I've wondered about my friend for a long time- let me explain- certain comments she's made to me over the years made me question if she was a friend and was actually jelous of me. Probably because of my bubbly, trusting nature, I always looked at any positives she had and that took me to 20 years of knowing her. My situation is that hubby and I comfortable money wise, have a loving extended family, I have many work colleague friends and am happy to say, well liked by my work bosses. (Can I add all our money is earned, I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth and I work pretty damn hard and produce good work for my bosses). There was one thing lacking in life according to her and that was children.
My friend is quite in love with herself, she would often look in the mirror and say "look no make up". I used to laugh. She is attractive but not to the extent she thinks she is. My friend has 2 kids and was desperate for a boy. She knows we were trying for children and I had miscarried a few times. Every time I got to work she would ask me if there was any news of a baby and do a pouty sad face in front of everyone. It was almost like she enjoyed my sadness!!!This hurt everytime, but I put it down to my hormones and that I needed to be less sensitive. But the questions were continuous. She knew how to say something horrid and then make it up with me. Once during a successful pregnancy I was due a down syndrome test and was very anxious cause of my age (39). I said to her that i'd feel better after the results were in, she said "oh I know someone who had the test and the results came back normal, but the baby was still born floppy"!!! I was so upset by her. I did tell her how much she upset me and she cried and said she didnt want to talk about it. Of course she didnt. But she apologised and I ended up feeling bad.
After 7 years we finally had my beautiful daughter and this friend was oh so vocal in her happiness for me. She got me so many gifts and visited me at home....then she made a comment that my "daughter is beautiful and looks nothing like you". So you see how she could do something nice and then say something really horrible.
That was 3 years ago.
Of course she started again as to siblings for my daughter!!! Just unbelievable.
Anyway, to our utter happy shock, I was pregnant with twins this year!!!!! I am feeding one now. Two boys, 6lb 10 each. A very healthy happy pregnancy. As soon as i told my 'friend' i was 8 weeks with twins, she pretty much dumped me!!!! Its like the jelousy was just too much for her. When I went to talk to her, she said she was busy. When I asked her out for pizza and said I have an antenatal appointment before hand so I maybe late, she said she couldn't wait for me as she would be hungry!!!
Since then, she has taken me off her wots app as in 'blocked' me!!!
My twins are now 5 weeks old my daughter is 3. Hubby and I feel so lucky. I am happy like heaven is!! I go back to work in 2021!!!
But when I think of this 'friend' my heart sinks. Shes not congratulated me or made any contact. Is it really possible for a friend to be so jelous of her friend this much??!!!!
AIBU?
'Friend' of 20 years has cut me off- jealousy?
MinxyMoos · 22/09/2019 12:32
In my experience it takes a massive and unlikeable ego to assume someone has cut you off out of jealousy rather than accept and admit it’s because you are unpleasant and dislikable.
Also here for the deletion message! 
@Sagradafamiliar
Let the haterz hate! They're well jel. They hate ya coz they ain't ya. Shine bright like a diamond and go and laugh and live and dance in the rain then check your watch and say 'it's gin o'clock' then kick off your dancing shoes and chill with the hubs and bubs for the nite.
😂😂😂
PLEASE say this is a joke post!
@PrincessHoneysuckle
when I got pregnant with puppy triplets that slept through the night.
@PennyNotSoWise
It's not fucking fair! I work so so hard for my boss to bring home wads and wads and wads of money, I'm practically perfect in every way but incredibly humble, and I only get one boring baby! What am I doing wrong? Fuck you PrincessHoneysuckle. Fuck you. I wouldn't want to be your friend either.
Ba ha ha ha ha!!! 😂😂😂
Is this person really smug about having sex and falling pregnant? Girl, its not exactly a medical miracle, is it?
If I had a friend like you, because I don't waste my time with people who gloat, it wouldn't be for long. If I felt a friend was "jealous" I'd feel awful that somehow I made my friend feel that way.
I'd love to hear the "jealous" friends perspective.
It sounds like you're insecure about something that you have to literally tell the internet about your achievements and more strangely that you deserve it. Is it because your friend got fed up of listening to it and you have no one else to tell? Or is there something more sinister? Post natal? Body dysmorphia? Stretch marks after twins bothering you?
Maybe have a think about the reasons why you need to boast to a load of strangers. Focus on your children and not on the friend who called it quits and if there's genuinely no mental issue which made you think or behave this way, take a good look in the mirror and be the best version of you that you can be 
Noooo bluegirl am serious! If the fake friend can't handle OP's shine then she should step off her rainbow. Real eyes realise! No need for tocksick people, it's OP's time 2 sparkle
You said it in your title: 'Friend'.
You and she are not friends. You are two people who know each other for 20 years. I've never thought anyone was jealous of me. And I have FOUR children. 2 of each. Perfectly balanced. 
Usually when somebody starts avoiding somebody else it's because they don't like them. There's people I avoid. Not because I'm jealous, but because I can't muster up the energy to smile politely. I'm sure there are people who avoid me for similar reasons.
You're not friends, you're 'friends'.
No loss, to either person.
She isn't your friend. She never was. The Spanish have a saying 'It's always a friend who hates you the most' and it's very true.
A very similar thing happened to me with a friend over 20 years ago. I really thought we were close but slowly became aware that after spending time with her I always felt a little bit worse about myself.
She was a master of the bitch plop and double edged compliment e.g. 'You're a bit overweight but it suits you'. For reference I was 5ft 6 and weighed about 8.5 stone 
Just like you OP I had lots of other good friends, nice family and was generally very happy. Looking back, she didn't have any of that. It took DH and another good friend to point out how poisonous and insidious she was, but I still defended her. It took me overhearing her drunkenly propositioning DH (he gave her short shrift) to realise she wasn't who I thought she was and that she obviously wanted to hurt me.
Fast forward 24 years and we're both members of a local spa. She studiously pretends not to recognise me, and I can't help but notice she is always, always on her own and I'm always there with friends. I wonder why?
Congratulations
I was also dumped recently by a long standing friend and it still hurts.
Mine was because I was going through a bad patch with both health and family , we always supported each other, but was dumped by text for being miserable and not pulling myself together. The sad thing is she is an oap . .
You will grieve your friendship and hopefully find new friends . Its her loss
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