To use the shared space very early?

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As per another thread I have, I'm started a new job. I also live in a shared house, I have my own bathroom but share the kitchen facilities.

New job entails very early starts so I'll be up at 5. I won't be doing a lot before then as I'll be having breakfast at work, maybe a quick shower and a coffee but I'm not sure whether this is too early to use the shared facilities?

I won't be banging and crashing around the house but will need to turn the lights on and use the kettle. If someone is in the kitchen in the morning I can hear them so I'm guessing they'll be able to hear me and I don't want to cause any upset or bad feelings by waking people hours before they have to be up. Would I be better off getting a coffee machine/kettle for my room and just making my coffee in there so as to not use the shared facilities? Or should I just use them as normal and be as quiet as I can?

Alot of people can sleep through almost anything so just because you hear doesn't mean everyone will
Go about your business and when h get home ask if u woke anyone up
If u are going to be working early I imagine u will also be getting an early night often so it's definitely worth being considerate and hoping they are also

You can't not shower before work ffs

Having a shower and a coffee when you wake up is perfectly reasonable, and accepting that your other housemates going about day to day life is part of living in a house share

Get up as normal, maybe check after a few days to see if it's waking anyone up but I don't think anyone can expect you to go to work without showering because it wakes them up

If your kettle is loud enough to wake someone up you need a new kettle! Or they can just get some earplugs like other people who get woken up easily. Again part of living in a houseshare

There's absolutely no need to get a flask in your room for your morning coffee, if my housemate felt they had to do this to avoid waking me up I'd think they were mental, and also probably be embarrassed that I came across like such an arsehole.

A kettle in your room is presumably just as loud as the kitchen?

Honestly, ear plugs and white noise completely drown out the sound of my baby crying in the next room (I don't ignore her but DP takes her in mornings for a couple of hours so I can sleep and obviously she does cry from time to time as she's a baby!) I think just either or would be enough to stop the noise of a kettle boiling for a couple of mins in another room!

And if you're that light a sleeper that you can hear a kettle being boiled with ear plugs and white noise on, then either a) become a superhero with your crazy senses or b) accept that maybe shared accommodation isn't for you

I used to get up early for work but the bathroom was next to my bedroom and I didn't make hot drinks or breakfast before leaving. My flatmate was an early bird anyway so it didn't bother her. However, I was always careful after she went to bed (much earlier than me) to make sure the TV was very quiet (living room was next to her room) and I tried not to use the kettle or microwave late at night.

However, when I did get the chance to catch up on sleep at the weekend, she woke me up EVERY TIME at 5 - 5.30 am making cups of tea. It drove me crazy!!! I even bought her a travel kettle that she could use in her room as she just lay in bed reading books anyway but she wouldn't use it. It infuriates me to this day.

Why do people think a kettle in her room, presumably closer to the other bedrooms, is better than a kettle in the kitchen? Is it magically quieter in some way?

I get up just after 5, it is not that early a start during the working week.

dh/ds sometimes get woken, but they know it is me so just turn over and go back to sleep. It is your home, you need to get up to get really to go to work, perfectly normal and reasonable. It would be different if you were getting up at 5 to do piano practice!

Soup, TBF the OP herself suggests this. I think people are picking up on that.

"People" also covers the OP!

Unless she is actually, say, an aardvark.

Ask the people you live with?

I'm definitely not the majority in this, but I don't think 5 am is inordinately early! Just start doing it and don't go crazy banging pans together. You can always check in with your housemates after a week and see how it is. But tbh, you expect this stuff with a house share.

OK, Soup, I didn't appreciate that you'd included the OP; it wasn't clear. The aardvark comment is a bit unnecessarily snarky, I think.

I think as long as you don't deliberately make a lot of noise its ok, but then I've had to work all hours.
Deaf people don't use loud alarms, they use a vibrating alarm you put under your pillow, so you could look into buying one of those.

