To tell in laws they can't visit

[fireworkbaby]

Got back from holiday last night (very busy, non stop with 2 year old plus 33 weeks pregnant with pgp so not exactly a relaxing holiday). Exhausted, have a cold, loads of laundry, shopping errands etc to do today and tomorrow before back at work on Monday. MIL has just rang DH to ask if they can come up and visit for the day (2.5 hour journey each way so would need to come for several hours to make it worthwhile, would take up the whole day). Apparently they are busy other weekends this month so this is only one they can do. House will need a good clean to get it guest ready but DH has said he would do this. DH would like to see them and sure DS would enjoy it too but would mean tomorrow would be a write off and I just want to rest and slowly get sorted before work tomorrow. AIBU to say it's too short notice and another weekend would be better? Not sure why this could not have been discussed earlier and feeling a bit sad at the prospect of my chilled out weekend being taken away?

You are too tired . Just say no .
Protect your privacy and need to rest

Laughing at the spa day suggestion. Jesus wept.

All these MIL threads are the same, I hope you realise these are your DH parents. I bet you would not treat your own parents the same way, or ask Mumsnet what to do over something so simple? First world problems eh?

I don't agree with PPs suggesting DH go and meet them halfway for an outing. Why should OP be stuck at home doing all the chores and errands alone? That's twice the work for her and hardly the relaxing family time they were planning.

I don't think anyone has suggested that the OP should do all the chores and errands alone. The DH can do his share around the visit to his parents.

I cant imaging anyone inviting themselves over when a family have just come back off holiday. I mean your own common sense would tell you not to be so invasive and that the family would have loads of jobs on.
What have you decided OP?

They've not come, DH asked if they could do a different weekend and it turns out it is just next weekend they can't do so they are going to come in 2 or 3 weekends time instead. All sorted and they were fine about it. I think it was definitely the right decision as I woke up feeling even worse today and have been able to get lots of rest in amidst jobs.

For those asking about the mattress the delivery guy asked DH to help him carry the old one out and the new one in (definitely a 2 person job as fiddly to get round corners and very heavy), I guess he wouldn't have asked if it had just been me here but it was definitely easier to have DH here and means it is in the right place now!

Cadburys as I've already said it would be the exact same if it had been my parents asking to come in these circumstances and with this amount of notice, it's not at all because they are my ILs and quite strange you assume that. Sure it's a first world problem but so is most of AIBU!

Keep resting before you end up crippled!!!

Glad you could rearrange and have a new mattress.