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Men and IG

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KannaS · 27/09/2019 16:58

Ok what is it with guys following and liking lots of random girls' pictures? Even in a relationship? For me it's just downright disresectful! How would they like it if we liked and followed lots of buff men with six packs?! Why can not just, oggle, and scroll away?

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Shoxfordian · 27/09/2019 17:11

I like good looking men on Instagram, I don't see the issue as long as he's not messaging other women or trying to meet them

Duchessgummybuns · 27/09/2019 17:19

Creepers gonna creep 🤷‍♀️

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KannaS · 27/09/2019 17:20

We don't know that...

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KannaS · 27/09/2019 17:21

How do you be ok with it? Because I believe a good percentage of guys do it.

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Shoxfordian · 27/09/2019 17:33

Are you ok with him wanking?
I don't rely on my dh for all my sexual thoughts or fantasies, I use porn - usually written on literotica, and not every sexual thought I have is about him. Equally not every sexual thought he has is about me.
He's still the only man I have sex with, I trust that I'm the only woman he has sex with. It's all about trust and feeling secure in yourself op.

thecatinthetwat · 27/09/2019 17:38

Sounds a bit creepy to me.

How would they like it if we liked and followed lots of buff men with six packs?!

No idea - try it! And report back Grin

Bloomburger · 27/09/2019 17:40

Is this a young persons thing?

WorraLiberty · 27/09/2019 17:41

How would they like it if we liked and followed lots of buff men with six packs?!

How do you know women don't? Confused

Ohbuggerlugs · 27/09/2019 17:44

Weird. Humiliating. Especially if they’re near your friendship group... it is talked about. There is no room for that shit in a relationship I choose to be in. They agree or fuck off,

Tilltheendoftheline · 27/09/2019 17:46

I follow loads of hot men on Instagram. Especially hot celebrities.

Chris Hemsworth is my fave.

I dont monitor what my dp does and doesnt like on ig. He doesnt monitor mine either.

BalooTheBearr · 27/09/2019 17:47

Sounds like something my teenage DD and her friends would say

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KannaS · 27/09/2019 17:50

Celebs are ok but random girls??

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thecatinthetwat · 27/09/2019 17:54

Personally I think it sounds a bit pervy. So I choose a husband who doesn’t do that.

Maybe do that?

FizzyGreenWater · 27/09/2019 18:31

Get into his insta and change all his followy things to kittens and shit.

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KannaS · 27/09/2019 18:37

What are they trying to achieve?!
Trying to find just a bf who is respectful and thoughtful is already a challenge.

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ginandbearit · 27/09/2019 18:40

Um ...wasnt there a thread on here not so long ago of hot men and what one would do to them ?

Joerev · 27/09/2019 18:52

@thecatinthetwat. Perfect answer!!!!

Same here. My husband doesn’t do that. However I’m really weird. I never ever get jealous......it just almost doesn’t exist in my body. For me it’s such a useless emotion. It doesn’t help any situation. So I just don’t feel it. However I am incredibly secure in who i am. It’s twken me many years to finally admire who I am.

I think the issue isn’t with the other women. It’s the self confidence you have. My husband has always known. If he ever cheated. He’d be gone. I wouldn’t even glance twice at someone who would do that. I’m 100% in my way of thinking.

Try some self help xxx

passionfruit11 · 27/09/2019 19:09

What are they trying to achieve?!
Trying to find just a bf who is respectful and thoughtful is already a challenge.

You say 'they' as if you have experienced this with more than one boyfriend?

My husband just wouldn't do this so I can't relate and I also don't like lots of hot guys on IG. It's not that we have to hide it if we are attracted to someone, we are actually very open about that and can openly say if we find someone hot and neither bats an eyelid! I just don't think either of us are the type of person to lust openly on social media Confused

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KannaS · 28/09/2019 06:45

Yes you are right, previous one was like that too. Took me much longer to realise because he was my 1st.
You are all right, gind someone who is NOT like that...simple, right? 😉

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