To use the shared space very early?

[Refreshretry]

As per another thread I have, I'm started a new job. I also live in a shared house, I have my own bathroom but share the kitchen facilities.

New job entails very early starts so I'll be up at 5. I won't be doing a lot before then as I'll be having breakfast at work, maybe a quick shower and a coffee but I'm not sure whether this is too early to use the shared facilities?

I won't be banging and crashing around the house but will need to turn the lights on and use the kettle. If someone is in the kitchen in the morning I can hear them so I'm guessing they'll be able to hear me and I don't want to cause any upset or bad feelings by waking people hours before they have to be up. Would I be better off getting a coffee machine/kettle for my room and just making my coffee in there so as to not use the shared facilities? Or should I just use them as normal and be as quiet as I can?

Why don't you just ask the people you live with?

Could you get a Flask of boiling water before you go to bed?

My next door neighbour has a kettle that is so loud that it sounds like an aircraft taking off, even through our party wall. So if yours is like that, yes, use the flask as suggested before.

I'd get a kettle in your room, or just wait until you get to work.

Why not start with the assumption that you will be using them, be as considerate as possible and ask your house mates to let you know if it’s a problem?

Presumably your early start will mean earlier bed time. Do you think your housemates will stop using the shared space or you will just need to get used to their noise, using the kitchen in the evening.

Just ask the people you're living with?

I have lived in shared houses before and other people's living noise was part and parcel of shared living, but 5am is definitely outside of "normal" hours so as long as you are being reasonable - keeping noise in communal spaces to a minimum, not spending 20 minutes blow drying your hair at 4.30am etc - and give your housemates a way to communicate if you are being too disruptive (eg I had a WhatsApp group with my housemates so we could leave general notes for each other) then I would say youd be fine

A jug boiling wouldn’t wake or annoy me. What did annoy me when house sharing were very loud alarms that woke everyone up.

Would I be better off getting a coffee machine/kettle for my room and just making my coffee in there so as to not use the shared facilities? Wouldn't that be worse than using the kitchen for the poo person in the next room to you?

Was going to comment but can't stop laughing at typo 'poo person in the other room' sorry v childish

These bottles you get advertise keeping hot stuff hot for 12 hrs - just put coffee in one or get travel kettle in your room - fill before bed, boil and make coffee in am drink while getting ready Job done and oh yeah avoid 6 alarms to get you up that early

I have an insulated jug/teapot I bought from Amazon that keeps things hot for hours. Buy one so you can make your coffee at night and it will still be hot in the morning. It will save a few minutes time too - always handy at that time of day.

For crying out loud, it’s your home, you pay rent. If you want a shower and a coffee then sodding well have one, you don’t need anyone’s permission.

If the others don’t like it then shared accommodation really isn’t for them 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fuck taking a flask of hot water to bed in your own home, mumsnet sometimes I despair really

Going against the grain here. People who live in house shares have to accept that people's differing routines will mean some noise at different times.

As long as you're not 'crashing around', I think it's fine to make yourself a cup of coffee in the morning.

X-post with @P1nkHeartLovesCake who said it much better than I did

Unfortunately this is one of the reasons why shared accommodation is that bit cheaper because there are inconveniences and disturbances caused by others but (as long as you are considerate and as quiet as possible) you have ever right to use the facilities as needed. After all, just because you will be presumably having an early night because you will be getting up early doesn’t mean the others can’t and won’t be using the facilities in the evening.

@P1nkHeartLovesCake ditto. As long as you arent crashing around and are considerate (as you sound like you are) then they have to put up with it.

I would shower the night before would boil the kettle if it wasn’t too noisy.
Have the coffee/ sugar in the travel mug the night before.

5am is tricky, if I woke I’m not sure I’d be able to get back to sleep.

I don't think it will make a difference whether you are using a kettle in the kitchen or in your room. Isn't the kitchen further away from most people and therefore less likely to annoy them though?

Just say to your housemates that you'll be up at 5 but will be as quiet as possible.

Tbh while it's not ideal, it's part and parcel of a houseshare that you have to put up with other people's schedules and noise.

I definitely wouldn't ask your housemates as they are 95% likely to say no, and then you will be stuck.

As a PP said, I would use the shared space quietly and considerately and they can let you know if there's an issue. Maybe rather than turning the lights on you could get a lamp though, if the light will be directly outside someone's door.

@Refreshretry

My housemate’s sister used to stay fairly regularly. Often she was up before the sun.

Turned on all the lights in the house, boiled the kettle and made noise opening and closing cabinets. Then she pretended she was sorry when she woke me.

I hated her.

Your housemates will hate you too.

Keep a kettle/flask in your bedroom, don’t turn on any lights in the communal areas.

It’s not the sound of the shower that’s an issue. It’s the combination of shower, toilet, every light on in the house, opening and closing of the fridge, kettle boiling, cupboards opening and closing, stirring the spoon loudly in her cup, pulling out a chair on the floorboards, putting her cup on the dining table, walking around, slamming the door.

Don’t be an a-hole.

My partner wakes very early for flights most weeks (3.30am).

It’s manageable. He doesn’t fuff about making coffee though.

It is your home, you are paying to live there. Do not be taking a flask to your bedroom, as long as you are not crashing about then do go about your normal business (ie using kitchen that you pay to have access of and use). Ignore this nonsense of restricting your life to your bedroom ffs.

I can’t believe you’re actually thinking of tiptoeing around your own house. You’re not waking up and having a rave ffs. Just keep noise down as much as possible, as in no tv on loud, no banging, no loud talking etc. Everything else is just part and parcel of living in a shared house.

There were 6 of us, living in a shared house, when I first moved out and one of them worked shifts so would be up at 4am sometimes. We got used to it. You’re paying rent, you’re entitled to use your house as you see fit.

In a house share, I would tend to shower the night before and get a coffee on the way to work. I'd minimise time spent getting out of the house that early in the morning. Otherwise, you're likely to have some cross housemates!

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Tbh, you’re the one who sounds like an a-hole

Oh - the share house I lived in was tiny and old.

The sister had another place she could have stayed but also brought her toddler and used my housemate for free childcare.

Her staying was a regular occurrence as she stayed in the city for her casual job or social engagements.

I’m so glad I’m not living there any more.

Can you please use a thermos and talk to your housemates.

My housemate was so courteous in the mornings. Some days not so much - but usually she was.

I think when you live in a share house you don’t use it as you would your own house.

Yes, you need to leave early and I absolutely think you should have a shower before you go out, but there are things you can do to make things easier on your housemates and they, in turn, will do the same for you (hopefully).