounds like he has told his mum a very one sided version of events. Aibu to think that these kinds of Facebook statuses are basically spineless?

Oh that all sounds quite serious. I think you need to speak properly to your DH. I agree FB probably isn't the best place for marital problems to get sorted out.

Why does his mum think you're abusing him?

YANBU. I would be horrified if my H did this. So disrespectful.
I hate those kind of posts anyway and always almost dislocate my eyeballs from rolling them too hard.

Well to be fair everyone only gives friends/family the one version. Every story has 3 sides, his, hers and then you get the truth.

Are you abusive?

Talk to your dh about his passive aggressive post....

and then there are the spineless posts on Mumsnet too.... Oh the irony!

Regardless of what happened and whose at fault , I think your dh is being a twat for posting all that on social media,nobody needs to know about other peoples relationships it's pathetic

Bloody hell. What did you argue about?! What have you said to him about his Facebook wankiness?

What did you do?

Unless your DH is a 15 year old girl, posting stuff like that on Facebook is so strange and immature.

Omg I would be mortified and humiliated

I would be embarrassed for him.

What happened?

I hope you commented U OK HUN under his status.

I'm sorry but I'm not sure I could resist posting, 'erm, I am HERE you know' on his mum's replies!

He's being a total cock. Mumsnet is nothing like it as we don't know who you or your husband are! It's not aimed at him via telling all us about it.

You've got to ask him about it.

Haha! Immediately do as Claudia Schiffer suggests!

His mum's only heard his side.

We've only heard yours.

Nobody here can honestly say who is the unreasonable one in this scenario. I personally wouldn't post a Facebook status like that, but ultimately if someone is really upset they do have the right to express that to others if they want to. You can't try to control what he says to his family and friends.

YANBU. I still want the ground to swallow me up and am even going red now thinking of the one time I did this years ago its deleted but somewhere out there will be a screenshot.

In my defence I was mid through a breakdown, but still. I cant imagine doing it now and definitely not about my DP. Embarrassing.

haha - if my DH ever did this I'd probably write either
a) I've packed your stuff, the bags are in the porch
or
b) bye, leaving you

Tell his mum she's welcome to take him back!

Tbh the vaguebooking is least of your worries here I think annoying as it is. Your husband seems to have told his mother (and others too possibly) a completely one sided story of what your argument was about at best and she’s taken stuff out of context. At worst, he’s lied and said some really awful untrue things and his mum is genuinely worried about him being in an abusive relationship. You need to have it out with him.

Ignore my previous comment or part of it for some reason I thought his mother had put the post up. Head is mashed, sorry! But yeah you need to talk.

"Let me help you find the strength to be free, darling. Here's your case all packed, open the boot and lift it in."

This is a one sided post but it's anon so it can't really do any damage.
Facebook is another thing altogether.
You really need to have words with him!

Wow I would pissed off and pretty mortified it DH did that as we have a lot of mutual friends on there. Is he always so needy? I find it really unattractive when someone posts something super attention seeking.

Erm reasonable MN is anonymous, not the same thing at all.

YANBU OP.

Claudia