To scream “because nobody is fucking interested” the next time someone asks why I’m single

[Becausemarmite]

Five years of being single. 3 of them happy. 2 quite bloody lonely. The last 6 months really lonely.

I’m so sick of people asking me why I’m still single. How do you answer “well because nobody is interested?!”

I’m not hideously ugly, I have a good job, provide for myself, confident, no weird sexual kinks . But I am a single mum with quite a few kids and that’s fine, I understand why the majority of men don’t want to get involved with that.

But you’d think OTHER people would also understand and stop asking so I have to mumble some shitty excuse about “not looking at the moment” or “oh I’m happy alone”

AIBU to literally fix them with a stare and just say “because I’m not an attractive prospect tbh”, make them feel awkward for a change

I've been putting up with the "You must be a lesbian" type comments since I was 13 or 14. In those days idiot boys at school would say you were a lesbian if you didn't want to go out with them. This has continued for nearly 30 years. I've had this from men I have turned down for sex.
Why on earth do they think you must be a lesbian because you don't want to have sex with them? Because they are some amazing sex God that every straight woman wants to fall into their arms??

Lately I've had people saying "You could try being a lesbian". "What about looking for a woman? Maybe you're a lesbian".
WTF?? Because I'm single and not showing any interest in finding a man at the moment I should "try" being a lesbian. How ignorant! You can't "try" being a lesbian. The orientation is either there or it isn't - and I know many people's sexuality can be fluid and changes with time.
I'm not a lesbian and I'm not bisexual. I've never experienced any sexual attraction towards a woman so no I'm not going to "try" being a lesbian or start dating women.

Tell them that research shows married men are happier and healthier than single men but it's the opposite for women.

Many have tried to date me - all have failed.

Ask them who which friend of theirs they would recommend.

Yep I get this. 4 yrs since my DS ex and I split. Had very short term boyfriends or flings, a number of dates. Nobody that has managed to last long enough or been worthy enough to introduce to my child. I've lost weight, don't feel Im that ugly
But I get....

Any dates lately?
Are you seeing anyone?
Still single?
Any prospects?
Have you been online recently?
Been on Tinder, POF, match, etc

My own child has been telling me for a while now that I need to start dating....he is 9!

I used to say "just lucky I guess".

I was once told by an older male colleague 'when you meet someone and start your life..'

At the time I was 38, degree and two masters under my belt, established career, own home and had traveled the world (not a boast at all but just to illustrate by point) but apparently hadn't 'started my life wtf??

I used to get this all the time when I was single. It’s so tiresome, not to mention rude AF. Now I’m married and child free (happily and by choice) I get the ‘why don’t you want kids’ question constantly. Some people have no self awareness. I am not going to have kids but I imagine if I did, the next nosey bastard parker question would be ‘so when are you going to have another child’. Ignorant, thoughtless people are very, very draining

I was friends with a woman whom everytime I contacted every few months she would ask "have you got a boyfriend yet?" as if I hadn't finished a race or wasn't complete without a man. She can't and won't do anything without her partners approval, not even a night out. I know who I'd rather be. Fuck them OP x

I like vangoghs response and it is one I will use if ever asked again about being single. I decided that the people who comment are generally very jealous that you have managed to create reasonable success on your own.
I realised several years ago, after many years of thinking I wanted a man and spending a lot of time looking for one, that I wasn't actually that bothered as I was actually quite content with my achievements both personally and professionally and that'd it would have to be someone pretty damn awesome to convince me to share all that.
As it happens I do share my life now with someone pretty damn awesome, my child (adopted).

When I was single I joined a dating website and every other message was “so why you single then?”. Ridiculous question.

I've been single 11 years and I'm never asked why. I sometimes wonder what people are when they look at me.

@Happysummer2020 how incredibly belittling of him to say that. Quite shocking. how did you reply? Please say you drop kicked him.