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To be fucked off with friends re Glastonbury Tickets

156 replies

PhillliPhillli · 28/09/2019 10:00

The last two years I have been lucky enough to get tickets in the main sale for myself and a few friends.

They all want to come again next year (ticket sale next week). Not one of them can be arsed with helping to get tickets. Ticket sale is “too early”, “I wouldn’t be any good at trying”, “oh I’ll just leave it up to you”. One of them has just text and asked if I can add her other mate to our group (so now I’m trying to 6 instead of 5.

Frankly I want to just say we didn’t get any tickets and just try for one myself. I’ve got no problem going alone and I’m sick of the whole thing falling on me. They’re happy to enjoy the festival but don’t want to do any of the actual work of getting there!

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Fluffiest · 28/09/2019 10:02

No, YANBU to be annoyed. Unless your friends make up for it by helping with the other prep: travel, food planning etc.. Then I would just do what suits you.

ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 28/09/2019 10:03

Not unreasonable at all. But if you want to be honest you could say "isn't it someone else's turn to organise this year, I've done it too many times now". And just leave them hanging, see what they reply. It'll tell you straight away whether you're being used or not.

HangryCaterpillar · 28/09/2019 10:05

YANBU, Glastonbury ticket sale is the most stressful time of the year!!

MamaGee09 · 28/09/2019 10:06

By the Sound of it you Have been happy enough to get the tickets the last couple of years, so why change now. You know the format of buying the tickets and are familiar with the website, so I think you are being unreasonable.

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 28/09/2019 10:08

I think one of your friends has just found this thread OP 😂

Brakebackcyclebot · 28/09/2019 10:10

What are your options?

  1. buy tickets & inwardly seethe
  2. buy tickets & say you are doing it for the last time this year
  3. Say you have bought tickets for the last x years and it is someone else's turn now. Leave it & see what happens, accept you nay not be going.
  4. Say you have bought tickets for the last x years and it is someone else's turn now. If no-one steps up just buy one for yourself.

You might think of other options. Choose one, do it & stick to it

MyNewBearTotoro · 28/09/2019 10:13

Is buying tickets for 6 harder than buying tickets for 1? I don’t know the protocol - will it mean you have to try 6 times to get 6 tickets or can you just put it how many you want?

If getting tickets for the whole group is as easy as getting them just for yourself I think you are being a bit unreasonable, if you’re getting them for yourself anyway then it makes sense to buy for the group rather than having everybody trying to get 1 or 2 at the same time.

If you can only buy tickets individually/ in pairs and buying for 6 takes a lot longer then you are definitely not being unreasonable and I would just say sorry but you will only be buying for yourself this year.

Rivergreen · 28/09/2019 10:15

I'd do as pp said and say "isn't it someone else's turn this year?" And leave it there. But make sure you get your ticket sorted for you this year regardless. If someone steps up to the plate and gets 6, you'll easily be able to find someone who wants it. And if not, at least you're still going!

Later down the line, when they found out you have a ticket (and they don't), you can be all breezy like "yeah, I was so lucky, x from work had a spare". Unless you want to tell them the truth and deal with the fallout! But i'd be tempted to do the former and then just back off from organising stuff with / for them again.

Also to a pp who suggests that you're being unreasonable because you've done it before and know the website... Seriously?!

KUGA · 28/09/2019 10:15

YANBU.
Take it in turn as of now.

Titsywoo · 28/09/2019 10:15

Personally I tell them that everyone should get up and trying buying them then you have a better chance. Get yourselves on a conference call so when one person gets tickets the others can stop trying.

Rivergreen · 28/09/2019 10:16

And also, it's not the actual buying the tickets is it, it's all the associated "wifework" that you're friends just expect you to do for them. That's what would piss me off!

ScruffGin · 28/09/2019 10:17

They're shouldn't even be taking turns, you all should be trying, the more people that try the better chance you have of getting tickets, there's 6 of us going (hopefully), and we're all trying! YADNBU, go on your own lol

welshweasel · 28/09/2019 10:19

Anyone who has been through the stress of getting Glastonbury tickets will know YANBU! Unwritten rules are that you all try for each other, on as many devices as you have available to you. All registration numbers written out and ready to go and credit card at the ready. We will be abroad this year but will still be trying for our tickets and those of our friends.

TokyoSushi · 28/09/2019 10:20

Yep, they are cheeky fuckers, and lazy, I say this wholeheartedly because I too am 'the organiser' and everybody else just comes along for the lovely ride, it's very irritating indeed!

However, if the danger is that you won't end up going if you don't get the tickets, I would, but absolutely insist that they do ALL of the other planning.

AJPTaylor · 28/09/2019 10:22

Be up front. Say you are only getting a ticket for yourself this year. Anyone who wants to come needs to do the same.

EmAreSea · 28/09/2019 10:30

Bollocks to that, getting Glastonbury tickets is a team effort!

theunknownknown · 28/09/2019 10:30

what organising is there in putting six tickets in your 'basket' instead of one - if they are trusted friends and you are not having to chase them down for the money then I just can't see the problem tbh
bit of a first world problem really

RedHelenB · 28/09/2019 10:32

Is there another job they could do instead though to pull their weight. If youd prefer to go alone just say so. If it's better with their company maybe you just suck it up.

Straycatstrut · 28/09/2019 10:32

Don't say "yes" to anything, say "If I can" and just get your own and if they moan you didn't get them one next year say you never said you were this time, and you "had a lot going on" etc.. I mean don't we all anyway!

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 28/09/2019 10:36

When we've done this, everyone has tried to log on and we've had a WhatsApp group to update on progress. Your chances aren't good if you're the only one trying to access.

Your friends need to get out of bed!

Straycatstrut · 28/09/2019 10:37

@theunknownknown

I think it's the blantant laziness and expectation on the OP to sort it all out. I used to get tickets to a big football derby for just me & ex and that was so stressful having to wait for the second they were released- website loading and crashing. So if it's anything like that it's not fair to leave it up to one person.

Do they all pay up front OP or just expect you to have it all in your account?

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 28/09/2019 10:39

36 minutes the sale was in 2019. Most people (understatement) got nowhere near being able to buy.

www.theguardian.com/music/2018/oct/07/glastonbury-tickets-2019-sell-out-in-half-an-hour

No you don't have to pay in full upfront so that's something

Original poster
PhillliPhillli · 28/09/2019 10:42

Should have explained better, getting Glasto tickets is like winning the ticket lottery!

As other posters said, most groups plan it like a military operation with everyone trying on multiple devices. In our group it’s just me!

No way I’m missing out and leaving it to one of them!

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PhillliPhillli · 28/09/2019 10:43

I pay all the deposits in one go (so £300) this year and they pay the £50 over if we get tickets

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ChasingRainbows19 · 28/09/2019 10:44

Yeah my friends who go, they all get up and they all try. It's hard and stressful so don't see why only one person should be responsible to be honest.

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