to ask what your life goals are now?

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I always wanted to get an education, meet someone, travel a bit, get a home, good job, car and get married. Then have a family.

I had done all of those by 27. My son is now 5 and I remember laughing and saying my goal is to get parquet flooring before I die.

But in all seriousness, what now?

Do you even HAVE to have a goal?

I suppose another goal of mine is to bring my son up as a happy, rounded individual. But that's just parenting isn't it... not a goal. Or a personal goal.

So... what are your LG's now?

I’m mid-30s and I’m married, have DC, own own home etc

My goals are now:

• look after physical & mental health

• ensure financial security for retirement & DC. Would love to retire early if possible!

-get outdoors as much as possible. Do my sport, see family & friends as much as possible - basically just make the most of life & enjoy each day as much as possible.

In addition to waking up breathing every morning I would really like to win the lottery so I could afford to move back to London.

@Passthewinethanks love it.

I would love to get my pelvic floor sorted. It's crap after 3 kids and gets me down so much that I can't run, sneeze or cough without leaking. 😭

Op you have achieved everything you have ever wanted, what's next?

Be grateful for it, enjoy it and don't take it for granted.

I want to speak fluent French. I’m half- French and it was my first language until I was five-years-old.

The embarrassment of going through border control with a French passport but not fully understanding or communicating. Urgh.

Now I'm 49, my goals are to stay healthy (T2 diabetic), watch my DDs live their adult lives, see my grandchildren grow and just enjoy life/grow old with DH. It's quite liberating being older, the small stuff that I stressed over for years is so bloody irrelevant now.

My goals are to stay fit and healthy, travel as much as possible and spend all my money.

Mine too and my husband's, we are definitely on the same page.

PumpityPumpPump, have you been to your GP? I've just got my post Menopause pelvic floor sorted by a physio.

OP, I'm in my 50's. My goals still include places to visit. I want to get back into serious weight lifting and i want to take up Tai Chi. I couldn't take to pilates.

I'm starting off on a static bike, but want to include cycling on holidays.

Get teeth implants.

I'm deciding if i want my sex drive back (I'm being offered oestrogen) and then date. Although I've been told it's crap after 50.

Spend quality time with my Grandchildren. I think this is keeping me 'younger'.

I want a decent rose garden.

I'd like a new kitchen and bathroom but not at the expense of travel.

I want to see more of Scotland while I'm totally mobile. So that's my plan for next spring/summer (it's a shame it's so bloody cold).

My life goals were before my first abusive marriage to work hard and have my own place. My life goals right now are for the moment to be free of sciatica and lower back pain and significant improvement of my mental illness. I always wanted to get a degree to prove I could so I did in social work.

To help others.

To outlive my son who doesn't have the best of health.

To be able to plank for more than 30 seconds, I find it infuriatingly difficult.

To paddle board looking cool. Just once would be great.

Pay off my mortgage and go traveling.

I really really want an abroad holiday with my family. Just a week in Spain or France or something. That's it.

My goals were to have a career I love, earn over £30k, get married to an amazing man, buy a house and have a family.

Done it all other than the have a family (got one on the way) and marriage (getting married this week). So by the end of the year when our first arrives I’ll have ticked it all off the list 😂

Other than that, I guess my new goals are to be the best parent I can be, really embrace and enjoy and be present for bringing up a child, and to not lose myself and what I enjoy. So keep going with the things I did pre kids that brought me the most happiness and joy (going to see live music, and my career).

I’m actually glad I’ve achieved most of the things I wanted to before the baby came along as I don’t have any regrets about missing out on anything and I’m completely ready and excited for this next stage of being a spouse and a mother.

My main goal of the last 5 years was to be happy.

I ditched my abusive exh, found a lovely guy, secured an excellent job, travelled a bit, bought a house, started a family and got married.

My next goal is to give as much time as I can to family and friends, relax and enjoy whatever comes next.

I think I’m in the bubble before parents become elderly and children become teenagers.

I’m hoping that’s a long way off right now

While I am happy with my career progression, I still have one more step until I am as high as I can go.

I mainly want to give the dc a good childhood, and ideally be able yo help them financially too.

We have done a fair bit of travel, but I want to travel more.

Make my oldest ds safe to leave in the house, hes got additional needs.
Make ds2 manage his anxiety so he can go to school full time.
Get a job.
Go to New Zealand, hopefully like it.
Emigrate to New Zealand. Get jobs in New Zealand.
Dcs get good qualifications and get jobs in a forward thinking country that has a future.
I'm pro remain, can you tell? I've always wanted to live abroad.

I LOVE this sort of stuff. Great thread. I’ve been thinking lately that I need some new goals and am starting to flounder.

I turn 30 in a couple of months so that might contribute to this feeling too.

My 20s have been amazing - some travel, a marriage, 2 babies, on our second house now. Been self employed so might expand on that but also I really just want to be home with the kids while they’re small (4 and 1 currently).

One LG should be to lose weight, which has been a goal for the last.... oh.... 20 years 😄 so I guess I should buckle down on that one.

We’re aiming to move abroad this time next year so that’s exciting.

I’m starting a college course next week so maybe some goals will become clearer to me through that.

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Would love to buy an investment property so can add the rental to my measly pension & retire.
Our mortgage is paid & I hopefully will have saved enough in 5 or so years.

I'm 46. I've just remembered my other goal, which I have started, was to get braces to sort out my teeth.

You sound pretty content op- why don’t you just relax and enjoy your life, it sounds great!

My life goal is to nurture a beautiful garden, have my kids grow up healthy and be conscious in how we consume.

It’s so different to what I’d have wanted 20 years ago!

Oh, but a campervan is a big one but no point doing that until we’ve moved, we’ll not want to ship one abroad to our new country I guess.

Long term, travel lots once the kids are grown up! When I’m only 50 DSs will be 25 and 22 so hopefully long gone!

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Sorry forgot to add that as part of my career goals, I wanted to end up with a degree and a Masters or postgrad diploma. Which I have achieved.

Lest my post make it sound like being a wife and mother is my main and only goal. It isn’t (not saying there’s anything wrong if it is, but it isn’t). Establishing myself professionally was far more important to me than marriage/kids for a long time and I’m only moving onto marriage and kids because I’m comfortable with where I’m at professionally.

I want to get a diagnosis for my severely mentally ill step daughter so that her life can re-start. At the moment, we are all in survival mode, she's not getting an education and we are all a nervous wreck, waiting for the next episode.

I want my daughter to have lots of enriching experiences and a stable home to grow up in with comfort.

I want to shop at Waitrose. The full weekly!!

I want a Figaro car :)

To visit my sister where she lives in France.

To have a traditional Christmas with family all around.

To be fitter and thinner.

To buy a house one day.