To think threads are a bit different lately?!

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No idea how to put this

Long time user. Love Mumsnet for intelligent, considered, witty discussions. Genuinely has introduced me to new concepts and made me think of things in new lights.

In the last month or so, posters seem....well.....different. Can’t think how to put it without sounding condescending or offensive.

Anyone else noticed this? Am I going mad?

There was a similar thread recently and the OP said she had viper withdrawl.

Do you think she meant “withdrawal”?

Well I’ve never been on this Netmums and I’m not in Facebook or other social media either, but it’s clear to me that some women on MN assume themselves to be oh so witty / insightful / intelligent. Yes, I’m sure phrases like “huns” are irritating, but can you honestly not see how some of the catchphrases on here would make a newcomer of non-MN user want to cringe - “Get your ducks in a row,” “No is a complete sentence”, “Can I recommend Lundy Bancroft,” “The 1950s are calling,” “Go NC,” etc etc - not to mention all the DH, DD, DS, DM, DCat combinations - what’s all that about? Ir the way some posters literally fawn over certain other posters. Is this any less irritating than “Live your best life?” No, I don’t think so. The only difference on MN is that some people take themselves too seriously.

Also, is it any wonder people troll on here as the responses are always so predictable. For instance, mention in an OP that your husband is out cycling? Cue hundreds of responses that ALL cyclists are selfish yadda yadda because this has now the hilarious and accepted MN response to cycling. Or if you happen to mention you’re a SAHM? Cue hundreds of supercilious posts telling you that you’re “economically-vulnerable” and should find a “fulfilling career.” Or if you have anything positive going for you, you’ll be accused of “stealth boasting.” This is how it goes. I think some people see MN as a earnest, self-conscious hive mind with its own lingo, so it’s easy to wind up.

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I've noticed the weird posters insisting men are naturally lazy/abusive, and women just have to put up with it. Usually followed by creepy little xxx

As already posted, why do people carry on about huns when they're posting dh dm and the ddog.

I posted an aibu a few weeks ago. I didn't get ripped apart at all.

I thought it was because my aibu was so right. Turns out all the vipers have gone. I'm a bit deflated now.

I remember when it was all fields round 'ere.

There used to be vipers who was fair enough now there seem to be a lot of emotionally overinvested posters who trunto simply shut people down by shouting them down. The OP will respond to questions and a few dogged posters will basically question why they've even come on to ask. It's just bizarre and feels more like a mind experiment. It's a shame because there are a lot of people with a wealth of various experiences who simply don't engage because of how poorly moderated it is now.

As already posted, why do people carry on about huns when they're posting dh dm and the ddog

It’s just internet slang. Nobody actually means it.

It’s just internet slang. Nobody actually means it.
But you can say that about hun and hubby!

Yes the DDog, DF, DG, DC etc drive me mad. Just say dog, father, grandchildren, children for God's sake. Half the time they aren't dear anyway!

No, people say hun and hubby in RL. Nobody says DH, DD etc afaik.

Maybe that's true. Doesn't make the whole DD, DDog, Dcat thing any less twee.

Is it really that difficult to share a space on the internet with people who use language that is different to you?

It’s not difficult it’s just different to what I’m used to that’s all.

YANBU. There's a parking thread at the moment which is banal and nasty, both, difficult to achieve but there it is. It's dreary as hell.

I’ve seen some seriously questionable posts that I’ve assumed were trolls and would be deleted, which never were.

It's quite funny OP wants intelligent, considered, witty, discussions. If anyone needs help sleeping I suggest you read a recent offering from the OP ....neighbours overhanging tree...You'll sleep like a baby.

Until a few weeks ago my only association with the term "Hun" was WW1 Germans. Am I the only one?

I like that a wide variety of different people with individual viewpoints, life experiences, and interests are welcome on MN. I like the inclusivity. I'd hate to think someone felt unable to post for fear their grammar isn't perfect, they're not intelligent enough, or don't possess stunning wit. I know I'm not as articulate as many on here, I can't write eloquently succinct posts, but so what? I enjoy particpiatimg in some of the chats when its something of interest to me or when I might possibly be able to help an OP with advice.

Have only just read the OP. Why not elaborate on this:

In the last month or so, posters seem....well.....different. Can’t think how to put it without sounding condescending or offensive.

Some posters pontificating about how topic and/or post quality have declined, are hardly word or idea perfect themselves! Seems a tad ironic.

*participating

Oh dear. Definitely not perfectly written!

Maybe there should be a quiz for any new MN user, the results of which determine whether you will be eligible to join.
Perhaps along the lines of:
Your DH forgot to change the loo roll. Do you
A) LTB;
B) Have a massive row and threaten to LTB if it ever happens again;
C) Do it yourself, while fuming or;
D) Skip along to find a new one, while picking up his discarded underpants and socks en route. Men, bless 'em?

This thread is very helpful for the puzzled beginner:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3670063-mn-beginners-guide

I like that a wide variety of different people with individual viewpoints, life experiences, and interests are welcome on MN. I like the inclusivity. I'd hate to think someone felt unable to post for fear their grammar isn't perfect, they're not intelligent enough, or don't possess stunning wit. I know I'm not as articulate as many on here, I can't write eloquently succinct posts, but so what? I enjoy particpiatimg in some of the chats when its something of interest to me or when I might possibly be able to help an OP with advice.
This sums it up for me. There’s some dreadful superior types here at times, with very little justification.

@NerrSnerr, I find the ‘D’ everyone twee too. As for tinkly fucking laughs and head tilts, it’s all a bit Hyacinth Bucket. I have a mental picture of a certain kind of Mumsnetter loudly trampling over people through life, convinced she’s so very witty and charming, but actually there’s a lot of eye rolling goes on behind her back.

The idea of those people getting sneery about words like ‘hun’ and ‘hubby’ is kind of hilarious, and makes me want to start using them.