Would it bother you if your MIL said this about your DP?

[notanotherone28]

Partner is ill in hospital. He's not close with his mum, she never really bothers with him and doesn't have a close relationship with him but put on her Facebook status earlier "going seeing my (DP's name) later" with 3 love hearts.

Am I being a complete freak here? Or AIBU to feel uncomfortable?

It wouldn't bother me because Facebook posts like that are solely to garner attention/sympathy for people too ridiculous to function without likes.

Ignore it and let her milk the sympathy tree.

I hope he's home and well soon, though.

Why does it make you feel uncomfortable? That is a bit odd.
She's obviously doing a bit of attention seeking, but I don't think I could get het up about it if I was in your position.
I hope your partner is better soon.

She put this on Facebook . You know that people put "what they want others to see" rather than what they actually think. She wants her friends to think she is a loving mother. No need for you to feel uncomfortable or to think you are a freak. Just ignore what she said .

It's just annoying me because he's a very private person and she's putting all his business all over her Facebook. He's very ill and she's not taking anything seriously, she's only bothered about updating her status Facebook and checking into the hospital whenever she visits.

So is she not going to the hospital? I can't tell what the issue is unless she's just lied about going?

This is why it's known as 'Fakebook'.

Just ignore.

Hope your DH is much better soon.

@CarWreck I just find it strange she's making out to be this wonderful loving mother when in reality; she isn't.

I think a huge proportion of people on Facebook to the exact same thing. It's Fakebook, essentially.

There is lots of that on Fakebook.
Tell him to ask her not to share his personal information online.
I'd be raging if someone posted my personal business online. I am not on FB thank fook.

Whenever I say anything to him about her, he gets so defensive. He won't have a bad word said about her but the problem is, I can see straight the fakeness. It's very frustrating.

Ummm she’s his mum. YABU. Also she’s hardly ‘putting his business all over facebook’ - she simply said she was going to visit her son?!

@Icantthinkofanewname87 no, she has given details of his condition. When we were sat in ambulance triage she checked into Facebook straight away.

Stop sharing details with her, she can't post shite all over FB that way

I'd personally block and ignore, she's looking for cooing messages and I don't have time for attention seeking tripe on SM

They're not estranged, but they rarely speak to each other. It's not a close relationship.

She's doing it for attention but it's not really a massive issue and I'm not sure why it makes you feel uncomfortable.8

So is she checking in but not even visiting? Or she is visiting? If she is YABU. That's her son. Just because they're not close doesn't mean she can't be a bit concerned about someone she gave birth to...

she may be a dramallama honking on facebook for likes etc.

If your DH is well enough it's up to him to ask her to stop putting his personal details up. If he isn't. leave well alone, but ask the hospital staff not to divulge further details of his condition.

Does he like seeing her? do her visits help him? if not, you can ask staff not to let her visit.

So she is going to visit him, you just don't think she should put on facebook that she's visiting him?

95% of fb posts are exactly the same. I don't think this one is a particular problem.
Any small drama in someone's life (hers) is facebook fodder.

You have said your partner is very ill. Although you don't consider them to be close, it may be that him being very ill has made her realise how much he means to her.

I personally wouldn't put private stuff in the public domain (I don't use FB) but most people do on FB. I don't see this as her "making out to be this wonderful loving mother when in reality; she isn't."

"He won't have a bad word said about her but the problem is, I can see straight the fakeness. It's very frustrating."
He loves his DM and you don't like her. Just because you think she is fake doesn't mean she is. She may well be very concerned about her son. If he doesn't want to hear you say anything bad about his DM then keep your thoughts to yourself.

Maybe his DM never really bothers with him because she senses your feelings towards her. Why not try and form a better relationship with her so that she does bother with him more?

Send her a pm reminding her how private he is and how you are uncomfortable with her posting his condition.

Some people put stuff like this on FB because they need validation. It needn’t affect you in any way. Just ignore and live your life your way. I hope your DP makes a good recovery.

I'm so sorry you're going through this with your DP, it sounds really stressful. Your mother sounds like a drama queen who is using your DP's situation to get sympathy. However, I suspect you have more important and immediate worries than this. Ignore it, try to put it to the back of your mind, and focus on the stuff that matters.

My friend has recently blocked her mother on Facebook - but I (and a lot of her friends) used to cringe when her mother made loving comments on Facebook. We all knew just how abusive this woman had been to my friend.
Those who are close to you/your husband will not be taken in - neither will those who really know your MIL. Everyone else is probably bored.

I agree it’s weird. I experienced the same- last week on the anniversary of my DMs death my DB plastered FB with trite Shite about her, lapping up sympathy.

I told him 10 days ago his DF has been blue lighted to hospital, he has not visited, he has not called.

People are strange