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To be surprised at how narrow minded my DH is regarding dress sense?

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HennyPennyHorror · 15/09/2019 14:34

Obviously you can't actually know the answer to that but here's the thing...DH is very progressive thinker...very open minded and quite a bit of a hippie in his general being but he dresses in a very samey way.

Only wears navy, grey and black. He will wear a shirt with a cool print or a t shirt like that but it's always with the same navy cotton jumper....thin cotton ones.

Would NEVER wear red or a woolly jumper or even a long sleeved ribbed t shirt...both of which I think men look lovely in.

Will your DH wear a cosy woolly jumper? Will he wear red? Or bright prints?

DH is good looking, great bod...but is missing out I think on more interesting clothes.

I said today when we were watching Bill Hader in Barry "YOu'd look nice in a top like that"...just a long sleeved ribbed tee...and DH went Hmm and I said..."What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?"

And he said yes! DH has a best friend who'se gay! He's not a homophobe...why would he think like that!?

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SoyDora · 15/09/2019 14:37

Mine couldn’t care less about clothes. Has to wear suits for work (which he hates) and weekends are jeans and a hoodie. Occasionally a casual shirt. He’s a director in a corporate bank but dresses like a teenager.
Luckily it wasn’t his dress sense that attracted me to him Grin

Pollywollydolly · 15/09/2019 14:40

My DH refuses to wear short sleeves or shorts ever. We never go on holiday because he would even wear long sleeved tops and jeans on the beach.

bluebeck · 15/09/2019 14:42

I am female and only wear blue black white or grey.

I think a ribbed t shirt sounds vile.

I wouldn't say I am narrow minded about clothes as I wear what I like.

I would be pretty fucked off if my DP kept telling me what to wear.....

steff13 · 15/09/2019 14:42

I think asking him if he thinks long-sleeved tees are a bit gay is as bad as him saying yes. Why would that be your go-to? Regardless, let him dress how he wants.

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HennyPennyHorror · 15/09/2019 14:43

Polly DH will wear shorts...well he has to! We live in Australia! Grin

He just won't wear colour! Or long sleeved t shirts...or thick woolly jumpers in winter.

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HennyPennyHorror · 15/09/2019 14:44

Blue well not specifically ribbed...I like them though...but non-ribbed would be nice too! And chill out! I don't tell him what to wear! Hmm

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HennyPennyHorror · 15/09/2019 14:44

Steff I know what you mean but it was his expression that sort of said he thought that. You know when you know someone...he gave a look that suggested it.

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NorthEndGal · 15/09/2019 14:45

Mine wears red cords , so definitely not afraid to wear colour

raspberryk · 15/09/2019 14:46

Tbf I wouldn't wear a thick woolly jumper in Australian winter either, when I've been in Australia in the winter it's been warm enough for t shirts and thin tops with a cardi for evenings.
As long as he isn't judging others dress sense who cares what he wears? Yabu.

CmdrCressidaDuck · 15/09/2019 14:46

Look, he knows how he likes to dress and he likes it plain and simple. They're his clothes. If he doesn't want to wear what you'd like to see him in, that's the deal, end of story.

SnugglySnerd · 15/09/2019 14:47

My dh is a bit set in his ways with clothes too. It doesn't matter!

Bookworm4 · 15/09/2019 14:49

If my DP wore a long sleeve T I think he’d look daft, he’s a basic shorts/jeans T-shirt/polo guy, no patterns, always looks good. Would you like him telling you how to dress?

ChasingRainbows19 · 15/09/2019 14:51

Mine has no interest in clothes. Jeans and a t shirt or short sleeved shirt. Long shirts for eve out. Will wear shorts in summer. Not keen on pattern but will wear checked. Will wear a mix of colour though.

ElizaDee · 15/09/2019 14:51

and I said..."What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?" And he said yes! DH has a best friend who'se gay! He's not a homophobe...why would he think like that

Are you a homophobe then for using that term in that way?

NoSauce · 15/09/2019 14:53

What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?"

A bit gay? How old are you 11?

CharityConundrum · 15/09/2019 14:55

It doesn't sound as though he's narrow-minded, he just doesn't want you to dress him or criticise his clothing choices by comparing them negatively to people on TV. Why is it so important to you that he dresses in the way that you think he should as opposed to the way that he prefers to? I could understand if he were wearing joggers to a fancy restaurant, but choosing not to wear a pretty specific design of t-shirt isn't indicative of narrow-mindedness to me and I would get very fed-up of someone 'helpfully' drawing my attention to the existence of clothes that I didn't have any desire to wear. How would you feel if he did the same to you? Does he expect to have a say in how you dress? Because then I could understand you frustration!

ElizaDee · 15/09/2019 14:55

Why would you want your DH to wear long sleeved t-shirts anyway? They're fugly.

OvalCanvas · 15/09/2019 14:55

Yabu. He can wear what he likes.

user1480880826 · 15/09/2019 14:55

Your assumption that someone might be considered gay for the way they dress says a lot about you. I’m more concerned about why you said that than his response.

Also, imagine if a man posted this. We would all start attacking him for trying to control how his wife looked.

Your husband can wear whatever he feels comfortable in and it really shouldn’t bother you.

DoctorAllcome · 15/09/2019 14:57

Not everyone likes to experiment with looks or fashion.
Just let your DH dress how he wants to.

MissMogwai · 15/09/2019 14:59

Leave him to it. It's up to him what he wears isn't it?! Why do you care?

My DP wears a uniform for work and then jeans and one of a million different polo shirts when off duty. He might go crazy once in a while and wear something different, such as a smart jumper. Mad times.

I couldn't care less. If he started going on about my clothes as you are, I'd be Hmm too and tell him to wind his neck in.

thegreylady · 15/09/2019 15:00

Mine just wears what I give him. Left to himself he would be wearing the M&S sweater he got in 1969!

Itsfineactually · 15/09/2019 15:00

Why are you using the word gay negatively? What’s wrong with dressing gay?

Fairenuff · 15/09/2019 15:02

Will your DH wear a cosy woolly jumper?

No! He would be too hot. Hardly ever wears jumpers or coats.

Let him wear what he feels comfortable in. I would hate my dh to tell me what I would look good in.

WonderWomansSpin · 15/09/2019 15:02

I'm more concerned about how narrow-minded you are that you'd jump to calling clothes a 'bit gay' and think that was a reason not to wear them.
fwiw my DH does wear colour and some patterns but it's his choice. I wouldn't let him tell me what to wear so I don't tell him. Most adults know what clothes they like, what they feel comfortable in and what suits them. Unless you're on one of those god awful couple makeover programmes, then leave him alone.