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Dog being abused- What to do???

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Pamrigby · 30/09/2019 18:27

Writing anonymously, no names, pronouns etc as this is about immediate family.

I know there are many animal lovers/dog owners on here so thought I'd seek some advice needed quite urgently.
I live with family, one of them has a dog (seen as the family dog but owner makes it very clear that it is his dog!)
Owner has been very neglectful and abusive to dog over the years- I have tried to step in on a number of occasions and been told to move out of the way, mind my business etc etc. I told senior family member (SF) in confidence that if this doesn't stop I will report to nspca and have dog taken away for dogs own good.
SF said you cant do that, your bringing trouble to our doorstep and to your own family. I left it alone. It has continued. Dog is in bad state, underweight, taken for walks very rarely, allowed to poo/wee all over front garden, goes toilet in house as not taken out. Today dog defecate in house and all over garden, owner punches him, kicks him and berates him (outside might I add) dog is howling, shaking. I am in my room which faces front garden and see it happen. I cant go downstairs and confront him because he has a temper and will make huge scene in front of people and I dont want to draw attention to the situation. Looked up nspca to report but have to give name, number etc and possibly appear in court. I can not make it known that it is me reporting it, all hell will break loose if found out. Please advise. I have to step out now which is why I've written this way, may have left out important info, will come back to page when I am free again.

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Pamrigby · 30/09/2019 20:27

Thanks for the responses everyone. I know the right thing to do is report but home situation is extremely difficult at times. I just spoke to SF again and they said maybe he just needs to be put down- he is coming up in age now (11) so less likely that he will be rehomed.

Owner not abusive to me but has been to others. Very short tempered, goes into rage, punches things etc

I am in UK

Nspca has been called before (neighbour) for underweight dog, they came around checked living conditions, food etc said to fix it and that was it. I wasn't home at the time.

Owner will not surrender dog. Took to vet once, dog was scared of injection so went to bite vet (not a violent dog) so vet gave injection to put down, owner protested & vet stopped, dog was very groggy but what was given of injection wore off. Owner said wont go through that again or ever give dog up. Vet was reported.

Dog is registered to owner. Has taken himself for a walk before & been picked up, checked for tag and brought back.

A few years back I was told by an animal helpline that if you hand dog in to any vets they are obligated to take them. I took dog but they said they only deal with cats so brought back home.

I feed dog, give love etc when home but work very long hours. Off this week which is why I was even home to witness today's abuse. I can not walk dog as he is very unruly on the road (not violent) & I can't handle it, he pulls a lot, saw owner once on walk, ran towards owner with me running behind until I lost grip on lead and darted into the road and was knocked over. Only good on road with owner

If I had the funds to leave I would have done ages ago. Home life draining. Also help out here so can't leave anyway, will burden SF. Instead I have spent a small fortune to redecorate bedroom into sanctuary. Will be worth the money once it's done.

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chugga · 30/09/2019 20:45

@Pamrigby sorry to say OP but you NEED to report this, if you don't your as bad as the person who's doing this to the poor thing. From what your saying your in a situation where you are living with the people who are doing this. Why aren't you moving out to get away from this abuse and taking the dog with you? You can also report this anonymously so get it done, don't sit back and let this abuse carry on any longer.

princessTiasmum · 30/09/2019 20:54

OMG please report what is happening to that poor dog
A relation of mine was abusing his dog,i reported it and dog has a lovely home now, and it wasn't even as bad as your poor dogs sitution

WiddlinDiddlin · 30/09/2019 21:08

Sorry, the dog went to the vet for a routine injection, was scared and snapped at the vet so the vet went to euthanise THERE AND THEN?

Or is it more likely the vet tried to sedate?

Not the point I realise, but that sounds extremely unlikely!

WiddlinDiddlin · 30/09/2019 21:11

Also, no, no vets are obligated to take a dog you've found, or just are handing in. Never have been, never will be.

Vets ARE obliged to treat wild animals, they may treat by euthanising however, they are under no obligation to save life, just to end suffering.

Report to the RSPCA again, they should have previous records that state dog was underweight, advice was given, dog is still underweight therefore either advice was not followed OR dog is ill and this is not being treated.

NoTheresa · 30/09/2019 21:16

Please please do not give up, OP. Help the dog. This is heartbreaking.

floffel · 30/09/2019 21:17

Please do the right thing right now for that poor dog

www.peta.org/about-peta/contact-peta/report-cruelty/

Teacakeandalatte · 30/09/2019 21:24

Go back to SF and insist you will report if they do not make owner rehome the dog. If they say again about bringing trouble to your door then say you feel the cruelty to the dog means you would be obligated to do so no matter how much trouble it causes, whereas rehoming the dog would not cause any trouble and be much easier for the owner as they wouldn't have to care for the dog which they clearly aren't coping with. Rather than putting the dog down at least try to rehome it first, many dog rescues would take him in.

ilikemethewayiam · 30/09/2019 21:38

What a vile family! They are happy to see an animal suffer than upset the apple cart! Never mind decorating your bedroom. Move out and report the c*nt!

FieldsOf · 30/09/2019 21:46
Confused
Countryescape · 30/09/2019 22:14

Take the dog to the spca and report him.

CampfireZen · 30/09/2019 22:43

Bumping.

Any MNers with knowledge of how this poor dog can be helped?

Cherrysoup · 30/09/2019 22:48

Is the dog chipped? If not, drive him to a rescue 3 towns away and say you just found him on the road. Please, please, get him away from his horrible owner.

Rosielily · 01/10/2019 05:52

Where do you live, is there a local dog shelter?

What hold has SF got over you and your other family members that none of you seem able to stand up to this abuser. Why are you all so scared of him/her.

BBC4 · 01/10/2019 07:05

OP, could you get a friend/sibling/relative to report anonymously?

BBC4 · 01/10/2019 07:10

OP, could you PM me the postcode of the area or the something so I can report to RSPCA?

AnnieMall · 01/10/2019 07:39

The RSPCA are pretty useless to be honest and you would be much better off contacting a local dog rescue centre. They would come and pick the dog up and be understanding of the situation to keep you anonymous. Maybe you could arrange for them to come when he is not there and leave gate open? Then go out yourself and deny any knowledge? There are some great FB rescue groups who arrange stuff like this all the time, some even offer money to the owner and ask them to hand dog over. My only concern would be this relative starting the cycle of abuse again with a new pet. Please help the dog, it has suffered enough.

OmniversalsTapdancingTadpole · 01/10/2019 07:47

Take the dog to the rspca and report him.

This ^

Paisley19 · 01/10/2019 07:52

Report it immediately! If you don't, that dog will suffer for the rest of its life. Save it, PLEASE!!

Windydaysuponus · 01/10/2019 07:52

I reported a ddog being abused 3 weeks ago. Police haven't even been on touch. Rspca have power to remove.. Please look for somewhere else to live and take ddog with you.
No way could I live with such a monster.

Sux2buthen · 01/10/2019 07:56

OP you sound absolutely broken down. I'm worried for both of you.

FieldsOf · 01/10/2019 13:09

OP are you coming back? PP has offered to report on your behalf, would this work?

k1233 · 01/10/2019 13:47

So the dog has endured this treatment for 11 years?

floffel · 02/10/2019 19:31

Did you report OP?

Pamrigby · 02/10/2019 20:12

I have told SF that if they don't do something about it I will be forced to report it. Given them a week. I have numbers/evidence at the ready

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