To not understand women who go with married men?

[Pennypringles]

I know I'm old fashioned and have a really strong moral compass but I just don't understand it!
Obviously I know it takes two to tango and all that but I would never go with someone's husband however much "his wife doesn't understand him".

[kitk]

I'm with you OP. I know that if the woman is single then the man is more wrong but I think women should treat other women with solidarity

[aintnothinbutagstring]

When I was young (fairly attractive) and single, I was not interested in married men at all, not that I had a fantastic moral compass back then, just couldn't be arsed with drama and baggage. Definitely wouldn't have gone for someone with children. I probably thought I was too good for that sort of set up, and selfish enough to want someone just to myself, not be a bit on the side. I do agree that relationships are complex, I think people who cheat probably have very low self esteem, are broken, and need that boost from somewhere. People who cheat with them are probably similar.

[Gwenhwyfar]

""I just don't understand why a woman would do that to another woman."

Because women don't owe other women anything, especially just because they're women. We're not a collective vagina (vagine?) 🙄 or automatically looking out for eachother simply because we're XX.

Such a weird view to have OP."

Yes. This is something I've read on here many times and don't understand. If the married woman thinks the single woman should reject her man because she owes something to the married woman, what does the married woman owe in return?

[Gwenhwyfar]

"Well, i’d Dispute that. I know of quite a few single men around age 40 whose marriages broke down mainly because of infidelity (not, in some cases, on the man’s part either). Sometimes for other reasons. Plenty of single divorced men out there."

There really aren't you know. Single men over 35 are really few and far between. Also, bear in mind that the ratios are different in different places, more women than men in cities usually, more men in prison, more men being gay. There isn't necessarily an equal number of men and women in a person's life.

[DrCoconut]

You should have seen the shite my ex spun about me to his OW. The nagging, spiteful, frigid harridan he described was unrecognisable. All while playing happy families at home. I knew he was up to no good but when he was caught red handed playing away it was spectacularly dreadful for him.