To stop them going through?

[Dumbledorker]

It would be the last thing I would ever ever want to do but I feel like the only right thing to do would be to stop my daughters 5 and 9 from going through to their dads. My 5 year old just told me her 5 year old stepbrother has "put his finger in my fairy"

I'm numb. They are always saying he swears and hes rude and hits and bites them for the last 2 years. Exh lives with their stepmum, older stepbrother and older step daughter and 5 year old stepbrother.

My 9 year old dd stayed with me for 5 weeks earlier in the year because her dad had been smacking her for weeing.

Now this...

I've told him gently what shes told me.
He said I need to be careful what I'm saying. And that his partner will be at my door if she finds out what I've said about her son.

Please tell me what I should do now...
I have to go do bedtimes so will be back to reply soon.

I was thinking this earlier. Id arrive a bit early at school to possibly intercept. Then take them to a park/your mums/a friends house.

@Dumbledorker make sure you follow their advice not to let him pick up froms school. Contact school asap, explain what has been happening & ENSURE that he is not allowed to pick them up.

The plan to go to your mum's with them is great.

Please try not to feel wary of the SS involvement due to the initial crossed wires. They are very stretched & no doubt some miscommunication went on as they picked up your case. Keep talking to them - they are the people you need on-side to help you protect your children, & keep them away from their dad's at least while this is investigated.

Contact school asap, explain what has been happening & ENSURE that he is not allowed to pick them up.
Legally the school can't do that unless there's an injunction. I have, in the past, stalled and delayed things until mum can get there but I'd advise picking them up earlier before he arrives.

Its worried me with them saying that the police arent following it up even though the police told me it was a crime. What happens if they just decide that its nothing and I have no say. I especially feel less comfortable now that his partner rang me. I wish I hadnt hung up now and heard what she was going to say to weigh up what she is like. I dont get it though, if this was her daughter would she just drop it? I'm still shocked that he didn't take his own daughter seriously and tried to deny that it could have ever have happened. Why wont he believe her and support her ? Will the SS take notice that he has done that?

A child under the age of 10 CANNOT commit a crime. There should be an investigation into where the boy learned this behaviour - or is it just 'doctors & nurses'. The mother's threats are more worrying. If you are concerned about contact you need to go to Family Court and state your concerns

Just wanted to say well done op and well done to your daughter too. I think picking her up early and taking her somewhere else is a good idea. Are you able to ring SS and make sure they've spoken to the right person and have all the details correct?
Do they know about him smacking her?

That's my worry too that obviously there is something going on with this boy that they arent going to get to the bottom of and if there is then is my girls at risk while been there. I have said over and over to exh that kids will be kids and the girls keep constantly coming home upset that they are being bitten and hit by this boy but nothing is done. This still doesn't seem real. I'm just stumped at what on earth the outcome is going to be from this for my girls. I cant imagine them going back into that environment after he has denied that it's happened and god knows what else is going on. My eldest has said the only reason she feels bad about not going is that it would make daddy sad because that's what hes told her. He started having them more often because he complained the CSA was too much but then they would stay at his parents for one of the days so it was no different it just meant they were having one less day with either of us . There is just so much that I have had to keep quiet about rather than confront him because I know that he would turn nasty and make me speechless so I would be crying and not knowing how to respond to his cleverness. He twists everything and when ever my girls say hes done or said something he says they are too sensitive or over reacting. When i heard him say she was confused and had got it wrong about this accusation i felt sick. I've had people not believe me when I have sat and said I have been raped and abused when i was younger and to think he just stood there and told her she was wrong. This is what I want to have the social services to understand and tell me that I'm not being petty. Do I sound like I'm overreacting please tell me if I do.

You are not overreacting

Not over reacting. Youre keeping your girls safe.