To be pissed off with DH?

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So imagine you're a man. The baby is full of cold and has been up all night (you slept on the sofa so had a lovely full night's sleep), both kids have been crying and mardy all day. You're going out for a meal with your friends tonight (by yourself), and one of them asks if you'd like to stay over at theirs. Your wife has been up all night with the baby and had to deal with both kids all day. When you mention staying at your friend's tonight she says 'whatever, do what you want' (in a very pissed off voice). What would you do?

Obviously DH did what he wanted and is now out with his friends and staying overnight, whereas I'm dealing with the poorly baby who has been up 3 times since she went to bed, and bracing myself to be sleeping in her room tonight.

AIBU to be royally pissed off at DH for staying out? I know I said he could do what he wanted but obviously didn't mean it!!

Well now he’ll be all faux wide-eyed innocence ‘but you told me I could!’

In this scenario, am I oblivious, selfish or trying to punish my wife for being passive aggressive?

I’m trying to think of alternative options but those seem to be the three suggested so far.

When you talk to him, and you should, own your own PA in the situation but try to find out what the actual issue is. Does he not notice, not care, or Is he trying to score a point?

If you didn't want him to go you should have said that! He's not a mind reader.

No, he’s not a mind reader, but he’s still a selfish twat.

My husband never would have gone out when our children were ill.