The question says it all ^^ do you still buy your grown up children things when they become parents?
My mum has the opinion that once you have children you shouldn’t expect or buy much for yourself. Of course children should always come first but it sounds extreme to not have anything nice yourself. She doesn’t buy me much for Christmas or Birthday. I don’t expect much but a box of chocs would be appreciated. Funnily enough my grandmother buys for my mum despite her not bothering much with me now I have DC. My mum never buys OH anything for birthdays or Christmas (money isn’t the issue, my siblings without children get loads)
Mil has the opposite view. She buys for all of us. She spends more on me than my own mother does. I don’t expect it but it makes me all emotional that she’s so kind. She usually gives me a £40 voucher at Christmas to spend on myself.
Surely I’m not being unreasonable to feel like my mother doesn’t make much of an effort? I buy her gifts for mother’s day, birthdays and Christmas. She buys DC things (maybe around £30-40 each which is fine), I also buy for my mums partner and my siblings (who don’t buy anything for their nieces and nephews). I’m thinking of not bothering this year. My younger siblings get hundreds spent on them so money isn’t an issue. I don’t have a dad, my mums partner brought me up. I just kinda feel pushed out. I can’t imagine ever not buying anything for my DC.
Aibu? Or do I sound like a spoilt cow??