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Dog being abused- What to do???

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Pamrigby · 30/09/2019 18:27

Writing anonymously, no names, pronouns etc as this is about immediate family.

I know there are many animal lovers/dog owners on here so thought I'd seek some advice needed quite urgently.
I live with family, one of them has a dog (seen as the family dog but owner makes it very clear that it is his dog!)
Owner has been very neglectful and abusive to dog over the years- I have tried to step in on a number of occasions and been told to move out of the way, mind my business etc etc. I told senior family member (SF) in confidence that if this doesn't stop I will report to nspca and have dog taken away for dogs own good.
SF said you cant do that, your bringing trouble to our doorstep and to your own family. I left it alone. It has continued. Dog is in bad state, underweight, taken for walks very rarely, allowed to poo/wee all over front garden, goes toilet in house as not taken out. Today dog defecate in house and all over garden, owner punches him, kicks him and berates him (outside might I add) dog is howling, shaking. I am in my room which faces front garden and see it happen. I cant go downstairs and confront him because he has a temper and will make huge scene in front of people and I dont want to draw attention to the situation. Looked up nspca to report but have to give name, number etc and possibly appear in court. I can not make it known that it is me reporting it, all hell will break loose if found out. Please advise. I have to step out now which is why I've written this way, may have left out important info, will come back to page when I am free again.

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CoolCarrie · 02/10/2019 20:21

A week is too long, that poor dog suffered enough, please offer to take the dog for a walk and go to the nearest dog and cat rescue, and hand it over, or go to the nearest vet and ask their advice, please do this soon, not in a week! Tell the bastard who is abusing this poor dog that the animal ran away if you have to

CoolCarrie · 02/10/2019 20:24

I took a puppy from a homeless guy who hadn’t been taking care of the wee dog over a period of a few weeks, I gave him some money to hand the wee mite over to me. My neighbour took the pup and he grew up to be a lovely dog. Please act soon.

CSIblonde · 02/10/2019 20:25

You really need to report this now. How much more suffering is it going to take, he's going to kill it via no food & violence. And why have you 'spent a fortune' on your bedroom to stay in such an abusive home: that can't be good for your own safety. That money could have got you a house share with nice people or a little studio flat. Is the dog microchipped? If not I'd take him to the RSPCA or nearest dog rescue & say hes a stray you found wandering. And, people do adopt older dogs by the way.

Dodoluded · 02/10/2019 20:29

A week is way to long. Take the dog to the vets yourself if possible and explain to the vet what is happening and that you won’t be taking the dog home. Tell SF that it was that or you reported them to the police.

Sohololopopo · 02/10/2019 20:43

I can not believe this

BrokenWing · 02/10/2019 21:00

You are going to sit back and while you procrastinate an elderly dog will be abused for another week? If that dog is being punched chance are the poor thing has fractured bones and is in horrendous pain constantly.

Get a hold of yourself and do what need done. Now.

TanyaChix · 02/10/2019 21:12

I feel sick. I have two dogs. You MUST report this right now. If it were me, I’d arrange for a time for the dog to ‘escape’ from the house and have a friend take it away. I wouldn’t mess about waiting for a week or his consent to give up the animal. I’d prevent that dog from being punched a single more time.

The utter piece of shit doing this makes me fucking rage.

Sayhellotothethings · 02/10/2019 21:20

Report it. Please. This poor dog.
Either that or take it to the RSPCA yourself and give anonymous info, and claim to SF that the dog got out and ran away.

Also I call bullshit on

Took to vet once, dog was scared of injection so went to bite vet (not a violent dog) so vet gave injection to put down, owner protested & vet stopped, dog was very groggy but what was given of injection wore off. Owner said wont go through that again or ever give dog up. Vet was reported.

A vet cannot just put a dog down without the owners say so, or a destruction order from court. Likely they were trying to sedate the dog to give it the injection. An abusive owner probably thought hmm more money let's pass on the injection all together, and fed some BS story.

