Just to start out I really hope I don’t sound ungrateful and I really don’t expect a lot for my birthday. Since moving out and having children of my own I obviously don’t expect much from my parents and siblings etc, usually get a card with a couple of gift vouchers or some cash and sometimes something like a new pair of earrings etc which I’m delighted with.
However my partner has made me feel really sad every birthday I’ve had with him even though it’s only been three. We live together and have a two year old and I’m in the early stages of a new pregnancy.
First year together I was 200 miles away at university so I came home for the weekend, went for a meal with my family then went for a drink. Had to stay two hours after I wanted to go home bevause he was enjoying himself with his mates. He gave me a cheap 25 inch tv unwrapped which I never used. No card.
Second birthday together I was 8 months pregnant, he wanted to meet his mum and friends in the pub so that’s what we did, sat there all night unable to drink with him saying “we’ll go as soon as I’ve finished this pint” then ordering another one. Eventually did go home but he brought his mate home with us and they sat up all night drinking while I went to bed. The present was a 50p corner shop card with £200 in cash and I was told “£100 of that is for the bills”.
Third birthday (last year) he went out the night before my birthday and got so drunk he stayed at his mums, slept through the whole day from his hangover and I ended up going out on my own with the birthday money from my mum because he was too hungover. He gave me my presents two days later still in the amazon packaging, a cheap dressing gown (he knew I had an expensive one that I love) a mug and some chocolates. No card again. These presents were okay but I just thought it was so thoughtless that he obviously ordered them after my actual birthday and didn’t even bother to wrap them or get a card.
This year I’m just dreading that horrible feeling again, the other day he went into town to do “birthday shopping” and he claims he’s doing good this year but he came back empty handed and had obviously been sat in the pub all day.
I might also add that he earns very decent money. I really hope I’m not sounding ungrateful, I would be happy with even just a hand made card if he was skint but he has the means to get good presents, he is just very uncaring with my birthday.
P.s he is a good dad and partner just every birthday I end up going to bed early to cry