To elope?

[JorisBonson]

Getting married in March. It's all doing my head in and all I want is for me and DP to run off and get it over and done with.

Both mother's are making things difficult and about them (his in particular). My best friend just got married and her day was very similar to mine. There is a lot of in fighting in our families and our small wedding and small lunch will be a nightmare with everyone round a table.

This is the second time around for me and DP does not court attention. I'm dreading the thought of our wedding day.

Most of our family would eventually get over it I think, apart from my father. He's very traditional and I think this would really hurt him.

I just don't know what to do.

You're an adult, so make your own decision like one. You are not responsible for appeasing everyone else. This is your marriage, not theirs, and I highly recommended you elope to avoid all of this ridiculous drama. My husband and I did and I consider it to be one of the best decisions I've ever made. Stop caring what other people want and do what YOU want. They don't have to like it.

We did in June. Had two witnesses from Mumsnet and the celebrant . Didn't tell anyone until that evening. It was amazing and perfect. 2nd time for both of us. We wanted a marraige for us and not a party for other people.

Do it. And have fun!

Do it. You're getting married because you want to spend the rest of your lives together I imagine?

Everyone will get over you eloping in time but what might always irk you is that your wedding day was tense.

We all know that a wedding day is a minute part of a marriage but to the bride and groom it's a day to look back on fondly so make sure you do what is right for you both.

I hope you have a lovely day whatever you do

You're getting married because you want to spend the rest of your lives together I imagine?

More than anything!

I think this is the perfect way to do it and what me and DP plan to do eventually.

MIL did it not long ago and sent everyone a text after the ceremony.

I think my family would be upset but I don't want to waste 1000s of £s on one day just to show DP how much I love him. Weddings are so stressful and i much prefer the sound off it. No stress, no arguing.

I wanted to go to Gretna Green anyway to get married but some people moaned about the distance (despite the fact my parents live in Scotland). Think I will have a chat with DP about just buggering off one weekend up there.

Yes do it! We went to gretna green. Best thing. Just us and the kids. No one to meddle.
Just go and enjoy it, and enjoy seeing their fucked off faces when you get home

If I ever get married I think I would get this elopement package, I think you can get married on the beach and stay in a cottage just the two of you

www.weeweddings.co.uk/about-wee-weddings/

We also eloped as couldn’t face the drama

Lovey peaceful day

Took 3 phone calls, booked a room, booked the celebrant and the photographer

Brought a dress and went

@JorisBonson

More than anything Then do what will make you both happy. Elope. Go on...I dare you

I couldn’t be arsed with drama so eloped and let everyone know afterwards. Everyone was really happy and supportive, including my traditional, religious parents.

Go for it!
Too many times have I heard about the cost being too much and the family dramas.
It’s your and your partner’s day.
You said that you don’t want the drama. Your father will understand when you sit him down to discuss it afterwards. Father’s generally want what is best for their daughters.
This is the best way.
Best wishes OP!

Honestly? I’d use it as a chance to set some boundaries. Your wedding. They don’t get to be “difficult” and I would happily hang up on or uninvite anyone who was making me truly miserable.

We eloped a very time ago and it was the best decision for us.
Our money,our wedding,our choice.

Talk to your Dad, tell him you just want to quietly get married. Then do it. Some people want A Wedding, other people just want to be married.

JorisBonson
Not sure of my facts so obviously check but i don't think you can just turn up at GG and get married nowadays

Ooh i love this post! This is what we want to do but I'm struggling with cost because we really have little money!! @GreenTulips can you tell me more about what you did please :)

Good luck Op do what makes you happy forget everyone else xx

@cleanasawhistle can you tell me more too please!! Op sorry I'm now hijacking but it's hard because when you want to do this you can't talk to anyone about it

Eloping was the best thing for us. And so much cheaper!

We also married at Gretna

They have an information pack. They have different rooms, we used the Anvil room. Some have cameras and you get an sign on so family can witness the wedding from home.
We called and booked a room, sent in the paperwork, birth certificates etc and they have us a list of local celebrates.

There is also a list of local florist who delivered to the room and were waiting for me.

Photographer did a package of 10 photos plus his time for about £60

Total wedding cost excluding DH suit was £500. It included my dress brought at a closing down sale.

We had lunch in the Gretna hotel.

I would recommend it and everyone for over it quite quickly.

We eloped to avoid drama.
Few hurt feelings afterwards, but still the best out of the 2 options.

I'd definitely do it.

Go for it. Do what makes you happy and skip the drama!

@GreyGardens88 that was where I had my elopement. Do it m, google wee wedding CREAR it was the most amazing day and the piper and photographer act as witnesses if you go just the two of you. The cottage and beach are spectacular.

I wish I eloped , would have saved a lot of stress .