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To go for breakfast on my own?

96 replies

ZogorElmer · 04/10/2019 20:33

I am in desperate need of an hour childfree as I haven’t been parted from DC for weeks now. I have a rare free few hours Sunday morning so was thinking about going out for breakfast- but I have no-one to go with.

AIBU to go alone? Will people feel sorry for me having no friends?

OP posts:
Namechangeforthiscancershit · 05/10/2019 07:05

Right! Make this the start of time for you. If you're not getting any rest you must be exhausted. Take a book or a few trashy magazines and order everything you fancy, plus lots of drinks.

It's been prescribed by strangers on the internet. No choice now!

Salene · 05/10/2019 07:05

I escape to Morrison's supermarket cafe for a child free breakfast sometimes , it's bliss Grin

PhilCornwall1 · 05/10/2019 07:08

I stay in hotels a lot for work. I love having an evening meal with a beer and breakfast on my own. It's bliss. Go for it!!

Fantail · 05/10/2019 07:10

I frequently go out for breakfast. People with children will probably feel jealous rather than sorry for you.

Sipperskipper · 05/10/2019 07:31

Sounds like absolute heaven.

Orangecake123 · 05/10/2019 07:33

The first time I started eating alone i felt the same way as you did OP. But I went anyway. It's nice to have to to yourself.

Orangecake123 · 05/10/2019 07:34

*time

Crotchgoblins · 05/10/2019 09:04

I would love a solo breakfast. I went out to cinemas and lunch on my own when I started mat leave just before 2nd DC arrived with 1st DC in nursery. I think some people probably felt sorry for me. They had no idea what bliss is was to do what you want and not have to attend to someone else's needs for a few hours.

WaynettaSlobOnTheSchoolRun · 05/10/2019 09:08

I’m not working at the minute so apparently every day is my “day off” Hmm Then there's no problem with him having the baby as it is a day off, isn't it. The cognitive dissonance applied by these lazy ass men never fails to astonish me. If the woman is at home with the DC it's relaxing time off, if the man is at home with them (not cleaning, doing laundry, cooking, grocery shopping etc) it's waaaaay too stressful. What a crock.

Anyway OP enjoy your breakfast. Take your time. Nobody will bat an eyelid.

Dongdingdong · 05/10/2019 09:13

Go for it OP. I’m jealous.

overnightangel · 05/10/2019 09:15

@milski

“This thread is making me want to go for a Full English on my own with a newspaper”

+1!
I’d be in my way now if I didn’t have work!

SerenDippitty · 05/10/2019 09:30

Go for it, take your Sunday paper of choice. Bliss.

MintyMabel · 05/10/2019 09:39

Love breakfast out on my own.

I work away sometimes and eat out on my own. It really isn't the problem you think it is.

NoSauce · 05/10/2019 09:41

Your husband thinks everyday is a day off?

In that case don’t just go for breakfast, stay out all bloody day. Go the cinema or shopping or whatever else you fancy.

I’m not joking either. The more women put up with this shit the worse it will get.

PrettyPurse · 05/10/2019 09:51

My XH had the same attitude about me working PT and all the "day's off" l had.

However when l increased my hours to work some weekends, suddenly he found it ever so hard as he never got a "day off" as he'd have the DC then.

He couldn't understand my view point that if he doesn't get a day off as he has the kids whilst l work.... then l don't when l have them and he's working.

Apparently thats "different" Hmm. I now get LOTS of days off as he has them EOW Grin

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 05/10/2019 09:52

I love a breakfast alone! I tried to in sainsburys yesterday but was too late, so had lunch alone instead. Enjoy!

FuriousVexation · 05/10/2019 10:05

Two words: Toby Carvery.

Louloulovesyou · 05/10/2019 10:28

I love breakfast on my own, it's one of my fave things. Yummy food, latte and a good book/mag/newspaper. Perfect!

Lucytwosie · 05/10/2019 10:29

Just had coffee and cake on my own waiting for DD to come out of dancing class. Loads of people were quite happily on their own Smile

Titsywoo · 05/10/2019 10:34

I'm having breakfast on my own right now! Dd has an extended art class this morning and we're 30 mins from home so I've found a garden centre with a cafe. It's fine. I'm reading and eating and no-one cares! I eat out alone all the time though - doesn't bother me at all.

MrHaroldFry · 05/10/2019 10:49

I used to work in the hospitality industry and mostly LOVED those who are alone with a book. They are quiet 😉, respectful and generally open to suggestions on menu choices and specials.
Oh, and don't ask but rather tell your husband you will be out for a couple of hours.
Go for it.

middlemuddle · 05/10/2019 11:02

Not at all. I'm a single mum but dad has contact often so I do a lot of stuff alone. I prefer it, haha.

Benes · 05/10/2019 11:11

The 'everyday is a day off' comment would see me going for a solo breakfast, lunch and tea.
It's about time he learnt what it's like to take care of children on his own all day.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 05/10/2019 11:15

Your husband thinks everyday is a day off?

In that case don’t just go for breakfast, stay out all bloody day. Go the cinema or shopping or whatever else you fancy.

I’m not joking either. The more women put up with this shit the worse it will get.

This. And what time does he leave for work? Find somewhere to go for a very early morning breakfast (even if it's a 24hr mcdonalds) and leave him to sort your child out in the morning. Back in time for him to leave, he can't complain, it's all time off!

GettingABitDesperateNow · 05/10/2019 11:33

If a day looking after a baby is a 'day off' then that gives you the green light to go away for the entire weekend, clearly! "Enjoy your days off with the baby, darling, bye!"