AIBU or is this rude?

[Sorryfofty]

I'm in a group chat with the work girls. 10 of us in it. I wrote in it and asking if anyone knew what happened to someone who was let go today. All read it but no one has replied. AIBU to have been ignored. This isnt the only time i've been ignored. I also have a feeling there is another group chat which i am not included in.

Perhaps they don't want to participate in pointless idle gossip over a situation that is none of their business. Or yours.

Agree with pp, sounds like they don’t want to be drawn into gossip

If they're friends with her they probably don't want to share it.

No way would I engage on WA about something like that.

Yeah I wouldn't join in with gossip either

That's so nosey and rude of you!
Someone was let go.
Reasons are confidential unless shared by the sack-ee themselves.

Well i think its funny how they spoke about him about and even put in complaints about him too. So i would say they are already involved in the "gossip".

I wouldn’t discuss something like that in a group chat.

Your thinking too much into it....

Probably no one wants to be the first to comment on a sensitive subject and are all waiting to see if someone else replies.
If you feel you are being ignored only post positive comments in future where you aren't expecting a reply, then there will be nothing to get upset about.

Also its not like i was gossiping, all i asked is if anyone knew what happened. Also these girls love complaining about work so its not like i'm the only one posting about negitive things

If you have to ask that kind of question, it is best asked face to face and very discreetly.
Not in a group chat! If any of the other members are privy to that info, they would be very unwise to put their gossip down in writing, especially in a large group chat. Sharing confidential workplace information on WhatsApp could easily come back to bite them.

If it’s your work phones I’d delete the message and not discuss anything HR would frown upon

And tbh a group chat where members talk about other colleagues behind their back sounds super bitchy.

They may be avoiding you, or the topic, but what can you do? Try to focus on calmer things for yourself?

Remember anything you write down can be seen by other people at work. Keep out of it op

I wouldn’t have answered either. General chat or bitching is ‘fine’ but I wouldn’t be drawn into casting aspersions about an actual event like this. Having it in black and white wouldn’t be great would it.

Don’t put anything on WhatsApp that you wouldn’t shout out to the whole office!

Really. It gets sent on all over the place.

I imagine they don't know what to reply. A terrible idea to discuss something like this in a group chat. Anyone could take a screenshot of any less than professional replies.

I wouldn't want to get into that sort of chat either

Oh I wonder if you work at the same place as me (I'm not in your WAgroup though!!) as we had an announcement like this today.......

No it's not rude. It's rude of you to ask something like that in a group text. I wouldn't reply either.

I’m going to go against the grain and say it was a bit rude. I think it’s fairly normal (though maybe inadvisable) to have whatsapp groups where you moan about work with colleagues. It would have been fine for someone to say that they weren’t comfortable about discussing it on WA or that they didn’t know.

Wow

I presume OP asked as this was a typical type chat.

To be honest, as a human, working in the office with a diverse range of other humans, a bitch fest can really help you keep from stabbing coworkers.

Are you close to any particular one of them OP. Could you ask one by text?

its not like i was gossiping, all i asked is if anyone knew what happened.

gossip /ˈɡɒsɪp/ noun
casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true.

irony /ˈʌɪrəni/ noun
the expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect.