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to be annoyed by this car outside my house?

115 replies

ViciousTrollop · 19/09/2019 09:57

I know I am legally BU as they're doing nothing wrong but I'm still irritated!

I live on a cul-de-sac (back to back terrace) the only people who park here are the residents. The norm/unspoken rule is that residents park right outside their houses and visitors/temp parkers usually have the decency to park on the other side of the street (no houses on that side, just a green).

The houses on the other side of the terrace have on street parking outside their houses too.

Someone parked right outside my house on Saturday and hasn't fecking moved since!! (Def hasn't moved as between me and my overly invested neighbour someone has been here during that entire time!).

I had a dream last night about letting the air out of their tyres 😂.

I know IABU but AIBU though???

OP posts:
Skinnydogfatcat1 · 19/09/2019 10:59

Go with the bird seed that is not illegal.....I think
Could be stolen so you could report it to the police!

SoupDragon · 19/09/2019 11:01

I love the idea of that note! They won't be able to find anything wrong but it will stay on their mind for ages.

Really? You love the idea of making someone worry about something? Nice.

Ohflippineck · 19/09/2019 11:02

Maybe, maybe not. But unless you move to an house with private parking or can bid to buy the bit of public (clue’s in the name) highway in front of your garden, they’re doing nothing wrong.

JaffaCakeGal · 19/09/2019 11:10

YANBU - I live in a terrace with parking at the back in an alleyway, everyone parks behind their own house. I had a car dumped behind my house for 6 MONTHS, blocking my elderly neighbours gate, and taking 2 parking spaces! Police wouldn't even say who it belonged to so we could go and knock on.

Also had a neighbour 4 doors down park behind mine... so I parked behind theirs. Next minute they are knocking on my door asking me to move. I said, yep I will do once you move your car out of my spot!

Parking wars sends me mad!!

PinchOfSugar · 19/09/2019 11:12

I didn't know people got annoyed about this sort of thing, I don't understand this at all. You own a house without parking. If you want to park next to your home, buy a home with parking. Otherwise you just park where you can.

We owned a home without parking for a couple of years, I can't say I ever monitored who was parked outside my home or for how long. I don't own the road and they are parked legally.

Pcosmama · 19/09/2019 11:12

I have this problem!! My neighbours have a DRIVE yet they park right outside my gates, sometimes so close to the gate that I cannot physically get out (it's a narrow street with houses in all directions so we pretty much have to park on the pavement).

I spoke to the woman and said basically park where you like lady but at least allow me access in and out of my house. And so fart she has obliged by leaving a small space for me to squeeze in and out of my gate but still parks right outside my house. Often, OH and I have to park at the other end of the street and walk up with shopping etc which isn't a huge deal except that I'm very heavily pregnant now and my neighbour actually comments on how big I am and how I must be struggling... While still parking/blocking my house! It drives me up the bloooody wall but I don't own that patch of pavement so I can't really do anything about it.

I imagine once I have a pram and carseat to heave in and out I might snap though :)

Pcosmama · 19/09/2019 11:13

I will add that we do have a drive but can't often get into it because of how congested the street is, its almost always obstructed by some vehicle or other.

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 19/09/2019 11:15

YANBU
We have 2 parking spaces outside our house and someone parked in the middle of both for 3 months!
I eventually saw him get into his car and move it a few inches forward then go back into his house. I went straight over and asked if he could move a bit so another car could park as well and he moved it straight over the road outside his house. I have no idea why he left in without moving it for so long Confused

If he ever park it there like that again I am going for the bird seed [grin}

DontCallMeShitley · 19/09/2019 11:19

We have one of the few spaces outside that it is possible to park in. The rest of the road all has dropped kerbs and double drives or a calming hump. Ours still has a little bit of garden so there is a bit there that is big enough to park.

I don't mind people parking there but I wish they would all bellow to the people they were visiting when they leave, yelling out conversations in the middle of the night, beeping as they drive off, dump their rubbish on the pavement or in our garden, and sit for hours with their engines running while pissing about on their phones with the radio blasting out.

At one time it was so bad that we parked there just to get some peace.

Malbecfan · 19/09/2019 11:21

I get it, I really do. I live in a hamlet with narrow lanes in an AONB. My house is on a corner so there is a lane up the side of it as well as the "main" road at the front. People often park outside my house so they can go mountain biking or yomping about the AONB.

However what they fail to see is that by parking on the road, they completely obscure my view out of my driveway so I cannot safely get out of it - the road bends slightly. They also obscure the view of people trying to turn out of the lane up the side as they cannot see traffic coming from the right because of their parking. They are well within the 32 feet of the junction which is meant to be illegal (it is not a designated parking place) but the plods CBA to do anything so it carries on.

Once they set foot on my front garden, I go ballistic. My garden has a small fence round it and is obviously separate from the road (no pavement). The worst I had was an entitled horse lorry driver who broke down right outside my house then left the slope thing for the nag to walk down right across my driveway. She then decided to sunbathe on my front lawn whilst moaning about the lack of phone coverage. What a shame for her that I decided my lawn needed a decent watering with a hosepipe.

verticality · 19/09/2019 11:23

Is it really that big a deal that you can't park right outside your house for a few days? Honestly, there are much bigger things in the world to be concerned and bothered about.

verticality · 19/09/2019 11:26

This thread reminds me of a situation my husband researched of a planned development. They'd designed it to be car free so that children could play out in the street, as part of a health initiative to get them moving - lots of green space within easy view of house windows, lots of toys and games, lovely landscaping, and it looked gorgeous initially without cars cluttering it up. All the adults did was moan that they had to park their cars 100 yards away in a special parking lot. The advantages of living in a nice, car-free environment that was safe for children and where pollution was kept at a distance from the house were apparently entirely outweighed by the fact that you couldn't see an ugly metal box all day.

DontCallMeShitley · 19/09/2019 11:27

wouldn't all bellow not would Blush

Grumpelstilskin · 19/09/2019 11:30

OP you sound a bit pathetic and entitled.

HennyPennyHorror · 19/09/2019 11:34

I don't underdtand Souests note...why would that make them move?

honeyloops · 19/09/2019 11:36

I am so baffled as to how parking in a legal parking spot for a few days is 'selfish dickhead behaviour'.

honeyloops · 19/09/2019 11:41

I live on a street with terraces on both sides, and getting a spot even on the street, never mind outside my house, is a win.

And my neighbours laugh at the one arsehole who acts like you and has, I shit you not, hovered by the front door with their keys when I went out to get something from my car (parked in front of their house) and when I caught their eye was like 'Oh I thought you were moving your car. From OUTSIDE MY HOUSE.'

If you want a house with your own parking, move somewhere with a drive or residents' spaces. If you can't afford that, like I can't, get over it.

CaptainButtock · 19/09/2019 11:46

Not wanting to derail op, but I neeeeeed to know.. thrashes about why people park on the road when they have empty driveways??!

Katex888 · 19/09/2019 11:46

First world problems Confused

NoSauce · 19/09/2019 11:47

As long as they’re not blocking you or anyone in or are parked illegally in any other way, get a grip ViciousTrollop.

CassianAndor · 19/09/2019 11:49

oooh, that would really annoy me! Who cares what is and isn't legal? Or are we only allowed to get annoyed by things where someone is breaking the law?

Monkeyseesmonkeydoes · 19/09/2019 11:52

I honesty don't understand why a car parked outside your house would bother you.

AdobeWanKenobi · 19/09/2019 11:52

I love the idea of that note! They won't be able to find anything wrong but it will stay on their mind for ages

I don't. A lot of accident damage occurs underneath the bumper. If I'd got a note like that the first thing I'd do, even after spotting no damage, would be to take it to be checked out underneath.
Someone read ended DS's car once, no visible damage but under the bumper there was.
So potentially you're costing some poor sod money just because they parked safely and legally in a spot you don't like?

Or, the flip side, if the car already has a scratch or two they could decide this was an ideal opportunity to get it fixed. Only takes a neighbour to see you putting the note on and you're in for an insurance claim.

Or, the better option would be to be mildly irritated, realise it's a public road and get on with your day.

FrauHaribo · 19/09/2019 11:54

YANBU to be mildly irritated, but YABU to anyone suggesting to cause damage to a car, parked absolutely legally and not blocking anything.

As long as it doesn't block anyone and is legal, it's absolutely fine to park anywhere you like! Maybe someone needs their drive for visitors or workmen, maybe someone parked in the first available place they found, which happens to be in front of your house.

I cannot believe all the posters annoyed about it genuinely never park in front of any house ever - apart from their home. That's bonkers, and completely unpractical, unless you genuinely never park anywhere but a car park?

hiphopchick · 19/09/2019 11:56

@Souwest

A bad person might sneak out at night and put a note "sorry I hit your car I checked and can't see any obvious damage. You may not be able to see it. Hope it's safe to drive "

You little demon! Grin Love it! Ignore the morally superior individuals who think it's an OUTRAGE to do this. Just ignore them and let them polish their pearls... Wink

@ViciousTrollop Of COURSE YANBU to be pissed of and angry at this situation, but as a few people have said, this person is not breaking the law.

People always pile on on these threads, and act like they're morally superior, because they wouldn't MIND if someone kept parking right outside their house (where they usually park.) And they wouldn't mind if someone regularly parked opposite them (making it hard for them to get in and out of their driveway if they have one... ) Nooooo, they would be FINE with it! Wink

Fact is though, they WOULD be pissed off. They say they wouldn't but they would!

I also believe that the people who think it's OK to park where it inconveniences people (even if it IS legal,) are the sort of entitled twots who DO this. They have this 'entitled-to' attitude that as long as it's not illegal, they will park where they want.

Just because you can do something, does not mean you should. Wink