To be surprised at how narrow minded my DH is regarding dress sense?

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Obviously you can't actually know the answer to that but here's the thing...DH is very progressive thinker...very open minded and quite a bit of a hippie in his general being but he dresses in a very samey way.

Only wears navy, grey and black. He will wear a shirt with a cool print or a t shirt like that but it's always with the same navy cotton jumper....thin cotton ones.

Would NEVER wear red or a woolly jumper or even a long sleeved ribbed t shirt...both of which I think men look lovely in.

Will your DH wear a cosy woolly jumper? Will he wear red? Or bright prints?

DH is good looking, great bod...but is missing out I think on more interesting clothes.

I said today when we were watching Bill Hader in Barry "YOu'd look nice in a top like that"...just a long sleeved ribbed tee...and DH went and I said..."What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?"

And he said yes! DH has a best friend who'se gay! He's not a homophobe...why would he think like that!?

What he wants her to wear I mean

My DP wears lots of bright colours and has a penchant for orange.

Long sleeved t-shirts are 'a bit gay?'
FFS. Don't use the term gay in such a derogatory way, it's not nice.

A ribbed T-shirt is definitely a bit camp. I don’t understand why you care so much. We all have our own comfort zone when it comes to clothes. I’d never wear short body con dresses with my breasts spilling out. It doesn’t make my life sad, I just don’t like it. Likewise I doubt many people would want to live in my rotation of slouchy linen things and brightly printed dresses. Nothing wrong with that. How interesting are your clothes op?

Why does it matter?

Imagine a man posted this? My wife doesn’t wear this or that

FWIW my DH only wears three colours: navy, black and grey and I couldn’t care less.

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YABU! And controlling! He can dress how he wants.

Imagine the furore if a woman came on here saying his wife won't dress like he wants her to!

DH trusts me to be his personal stylist and quiet frankly I've noticed bright colours don't suite him so I just make sure not to buy them. The only 2 red polo shirts he has are dark red/burgundy.

Is he very slim and young? because a long sleeved ribbed t shirt on an older person wouldn't look that great in my opinion.
As long as hes presentable and wears clean appropriate clothes I think that's the main thing really.

My DP is another who has absolutely zero interest in clothes. He can’t say the word ‘fashion’ without sneering and if he described someone something as ‘trendy’ he would mean it as an insult. He almost always wears jeans or shorts with black or navy polo shirts when he isn’t at work.

That’s just who he is, and I would no more try to change the way he dresses than I would tolerate him trying to change the way I dress.

"What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?"

This is not an okay thing to say.

I haven't heard "a bit gay" to describe a piece of clothing since my children were tweens! What grown adult says that...

And I generally don't police what my husband wears unless he's forgotten to get changed and he needs to wear something more appropriate, then I'll just remind him.

He wears T-shirts from the 80's that he still owns. He isn't remotely interested in fashion.

Leave the poor man alone, not everyone needs to be try hard at dressing.

I think black/navy/ grey is very chic- very French. Red, woolly jumper sounds like something my father would wear. Also would be itchy and hot.

My OH definitely has his own style- classic/ modish and I wouldn't change him for the world ( except the awful tshirt I ' lost', the only control I've ever exerted in 10 years). Back off OP- let him be himself.

A ribbed T-shirt is definitely a bit camp

What an odd thing to write. Never mind think. On what planet is a ribbed t shirt camp. Or "a bit gay".

What does it even mean?

A ribbed t shirt is a bit outdoorsy, I'm not sure I think that is particularly camp to me. I don't get involved in what others wear. Some people very carefully select nondescript others crave standing out.

Not sure how clothes can be gay but ignoring that.

My DH never wears long sleeves,and we live in the north of England where its cold 90% of the time. He lives in either navy,burgundy or khaki coloured tshirts and shorts. If it's really cold he'll wear navy chinos. I dont mind as it's what he feels comfortable in.

Right. Firstly, I don’t see from reading the OP’s post, how people have leapt to the idea that she is ‘telling him what to wear’.
Sounded like she suggested he’d look nice in something, and poked fun, albeit using a phrase that has homophonic overtones, but that I suspect her husband uses. But as she goes on to say, they have a friend who is gay, and they have no problem with this.

Another stance - is that many highly successful people favour a very basic wardrobe. Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs and Barack Obama all make/made a conscious choice to keep their clothing presentable but simple. That’s not to say they didn’t want to look good - they just preferred to focus their attention on other things.

I said..."What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?" And he said yes! DH has a best friend who'se gay! He's not a homophobe...why would he think like that!?

Why do you think like that? You asked him when he clearly didn't like something if that was because it's "a bit gay".

You used gay as a throwaway comment, which presumably popped into your head without you thinking about it and you used it to describe a negative thing / a reason not to like something.

Oh and I haven't heard someone use the expression "a bit gay" since I was at school.

My DH wears whatever he likes and if I buy him something- he will try it and see if he likes if, if not, he won’t wear it again.