Who is being UR

[PupsAndKittens]

Hi, I am caught in a really horrible situation. Basically I am meant to be going to Nottingham tomorrow with my friend who is moving to uni, however there plains have changed meaning that I will have to now miss college on Friday. My parents have said they will be extremely angry if I do this and I should not be going. I told my friend this and her mum have called me a selfish shit and, how I should be there for her and that I should sacrifice 1 day of college. she also said as that I am a adult and should not be controlled by them. My best friend has told me that she really wants me there, and TbH I won’t get another opportunity till Christmas so I eventually agreed. My parent are furious and told me that they would stop giving me my money.

My farther has just woken me up screaming in my face that I will be expelled if I go to Nottingham, but my best friend has said If I don’t go out freindship is ruind. Please help, I can’t win this situation someone is going to get hurt WWYD

@Louloulovesyou you can't possibly be in a position to know whether OP is capable of managing her own money. I know people much older than her who, on the surface, you would expect to manage their own money but in reality just can't cope.

OP needs to make that judgment and have that conversation if she deems it necessary.

Your friend and her mum are being unreasonable. Massively so.

You agreed to go and help them. Then they changed the plans, so you could no longer make it as it clashed with college. Then they are calling you names and then they are trying to threaten and manipulate you into still helping them (threatening to withdraw friendship etc). You were doing them a favour in the first place so it's very rude for them to try and dictate the terms of this favour. Do you really want to be friends with someone who wants to use you and bully you like this?

Your dad is in the wrong for screaming at you but you really should be going to college. A good friend wouldn't ask you to miss college just to help her empty a few boxes and keep her mum company!

What did you decide to do OP?

Your father woke you up at 2am to scream in your face?

Honestly, this is all a non-issue and I have no idea why people around you are blowing it up into something huge. Your parents are being OTT.

Your friend originally didn't even want you to come! You could jus have said, 'sorry, the date doesn't suit me now, but I'll come up one weekend soon.' Your friend, if she is a friend, shold understand.

Her mother is batshit crazy and very rude.

Go to college. Put yourself and your education first. And you might also consider going to see a welfare officer at college to talk to someone impartial about all this stuff you have going on. They may be able to help.

her mum have called me a selfish shit
If anyone dared to speak to me like that they'd be cut dead immediately and I'd never have anything do with them again.

Your so-called friend and her bitch of a mother are absolutely disgusting. Don't go to the college with them, cut them off and block them. You deserve better and don't need such vile people in your life.

Do not go OP! They didn’t want you to come, said you would be «too difficult» (wtf), then change plans without caring about the impact on you, and scream at you when you object.
If you go I bet you will be asked to do the bulk of the carrying and unpacking, they won’t help you and possibly will abandon you to have some mother/daughter time.
No way