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how this teacher handled things

35 replies

mintyforfreshsmellingbreath · 04/10/2019 15:20

After school club run by specialist teacher for 6 - 8 year olds, art, 3 weeks in.

I went to pick up dc8 and watched end of lesson through glass door.

Kids were tidying up - collecting pencils and pens and putting in box - they looked a bit tired and were a bit slow and day dreamy. Teacher suddenly emptied box of pencils which had been already been collected - emptied onto floor - and when the kids near him looked at him stupefied he shrugged, and after a moment they continued collected the pens including the emptied ones and putting in box.

Asked dc when he got out what had happened and he said the teacher had said that they were being too slow and so emptied out the pencils. I looked at him as if to say "what?" and he said that that was what had happened.

I don't want to give my views/my AIBU on this yet because I just wanted to know what other people's reactions would be first.

FWIW these are nice kids, can be quite lively but pipe down if told off quickly and generally do what they are told and pay attention.

thanks

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hormonesorDHbeingadick · 04/10/2019 15:21

Definitely time to have a chat with school about this. This is not normal.

peachgreen · 04/10/2019 15:43

Isn't it just a light-hearted way of getting them to get a move on?

Jeezoh · 04/10/2019 15:49

I’d be letting the head teacher know, what a shitty thing to do to young kids

Clangus00 · 04/10/2019 15:50

I don’t see that being an issue?

CSIblonde · 04/10/2019 15:53

I'm an ex teacher. I'd speak to the Head. To me it says he has a very short fuse & also, it's highly inappropriate & overly dramatic. What would he do with a real discipline issue if he can't even hack slow tidying up without resorting to that petty response? Verbal prompt to speed up was all that was needed.

BlingADingDing · 04/10/2019 15:55

Tell the school office manager, that's not how a responsible adult acts

eurochick · 04/10/2019 15:57

If I saw similar in the workplace I'd consider it bullying. It's certainly odd.

SantaIsReal · 04/10/2019 16:14

I would have flipped my sh*t. What a terrible way to act in front of children!! These are young children and because they are moving slower than he'd like, he goes and throws even more pens/pencils on the floor?!

Those who don't think this is an issue, if your children are being slow in picking their things up, do you just dump everything else out?
If a child is eating their food slowly, do we just shovel their food down their throat??? I understand this may seem an exaggeration but its the same concept!

Clangus00 · 04/10/2019 16:16

Wait...who had to pick those pencils up?
The children?
I’d say something to the teacher himself in that case!

Geppili · 04/10/2019 16:18

Awful passive aggression...to children.

SarahTancredi · 04/10/2019 16:20

No that's not on at all. Its after school club on.a friday? Of course they are all a bit tired and slow.

Adults have had it by friday too alot of the time.

That's just down right nasty. They haven't even done anything wrong

Simkin · 04/10/2019 16:23

Also all the pencils will have broken inside!!

NearlyGranny · 04/10/2019 16:24

Sounds like that teacher resents having to run that club.

Nanny0gg · 04/10/2019 16:29

So the job would take even longer?

Idiot. I'd have a word

5zeds · 04/10/2019 16:38

I had to go in and have a “chat” about a teacher who was making ds miserable at school, culminating in telling him he’d used too much soap in the sink washing up and could stay in and pop every bubble in the sink before he was allowed to leave.Shock. For context ds is extremely compliant, anxious, and has severe tics, not in any way rascally or purposefully silly. Sad. It was all sorted out and I honestly think the member of staff was struggling and bullying him, though obviously I have no idea what really happened beyond it resolving for us.

This staff member sounds like they are struggling.

Lindy2 · 04/10/2019 16:59

I'd go and ask the teacher what happened. I'd say I'd seen him empty a box of pencils after the children had collected them and was rather confused as to why he had done that.
It doesn't seem appropriate and not what I would expect in a paid for club that is supposed to be fun. I would give him a chance to explain though and from his response you can decide whether to take it further.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 04/10/2019 17:09

Bit weird, but wouldn’t lose sleep over it myself.

Timandra · 04/10/2019 17:24

I'd be concerned about his ability to control his temper around the children.

Original poster
mintyforfreshsmellingbreath · 04/10/2019 17:27

thanks very much all, I will talk to the head.

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isadoradancing123 · 04/10/2019 18:34

It is not acceptable behaviour

SantaIsReal · 09/10/2019 13:51

@mintyforfreshsmellingbreath did you speak to the head?

mcmen05 · 09/10/2019 14:00

The head will side with the teacher this is what they all do.

My dd is 16 and her Spanish teacher picks on her constantly to I have advised her just to ignore her.
She asked to get moved class. Form teacher said only if she drops the subject.
Head of year has sent her an email as my dd was advised by gp to get teacher to back off as she is stressing her out in Gcse year.
She makes her sit by herself and said last week after the email was sent out are you in a bad mood again. I know teens can be moody but a teacher has no right to comment like this. I am sick to the back teeth of this teacher that I won't even bother going near her on parent teacher day as she talks and talks just constant criticising which I hate. Even she did every bit of work it would be its too small to big to slanted never happy.
My dd wanted to do Spanish A level but has now completely went off the idea and without a language can not attend any top uni in ROI.
If I go into school I'd probably get barred for too many emails,
Emailed last week asked for a meeting and school said they where too busy but rang me. Nothing is ever their fault.

LolaSmiles · 09/10/2019 14:04

It seems a bit weird to me and is hardly going to make an already slow packing away get done any quicker, but it wouldn't be complaining grounds to me.
Weird but not worth complaining about.

Tvstar · 09/10/2019 14:04

Be wary of small children with tall tales! Probably more likely they hadn't listened to instructions about how or where they needed to be put away.
If the teacher es fed up with being there it seems unlikely he would want to prolong it

Poppinjay · 09/10/2019 14:12

Be wary of small children with tall tales!

Be wary, of course, but don't automatically disbelieve children simply because they are children. It's better to ask questions and report what the children have said than simply assume they are wrong.