JustLikeJasper · 02/10/2019 21:42

@Pamrigby message me where the dog is and i will report it no way could i leave it a week..

CornishCreation · 02/10/2019 22:06

Can you move out and stay with a friend while you report the dog and build a new life away from this family, or rent a small flat as you say you work f/t and take the dog too and cut ties with the family?

CornishCreation · 02/10/2019 22:08

Where do you live? I can give the dog a loving home.

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Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 22:11

Yes, reading it back sedation does seem more likely.

I appreciate offers of reporting but not comfortable with giving out my personal info. If I knew there was a place I could take dog and they would take it or someone I knew who would take him there and then I'd do it tomorrow but most of these places have very long waiting lists.
I have also tried calling vets/dog homes in the past, told them the situation and been absolutely berated for it.

Dog will not be abused while the week goes on, I am taking care of it as much as possible until then.

The small 'fortune' I spent on room is not enough to get me a new place/room share. Come on. As I mentioned if I was able to I'd have moved out already.

Yes dog is microchipped

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Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 22:12

CornishCreation I live in London

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Paddingtonthebear · 02/10/2019 22:13

Frankly I am concerned that dog will be dead in a week.

I am surprised neighbours haven’t called the police, I would

Paddingtonthebear · 02/10/2019 22:14

And I mean I would call the police on anyone standing by and allowing the dog to be abused. Absolutely disgusting.

Mummoomoocow · 02/10/2019 22:14

This is why I’m NC with my cunting parents. I was told if I called the rspca then I wouldn’t be allowed back. 🤷‍♀️ Couldn’t have given a bigger shit tbh. Only regret was never being able to find out about the dog afterwards.

Dodoluded · 02/10/2019 22:17

You are complicit in the abuse. Take the dog to the vets please and let the vets call the RSPCA.

MrsP2015 · 02/10/2019 22:24

I'm not a dog lover at all, in fact I can't stand some but this behaviour is totally unacceptable and it needs to stop before the poor dog is killed.

God forbid but if there is a next time video it and report it again and again this poor poor dog needs saving.

You are able to save this dog.
You shouldn't ha asking should you, you should be asking HOW to and it needs doing ASAP.

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Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 22:41

I ask what to do because what I have done in past has helped not one bit. I understand if you're on outside looking in it seems as if I have a part in it but no one knows my home life or what consequences certain actions may bring.
I have stepped in on numerous occasions whilst dog being harmed, taken to vet to hand in but they wouldn't take it, left gate open (before microchip) so dog can run away & hopefully be found by nice family/vet- would just come back. Implored SF to take charge and sort situation, posted ads on gumtree etc, called helplines only to be shouted at, called rescue homes and met with long waiting lists, asked family members to take dog in, they wont

What else is there for me to do?

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Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 22:44

RSPCA has been here twice, 2nd time on follow up and not taken any action.

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IvysMum12 · 02/10/2019 22:56

Please do not advertise on Gumtree. In all likelihood this poor creature would be passed on as bait for fighting dogs.
If you're in London, why don't you contact Battersea Dogs Home?
I appreciate you're doing your best, but if it was me, these abusers wouldn't be breathing by now. Isn't there anyone else in the house, or a sympathetic friend who could help?

Chocolate50 · 02/10/2019 23:04

OP you said the owner is thinking of putting him down rather than rehoming as he is 11 - that isn't old & the dog deserves a good home. This owner needs putting down uf anyone
You can't leave the dog to suffer because if you do, it makes you compliant in the crime. It is illegal, call a local rehoming group for advice - they will guide you

Chocolate50 · 02/10/2019 23:06

Op where are you in the country?

Original poster
Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 23:10

**Chocolate50 I am in north London
I have called rehoming groups many times only to be told there are waiting lists.

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Chocolate50 · 02/10/2019 23:10

Is there anyone else that can report? You should be able to do this anonymously OP but give a false name etc if you are scared of repercussions

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