AIBU to ask why some people fail to make changes in their lives even when they know that those changes are necessary?

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I'm wondering why so many of us are unable to make the changes that we need to make in our lives, and what exactly differentiates those who are able to implement those changes from those who are not?

Is it a lack of willpower? Inertia? Habit? Resistance to change? Fear? Lack of motivation? Something else?

Why do people continue to eat crap even when they know what constitutes good nutrition? Why do people fail to exercise regularly when they know it's good for them? Why don't people smoke or drink too much when they are fully aware of the health risks? Why do they fail to tidy up their messy houses, even when the chaos is getting them down?

I am not judging anyone btw. I am very guilty of this kind of behaviour myself, and I guess that's why I'm asking the question? What is it that stops so many people from making the changes that they know they need to make? Why do some people not seem to struggle against those obstacles? And how can those of us who do struggle get past whatever it is that is stopping us?

Has anyone ever struggled to make changes but suddenly found a way to make it happen? If so, I'd love to know what changed for you in order to make this happen.

Wow - that makes a huge amount of sense to me, @burblife - thank you! I have a tendency to set myself harder targets then beat myself up when I fail - making small changes does sound achievable.

You're welcome @SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I have been (and still am to a certain extent) guilty of setting my expectations of myself too high then feeling terrible when I can't meet them. I think having children really made me reevaluate what I can realistically get done in a day.

My first tiny habit change was to always take my makeup off before bed. It's so small but I feel better for doing it consistently. It's become part of routine now so I don't even think twice about it.

@BertieBotts Thank you for your post above- just so interesting and informative.

My 18yo DD has ADHD and I sometimes wonder if I also have it. Your post really resonated with me. I’m going to research all the things you’ve mentioned.