Birthday Cake Drama

[onesteponepunchoneroundatatime]

At work we have a birthday cake rosta. The person whose birthday it is has their cake by the person whose birthday is next.

The person whose birthday was offsite, but the person who made the cake was on site at morning tea. Another member of staff (who is not on the rosta) said that as the person who baked the cake said it was OK then she could have a (huge) slice of the cake.

I was appalled and made my feelings about what I perceive to be good birthday etiquette very vocal that the cake belongs to the person whose birthday it is not the person who baked it. Then I (light-heartedly) shit-stirred and dobbed them in to the birthday girl.

So my AIBU is- is it OK to eat someone's else's birthday cake if they are not there?

For anyone who is worried about the person who ate the cake she didn't care one bit. And when no one else had a piece of the cake she said she felt guilty- and I said 'Good-you should' and then we all laughed our heads off.

with an extra couple for just this sort of event

Yes it was rude, but tbh who could be arsed with any of that drama.

She was wrong and should have waited for the birthday person. These things can create long term rifts in offices!

It was rude, but honestly why wouldn’t you just bring your own cake in for your birthday. Much simpler system and this wouldn’t happen!

The cake eater sounds very greedy and given that she refuses to participate in the cake-making herself she's a CF!

I'm not sure why everyone's on the cake eater's case. Yes, she was cheeky to ask, but you know, nothing ventured nothing gained.

The real fault lies with the baker, who baked a lovely cake for someone and then gave someone ELSE permission to cut this cake and eat some. Why on earth didn't she just say, "It's not my cake, it's the cake I baked for x's birthday."

If she'd said that simple thing there would have been no drama and no CF CC CE colleague.

In my view, you wait till you're invited to partake of any food at work - but it's hardly crime of the century.

I remember the furore in my office when some contractors came in and were helping themselves to various teams' food as they wandered round the office.

quite a greedy person, she should have been told no.

The word you require is 'roster'. OP. There is no such thing as a 'rosta'. Perhaps you intended to say 'rota'.

HTH.

Incredibly rude. The birthday person should go and take a big bite of cake entitled persons lunch.

I bloody love a petty workplace drama.

Pleas oh please tell me other entitled things this person has done? I refuse to believe it's their first transgression.

Incredibly rude. The birthday person should go and take a big bite of cake entitled persons lunch.

I bloody love a petty workplace drama.

Pleas oh please tell me other entitled things this person has done? I refuse to believe it's their first transgression.

Wtf is a rosta?

Why don't you say it out loud and see if you can work it out? It shouldn't take long.

CF cake eater was probably just peeved at your hideous cakey rosta clique and wanted to demonstrate how ludicrous the whole idea is and show the whole charade up for the bullying, divisive faction it really is.

@Falafel19

Is rosta like a hybrid rota and roster?

Apparently it's someone who gets on well with everyone.

(I looked it up as I worried I might have had a stroke, with a consequent inability to understand words

MerryMarigold

The real fault lies with the baker, who baked a lovely cake for someone and then gave someone ELSE permission to cut this cake and eat some.

The word 'allegedly' needs to go before and then gave someone ELSE permission to cut this cake and eat some. There are no depths to which GFs won't sink when there's cake around.

Wtf? This is the reason I’m so glad I do t work with other women anymore.

Wtf? This is the reason I’m so glad I do t work with other women anymore.

You clearly never met my nose-picking colleague who was always first with his hands in any communal food at my last place of work. Having spent time in a variety of office environments, I can say that in my experience, the men tended to be much more brazen about tucking into 'shared' food and not considering how much there was or how many people it was to be shared by.

That’s not my issue. The issue is the drama. Why even give this any head space? It’s such a non issue.

Wow a lot of comments.

For those if you who answered by AIBU thank you. I was so shocked by the greediness and rudeness that I had to check myself.

For people concerned with my work place, we work with vulnerable people in a caring environment and sometimes challenging behaviour, so sometimes it's nice to have something else to focus on.

Slightly concerned about the thinly- veiled misogyny about working with all women though. In my experience it's the women with this attitude that are the problem in the first place.