To go for breakfast on my own?

[ZogorElmer]

I am in desperate need of an hour childfree as I haven’t been parted from DC for weeks now. I have a rare free few hours Sunday morning so was thinking about going out for breakfast- but I have no-one to go with.

AIBU to go alone? Will people feel sorry for me having no friends?

Not at all. I enjoy my own company and love going for breakfast or lunch alone. (Or doing almost anything alone actually!)
I was even contemplating going to a concert alone next month but a friend is going to come aswel now as she likes her too and I’m also glad of the company and time with her.
I hope you enjoy tomorrow’s breakfast if you go

I'm always doing it. There are always other women, alone, doing it too. It's not that odd!

I am loving DP having a new job that means he works the majority of Saturday mornings. I get up early (because my new job has completely reset my body clock), wave him off, then I get to fire up the coffee machine and please myself until midday.

I'm planning my first breakfast out for next weekend - I fancy either Eggs Benedict or Bagels now, complete with fresh orange juice and more coffee.

Definitely go! Take something to read during the peace and quiet too! Enjoy :)

Breakfast in a Caff with a paper is my idea of heaven!

After breakfast you should head to the cinema.

It’s a revelation on your own and literally no one cares.

I went for lunch by myself today as I often do. I don't understand why you'd even think twice.

Of course not!

Breakfast, a book, bliss...

You need to challenge your DH strongly on that dismissive view. Seriously. Fuck that shit; don’t play along with it.

If he has a day off at the weekend, you get one too. A full day.

I have a confession.

I get up earlier than I have to every day, usually when the cat wakes me up to go out. So I do that, then empty the dishwasher, prepare my breakfast and sit in blessed peace and solitude to eat it, either with a book or MN. I take a nice long time about it too. Then I go get DS up for school and the peace ends...

But all these breakfast descriptions sound too lovely, so one day next week I'm going to hold back on having breakfast at home and just go up to a cafe for a cooked breakfast. It sounds divine. I've often had solitary lunches out but not a breakfast (unless we're away in a hotel).

For me, it's worth getting up early to reap this benefit, others may not feel it's worth the sacrifice. But you should definitely hand the reins over to your DH, get out and relax completely. The most stress you should have should be "sunny side up or not?" Make it happen OP, everyone needs a break. Insist on getting yours for your own sanity.

@0lga I’m not working at the minute so apparently every day is my “day off”!

I don’t really have any hobbies or many friends (I work 3 evenings a week tutoring so it’s hard to join anything) so don’t go out without the children much as I don’t have anywhere to go

I don’t mean “ when is your day off paid work ? “. I mean “ when is your day off your unpaid full time job of looking after your small children and your part time job tutoring ? “.

I see that your husband has Saturdays off both paid work and childcare. You also need time off.

It doesn’t matter if you don't have anywhere to go, that’s not the point. Join a cheap gym, use your council pool, sit in Costa with a magazine, take up a hobby.

There are plenty things things that you could do on a Saturday afternoon or a Sunday . Or on the nights you are not working .

If you can fit “ family time “ around his hobbies, you can fit it around yours.

I often do this, sometimes I bring the dog to a dog-friendly cafe and it’s so nice. I bring a book and just chill. Nobody bats an eyelid.

Sounds like heaven.

@ZogorElmer - did you go?

If he considers it a day off to look after the children, encourage him to take a couple of day's leave to have them while you please yourself, after all it's a doddle, isn't it?

One of my best two days ever was a hotel stay on my own. I ate when I wanted, did what I wanted and didn't feel at all uncomfortable alone even for dinner. I just took a newspaper or book. It was bliss just being able to please myself.

Do it! I’m actually super jealous of your alone breakfast!! Not had an hour to myself in weeks.

I will never understand these threads! Why on earth would anyone think twice about this?

I would think nothing of someone sitting alone in a cafe eating breakfast. Seems perfectly normal to me

Thanks everyone. Yes I went and it was lovely!

Namechange fail? (Just in case it matters for some reason and you want to report it)

Now, focus on making it a weekly thing. You really need to take time out from parenting. Not just for yourself but for your children and your OH too - it’s good for them to spend time together without you always having to be there.

My favourite thing to do. Poached eggs, proper cappuccino and a good book. Bliss.