AIBU or is this rude?

[Sorryfofty]

I'm in a group chat with the work girls. 10 of us in it. I wrote in it and asking if anyone knew what happened to someone who was let go today. All read it but no one has replied. AIBU to have been ignored. This isnt the only time i've been ignored. I also have a feeling there is another group chat which i am not included in.

I wouldnt reply to that either. This sort of sensitive information is best discovered face to face.

@queenlatifasleftboob well, what happened at your work?
Or someone make up some shit, i don't care. I just need to know now someone's told half a story!
What do you know about it op?

I wouldn’t put anything on a WhatsApp group that someone can take to a boss and say ‘well, she wrote that!’ Talking about is different to having it as evidence in print

I’d be wary of answering as gossip does get back to the office managers and they are really tough on that at my work.

I wouldn't discuss stuff like that on social media. Do that sort of gossiping in person.

She asked why he had left. I think some people are far too sarcastic on this site. Googling the definition of gossiping and then copy and pasting it? Get a grip. She asked a simple question and was ignored. Any of them girls could have replied saying they didn't want want to talk about it. For why it's worth OP I'm the only one who think this, but they were rude. Seeing as they already like to 'gossip' in the group chat about other people, I'd say they are ignoring you on purpose or could just be busy.

Some people don't like gossip. They're not obliged to respond to you anyway.

It could be that they are part of an internal investigation if they have made complaints, so can't coment.

I wouldn’t post something like that in a WhatsApp group chat. It’s nosey, unprofessional, insensitive and remember that anything you post can be used against you. Perhaps that’s why they didn’t respond to your question. Try posting something different - something positive instead.

Be careful with talking about colleagues on WhatsApp as it can be screenshotted and shown to your workplace

I wouldn’t respond to a group message on that topic. The subject may be arguing a bullying campaign by gossipy colleagues. A chat like that would support their view.

I'm just placemarking to find out if it's the same workplace as @Queenlatifahsleftboob

I definitely wouldn't reply to that

Depends on the relationships you have with the people on the chat
For that type of gossip though probably better face to face

Ohhhh I would never participate in chat like that - especially on a work chat. Someone in my office has been warned before about discussing someone else being let go. And they have it all down in writing too. Fairly dangerous OP.

If they were involved as complainants, they may have agreed to sign a non-disclosure agreement.

This was my first thought as well.

Also its not like i was gossiping, all i asked is if anyone knew what happened

er....that IS gossiping Petal.

YABU for calling them girls.

I wouldn’t have answered you either. Who knows who could read the texts. Could wind up in disciplinary hearing - or messages be8ng read out in court.

I wouldn’t put anything like that/ about that in writing

@Sorryfofty Does your workplace name being with M ??

YABU.

If you were meant to know about it, you would know about it.

All you’ve done is let your co-workers know you love to gossip.

I also think people are being a bit lofty and high horse about this.

OP asked a question. Yes, it’s rude to not respond.

It might not be a good idea to gossip - but her simple question was not gossip - and answering ‘I don’t know’ and then having a quiet word the following day is entirely possible.

Although, they’re not obliged to respond if they do it quite regularly then maybe you’re right and they have a parallel group without you.