To be surprised at how narrow minded my DH is regarding dress sense?

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Obviously you can't actually know the answer to that but here's the thing...DH is very progressive thinker...very open minded and quite a bit of a hippie in his general being but he dresses in a very samey way.

Only wears navy, grey and black. He will wear a shirt with a cool print or a t shirt like that but it's always with the same navy cotton jumper....thin cotton ones.

Would NEVER wear red or a woolly jumper or even a long sleeved ribbed t shirt...both of which I think men look lovely in.

Will your DH wear a cosy woolly jumper? Will he wear red? Or bright prints?

DH is good looking, great bod...but is missing out I think on more interesting clothes.

I said today when we were watching Bill Hader in Barry "YOu'd look nice in a top like that"...just a long sleeved ribbed tee...and DH went and I said..."What? Do you think long sleeved tees are a bit gay or something?"

And he said yes! DH has a best friend who'se gay! He's not a homophobe...why would he think like that!?

Why the heck would you ask if it was a bit gay. What does that even mean. What an odd question. And an odd answer.

YAB so U and offensive

You are the one who comes up with the "gay" comment, how much of an homophobe are you!

Your DH has his own taste - can't you give the man a bit of respect? What you describe as "interesting" sounds ridiculous and ugly - we all have different taste, yours doesn't trump everybody else's.

I wouldn't wear something my DH hates if we are going out together - why would I, but I would hate to be with someone trying to dictate the content of my wardrobe.

Reverse that and the husband would be called abusive, and rightly so.

OH has his own way of dressing mostly smart polo shirts and technical stuff, think the whole Cotswold Outdoors catalogue.

Though he does love a bit of colour and is currently sporting pink Addidas trainers

Why did you ask him if he thinks it "looks a bit gay" in the first place. What does "a bit gay" look like then?

what is this

Is it a hangover from having to dress very very plainly / 'straight' in order not to have the crap kicked out of him growing up or something?

Mine just wears what I give him. Left to himself he would be wearing the M&S sweater he got in 1969!

I suspect mine would be in the school uniform his mother bought him...

Oh, and no, my dp wouldn't wear the things you suggested. Does your dh tell you what to wear?

My DH is extremely rigid with his style and has worn the same sort of thing since we met. When we met he always wore black Chelsea boots, that has now changed to black dr martens. He has one pair of running shoes which are used for their purpose, he wouldn’t be seen dead in trainers otherwise.

His boot change is the only thing that has altered. He owns around 12 checked button up shirts (different colours and styles of check but all pretty similar to me...), a few pale blue shirts which all look the same to me, about ten jumpers and the majority of those are grey then a few pairs of black skinny jeans from Topman.

He would never ever wear a T-shirt unless he was running or in bed on a cold night. I have never seen him leave the house in anything other than black skinny jeans, boots and a button up shirt with a jumper over if it’s cold. He has a couple of long button up mac coat for winter months.

When it is roasting hot outside he still wears jeans, the only time I’ve seen him in shorts is swim shorts and running shorts . I don’t question it anymore, it’s just who he is.

Mine is instantly suspicious of any clothing (or food, or activity) that he thinks is fashionable.

I keep telling him to avoid something because it's trendy is just as daft is liking it because it's trendy, but he's having none of it.

It makes buying him stuff difficult because whatever is easiest to get, by definition he won't like it! Then once it's out of fashion he's got used to it and wants it but we can't get it

My DH dresses very 'samey' as you put it. Like literally the same clothes all the time unless they're in the wash. He just couldn't give a fuck.

Not a chance he'd willingly wear a woolly jumper (apart from his Christmas jumper, can't get that off him come December), but he does wear a lot of red, primarily because he supports Liverpool.

No idea what a long sleeved ribbed t-shirt is but I think I'm glad he doesn't wear them...

A lot of men are like this IME. Late DH only wore about three colours, blue or grey jumpers, white shirts. Pink ('gay') or lilac were definitely out. He was flabbergasted when his brother bought him a red jumper one Christmas with the observation, "We've never seen you in red but it 'grabbed us' as we went into the store." Is there a clue there?

Why do you care? I would hate to be married to a man who was obsessed about what he wore, so shallow, surely you love him for his character and personality not what he wears or looks like. I wouldn’t expect my DH to comment on my clothes and I don’t comment on his.

You seriously referred to a piece of clothing as 'being a bit gay'? Christ alive, can you hear yourself?

I feel sorry for your husband. He knows what he likes, leave him alone. How would you feel if he started 'helpfully' suggesting you wore things you didn't like just to be more 'interesting'?

DP only wears jumpers in winter, for work, and then only thin v-necked ones in dull colours. He finds chunky jumpers too warm, and won't wear bright colours (he will occasionally get very daring and venture into sort of turquoise-y greens.

He won't wear patterned shirts, except for sober stripes and checks. He dresses like a grandad, which is a shame, as more flamboyant things really suit him.

If I had my way, he'd be in bright colours, which take years off him.

My dh is exactly the same. Wears plain t-shirts. Anything with a stripe or colours is just a bridge too far for him. He wears plain navy suits and white shirts for work and that is it. He is an enormous pain in the hole.

I would have thought a man wearing a red woolly jumper was a cause for divorce!

Very few people look good in red

Red trousers -hmmmm. Did he go to Eton? A farmer? Over 80? Playing golf?

Well, surely it's more important he just wears what he wants to wear?

Good question

Just checked my wardrobe

For some reason, mainly blue but that may be explained away that I had to wear blue for 24 years 👍👍😀😎

Why do people want to look younger, genuine question, if you are comfortable in your own skin (& clothes ) then why would you want to wear something that ‘takes years off you’ ? .

Your Husband has his own style, and that's it. You can be the one to wear colours and different styles,and then everyone will be happy.

I never give what my partner wears any headspace. I really couldn't give a crap

I wish mine wouldn’t wear red. If he stuck to grey, black and navy I’d be very happy.

I kind of think if a woman was saying her husband was telling her what he wants to wear it would be read as controlling. People have to wear what they're comfortable in, my partner dresses kind of samey, but I always say he looks/smells good, it's nice to be nice.😃. Maybe you shouldn't just keep picking at what he wears, it might knock his confidence. I'm only thinking if the shoe was on the other foot