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AIBU?

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Neighbours lending out our space.

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northbacchus · 07/10/2019 09:58

Moved into our (mortgaged not rental) flat a few months ago. Alongside the flat, we get an enclosed numbered parking space in the downstairs garage.

Our neighbours, without asking, have starting to loan out our space to their friend, lending them their key fob!

We don't drive, so don't use the space constantly, but we regularly have visitors including my DF who needs the space as he is disabled. There is no way our neighbours could not know this is our space, as each number corresponds with the flat number.

AIBU to leave a note in the letterbox of the neighbours? Or should I leave a note on the car? Worried it will cause issue due to the fact we, perhaps obviously, don't have our own car to park there.

OP posts:

mummmy2017 · 09/10/2019 09:17

Did you see the post it note thing.
You write on them and once the car parks in your space you cover the car.

TrixieFranklin · 09/10/2019 09:25

OP might take a while to update, she has a baby and is doing a degree dont ya know..

AnneElliott · 09/10/2019 09:30

You need to make it uncomfortable for the car driver op. We had this in our flat, and I would either block them in, or if I knew who it was, wake them up at 2am (when we came back home) and insist they moved it.

That tended to sort it.

Bellasblankexpression · 09/10/2019 09:34

We had this. We put a note through the door explaining we didn't mind them using it occasionally, if they asked first, but although it looked empty it was frequently in use with visitors so was not 'free' and, as it's our space, they have no right to it.
We explained that if it continued we would have no choice but to contact the management company and deal with it formally.
We also put cones in the space and a sign above the number saying it was private parking for number XX and not to be used.
It worked.
Might have sounded like overkill but they didn't open the door.

Ponoka7 · 09/10/2019 09:58

"Sending that will make *you the laughing stock of the complex"

A lot of what's suggested sounds like a plot for an episode of Fasier.

Ragwort, my neighbour doesn't answer her door, but i know she fled an abusive marriage. I put her bins in and out. I take in parcels and she calls for them. I don't mind any of that. But it's a waste of time to ever knock.

AdobeWanKenobi · 09/10/2019 11:15

OP might take a while to update, she has a baby and is doing a degree dont ya know..

Are you always this much of a cow to other women or is it just this one you're making an exception for?

AllFourOfThem · 09/10/2019 11:26

I disagree with everyone who is suggesting you are nice and agreeable about this. They clearly aren’t answering their door because they don’t want confrontation so if they are being CF, they aren’t the sort of neighbours I’d be helpful to.

Therefore, I agree about getting a bollard. I would also get the really sticky stickers that say “Private” as they are difficult to get off, and put them on each window of the car. In the meantime, I would send your neighbours a letter saying you know they are giving out your key fob for people to park in your space and this is their final warning before you take legal action.

SoupDragon · 09/10/2019 11:41

It's not the fault of the people parking there so it's unfair to put hard to remove stickers on there far. They've been told it's fine to park there.

Kazzyhoward · 09/10/2019 11:48

It's not the fault of the people parking there so it's unfair to put hard to remove stickers on there far. They've been told it's fine to park there.

They know it's someone else's space, so it is their fault.

Surfskatefamily · 09/10/2019 11:48

Put up a cone with a sign saying " for flat no. 5(or whatever yours is) only. "

SoupDragon · 09/10/2019 11:49

They know it's someone else's space, so it is their fault.

They have been told it's fine to park there. It is not their fault.

WaxOnFeckOff · 09/10/2019 11:52

That's why you sticker the car, to make them aware that it's your space. The whole thing about the neighbour is just conjecture. You need to target car/driver to make them aware not to park there. If they've been told to by a neighbour that it's ok/paid a neighbour to park then that's for them to take up with the neighbour.

The only absolute fact is that car is being parked in the space. Deal with the fact first.

SoupDragon · 09/10/2019 11:56

So put a note on, not some sticker they can't get off. Don't be a wanker like the neighbours.

The fault here lies squarely with the neighbours who gave the permission to park there.

AdobeWanKenobi · 09/10/2019 12:01

Ok so lets imagine you go on to a website such as 'park on my drive' and pay a fee to use that space.
You return to your car to find someone has put stickers all over your windscreen.

How in the world is that your fault? It's the fault of the person who gave permission for someone to use a space that isn't theirs.

FriedasCarLoad · 09/10/2019 12:05

You can have a baby and still do stuff you know grin. I was at the least busy in my entire adult life when I had a baby. I had more time to do stuff than I do now and I work only two days a week. Kids take up more time the older they get. Probably good to start practising now.

She’s doing a degree, you patronising grump!

WaxOnFeckOff · 09/10/2019 12:06

Yeah, I meant a note and once again, you cannot extrapolate that it's definitely that particular neighbour. So, first step has to be to make the car driver aware that it's your space and they are not permitted to use it. they will then take it from there and inform whoever told them to park there or whoever they are paying to park there. If they don't then they are also being CFs and you can take more disruptive action.

Kazzyhoward · 09/10/2019 12:12

How in the world is that your fault? It's the fault of the person who gave permission for someone to use a space that isn't theirs.

So it's up to them to complain to the person who gave them permission.

WaxOnFeckOff · 09/10/2019 12:15

If they don't then they are also being CFs and you can take more disruptive action.

I meant to say, if they don't and continue to park there then they are being CFs...

SchadenfreudePersonified · 09/10/2019 20:34

You can have a baby and still do stuff you know grin. I was at the least busy in my entire adult life when I had a baby.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAHAHHAAAHAHAHAHAHA!

Aveisenim · 09/10/2019 23:07

@BoomBoomsCousin

I have a friend who is employed in this line of work. They are able to repossess the property in extreme cases (unlikely to be needed in this instance) and take ownership, meaning the tenant will have to move and find an alternative place to live. It only happens when they get too many complaints though and it is a last resort.

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/10/2019 00:09

@Aveisenim - What do you mean by “in this line of work”? You don’t need qualifications to register with the land registry, though usually the solicitor of whoever just bought the property (so, most likely, the landlord) will do it. You seem to be suggesting that a solicitor who acted for the landlord would be able (and willing) to take action (potentially up to taking possession of the property) on behalf of the OP. I find that claim quite fantastical. What possible incentive or obligation could they have to act on the OP’s behalf?

Are you sure you mean the person who registered the neighbour’s deeds and not the council or something?

BumbleBeee69 · 10/10/2019 00:37

get the bollards.. the end

Aveisenim · 10/10/2019 00:50

From what they've told me, they work for an estate agent (though not the lettings department, it's something completely new to me as well and was certainly the first I'd heard of it the other day. Something to do with Block & Estates management I think? I know they get complaints from social housing tenants as well as private renters that they have to deal with even though they're not their landlord etc.

I'm assuming it's a much more complex procedure than the scaled-down version I've been told by the way! From what I can tell, it only comes into effect if the landlord completely ignores the problem, I don't know if it applies to those who have bought their property outright and don't rent.

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