I agree with the people who have said it’s your home so do what you need to do on the morning. No-one is going to pander to you and be quiet when you’re having an early night so just use your home as you like. It’s a communal space for a reason.

Don’t be an a-hole

It's her house ffs. OP without crashing and banging feel free to use your own kitchen as you like.

If you google quiet boil there are near silent kettles that exist but I wouldn't bother tbh, kettle noise isn't impact noise. I sleep with white noise or fan noise. That keeps me in a deep sleep a kettle certainly wouldn't wake me.

If you're worried about the lights going into peoples rooms just use your phone light :)

I imagine you might be going to bed quite early as you have to be up at 5am, OP - I wonder if your housemates will avoid making any noise at all after 9pm or whatever. Doubt it.

Just go about your business and be considerate but there’s no need to tiptoe out like a naughty child in your own home.

FFS, if I showered the night before I'd ming. I sweat a lot in my sleep. And fucking hell, is your kettle propelled by a jet engine? It's a shared accommodation, not a library, as long as you're not deliberately making tons of noise, well, shit, people have to get up and go to work!

Our neighbour is a baker. He has to leave for work at 3.30am. We share one wall and I can sometimes hear him taking a shower and using the kitchen, that's my problem, not his, he's not overly loud. He has to be clean and presentable to go to work.

We're talking about boiling a frigging kettle people!!

OP, unless the kettle is powered by a Boeing turbofan, you're fine!

As long as you are considerate then it's all fine. People who get up early are only an issue when they are inconsiderate - letting their alarm beep repeatedly, banging doors, clattering around in the kitchen and slamming the front door had me murderous with one old housemate.

However another left at 4am - she showered, made coffee, used the microwave (she used to stop it with a second to go as it beeped loud) and we barely heard her because she didn't bang her cup down on the worktop and she realised that noises travel more in a quiet house.

Because it’s not her house!!

Spoken like somebody who is totally oblivious that for some - house sharing is their long term home, because there are no viable options to live alone thanks to astronomic rents and shit wages. So it may not be a sharer's house but it's their home, and they should feel able to do normal everyday stuff in it like having coffee or taking a shower before work.

House shares are no longer just for a few years in your twenties, for a swathe of people.

It's give and take. It is possible to be considerate in using the kitchen and bathroom very quietly, early in the morning. No banging around in the kitchen or thumping up and down stairs. Making a conscious effort to close doors and cupboards quietly. Not forgetting and leaving your alarm on snooze as you leave your bedroom.

If you can't handle the sound of a kettle boiling in a communal kitchen, house sharing probably isn't for you.

OP just use the facilities considerately.

Spoken like somebody who is totally oblivious that for some - house sharing is their long term home, because there are no viable options to live alone thanks to astronomic rents and shit wages. So it may not be a sharer's house but it's their home, and they should feel able to do normal everyday stuff in it like having coffee or taking a shower before work.

And if they want it to continue to be their home, and a nice place to live with housemates they get on with, faffing around for half an hour every morning at 4.30am is guaranteed to achieve the opposite.

tbh I'd just get up and get out asap at that time in the morning. Perfectly doable.

It's your home! Use it as needed to go to work. You can use the shared space quietly and respectfully but you don't need to take flasks of hot water to bed!!

Qual it's not 4:30, it's 5 and you know it. Don't exaggerate the facts to suit your narrative.

No one is suggesting the OP should indulge in a bit of early morning aerobics before blending up a smoothie while singing along to the radio; just that she should be free to (quietly) have a chuffing shower and cup of coffee before she goes to work!

As a nurse doing mixed shifts, my day shifts would start at 7am so I would usually be up at 5ish. I lived in a shared house for a year and would start the day with a coffee and breakfast in the kitchen, would go to bed at 9pm but often peoples' TV's would be blasting til at least 11pm and when I worked nights I couldn't sleep all day as they would have music on. It's communal living so you have to expect to be on different schedules but just try to be mindful of each other.