Passive aggressive Facebook posts

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So DH and I had an argument on the weekend and the next day I find that he has posted a less than subtle passive aggressive yet deliberately vague Facebook status aimed at me. Loads of comments asking “omg are you ok?” Then his mum commenting that she has come across many people like this, he’s being ”abused” that he “needs to find the strength to be free” It sounds like he has told his mum a very one sided version of events. Aibu to think that these kinds of Facebook statuses are basically spineless?

@Juells @saraclara

I did skim the whole re-telling of the event down, as the point of my post was more to let the OP know that I could completely empathise with her as oppose to go into too much detail around my set-up.

It wasn't all done and dusted as quickly as it probably sounded. For context the original argument with my DH was over who was watching what on TV before moving on to housework issues and who does what around the house! So absolutely nothing trust related, dramatic or gossip worthy. We'd had issues around communication and his disproportionate responses before this, but this was the first time he'd gone public as it were.

Off the back of the "Facebook incident" as it will forever be known as, we started Relate. We had discussed it previously but DH had always been reluctant (didn't like the thought of discussing private matters in front of strangers, now that's ironic!) but in the fallout he agreed and we went along for several sessions. It helped with communication and things are a lot better and I hope we'd never be in that sort of place again.

Why would a grown man put anything about an argument with his wife on Facebook. And why would his mum reply! She's really shot herself in the foot there. No point making any effort with her from now on, she clearly thinks you're awful so I wouldn't even bother with her from now. Be civil at best.

As for him, he's been very disrespectful. Have things like this come up before? Where is the line where you decide you won't take this shite.

Wow. Honestly your DH seems like a total arsehole. Who call their wife and child imbecile and then vague-books slagging her off and attention seeking

YADNBU

He’s a twat and your mil .... well I have no words!

He’s a twat and his mother should be welcome to him. Who in the world says that about a 3 year old? Ffs

He fucking did what? Called you and the toddler imbeciles? Then posted woe is me on Facebook? Cringe as fuck for a grown man. How ridiculous.

I hope you find a way to be free!!