To not want to forgive my friend's DH

[WishWeWereStillYoungNCarefree]

More of a WWYD.

Trying to be brief.

Friends husband has been a dick to her for years.

It's recently come to a head. Bad stuff, abusive stuff, happened. He then cheated on her (with the mum of their DCs friend).

For various reasons it's v hard for her to leave. She's indicated she wants to but it's not simple.

Just found out he's reading all her texts. So all our advice texts to her. He's read.

Me and other friend seem to be expected to carry on socialising as normal. Despite fact he knows we hate him, and he hates us.

I can't do it. My DH says we should carry on as normal for her sake. I physically feel like I can't do it. Too much has happened. I hate him.

But don't know what to do for my friend. I care about her so much. She is trying to organise our Christmas get together (families together).

WWYD? Would you socialise with an abusive arsehole for your friends sake?

Who the fuck is he, the Pharaoh of Egypt? Having everyone tiptoe around him like they don't know what he's done. Screw that. I have (had?) a friend with an abusive partner and I know everything because she spent years ringing me to talk about him for hours on end and I would drop everything and listen. She eventually left him for eight months and spent a week living with me and DH, telling us every detail, showed us messages, played us recordings of conversations - everything. Said he was a narcissist. Then she went back and now apparently it's all some kind of joke that she used to call him that. I'm out. I miss her but she's been brainwashed and there's nothing I can do.