To not let MIL see the children?

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Name changed as this could be outing.

Would I be unreasonable to not let MIL see the children?

I have 3 children 4, 2 and 7 months.

Husbands stepdad used to hit him and call him names and his mum never stopped it.

We have mentioned it to her and at first she said husband was lying and now she's saying husbands stepdad won't be there as he will be working. But I don't trust him with my children.

What should I do?

No he wasn't hitting husband as a punishment. The children like it at MILs and they like his stepdad although MIL says he's their grandad.

I think th family member they can't see are husbands stepdads grandchildren.

She mainly wants to see The children on a weekend and then he will be around or after school.

Grandparents do not have a god given right to time with grandchildren without the parents being there. And double that up if the grandparent(s) have failed majorly as parent(s) (which includes standing by while their partner physically and verbally abuses their child). Tell her no. Tell her why. It doesn't matter a damn what she wants, or what her husband wants or what her husband's grandchildren want. YANBU.

No way. Your job is to protect your children. She is never going to protect them like you would. Tell her the old arrangements still stand.

In light of your DH being NC with Step Dad I would not be letting my children out of my sight with MIL. She made her bed when she let her Husband hurt her child. She can come to your house or join you on days out but the children should not be going to her house and never sleeping over.

I don't believe the step-grandfather will have mellowed; if anything, people get less able to deal with rambunctious children as they get older, so he'd be even more spiteful - but probably cuter about hiding it. I wouldn't allow my children anywhere near him.

I wouldn’t call that vile man grandpa. How horrible for your husband that his mum never stood up for him or made him her first priority. I have kids and I couldn’t imagine letting that happen

and they like his stepdad

I don't understand this. If they're not supposed to be there while the stepdad is, how would they know him, to like him?