To think that reading Mumsnet gives you a pretty poor view of the male race

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Just that really. Unfortunately it seems, in the main, to be justified.

AIBU?

I think it’s difficult to say as people generally only post problems or challenges on here as they need advice, and a lot of those are relationship based and a large percentage of women on MN are in heterosexual relationships with men - so there will be a lot of cases where the man comes off badly.

If it was a board of mainly men posting about their lives in would probably skew to women coming off badly.

But people don’t tend to post about their relationships if they’re happy as their male partner is great, because there isn’t much to post or ask input on (unless they just fancied a stealth boast!)

Maybe, as it's a concentration of reported bad behaviour.

Though the poor view comes because of the bad behaviour; you could deduce that some men give you a pretty poor view of the male race.

Yeah the men do get a bad rap. But if the cap fits.....!

Yanbu. People tend to need more advice about poor behaviour than a happy relationship!
The same could be said for mil and step mum threads too, the majority of those posts are negative or get negative response.

I also find it interesting that MN tends to show that women are still doing most of the heavy lifting when it comes to home and family, a lot of the posts here are from women who feel unsupported or stressed because her male partner isn’t pulling his weight with childcare/household chores etc.

I am struck rather by the number of women doubting themselves, expecting to be told to put up with things. Perhaps that is the message they tend to receive elsewhere

Long live MN say I.

Well the stuffs happened whether we point it out or not .

Why the negativity is always aimed at those who notice/point/call it out over being angry or upset at the men doing it in the first place I'll never know.

Being male is your sex not your race.... MN gives a pretty poor impression of literacy and comprehension IME.

I think it gives a worse impression of the female 'race' tbh

I think it probably gives a pretty accurate view of the male sex.

I can see where you're coming from, but I suggest that it mostly confirms to many women that they are not losing the plot, being selfish, a boring nagging wife/partner, as many men would have them believe.

I've been on here a long time, and have seen many threads where an abused woman has seen the abuse for what it is, and got herself (and usually children too) out of the abusive situation. For that alone, I think mumsnet is worth the space it takes up on the internet.

And to go some way to balance it, there are often threads where woman are told they are taking the piss and have their arses handed to them. It's not completely one sided.

people don't post about the good stuff. you could say the same about MIL's for instance as people only post about problems.
if you were to start a thread about good husbands, it would soon get a good response (and shut down by the anti men)

Personally I agree with @araiwa it gives me a pretty poor view of the female race.

There are so many women bashing women. So many women hating the step mums. Always expecting every damn penny from everyone else. It's horrid.

If you want the opposite, go look at the predominant views on Reddit. They loathe women there.

Yanbu, men are terrible and need to sort themselves out.

Good husband threads happen all the time and I've never seen any getting shut down by anti men posters. I've been on here for 15 years so I feel I can say this with some authority.

No - select members of the male sex give me a poor view, among them: Geoffrey Boycott, Ched Evans, Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Epstein and my abusive ex.

Tbh, it gives me a poor view of the human race sometimes...

I think as someone said above people only post when they're having issues. I can't believe some of the men y o u read about here exist in the same way I can't believe some of the extreme women you 'meet' here! I would say it's so telling when people use ltb and the OP jumps on it, I find it really sad as it does mean things must be awful for them- if someone said ltb to me I'd laugh and say whoa this is tough but we're happy or we work over all. Makes me count my blessings sometimes

I expect if there was a mansnet or similar we'd see the same level of unreasonable polarisation. I guess the root cause is that this is primarily a site for woman (not exclusively I know) and it tends to focus on things that people need advice or guidance on (or to rant) and therefore it's predisposed to nag at men. Most people don't come on to state how wonderful the men in their life are. A self fulfilling prophecy!!

Gosh, yes. Sometimes I feel like singing "Glad to be Gay" when I read some stories on here!

Well men went one better smith. Forget mansnet. They gave us punters net. If anyone is unsure about what men really think about women

Which probably reflects nothing more than when people are amongst people of their own sex / gender (sorry it's so hard to know) they feel comfortable / more than happy to slag the other "type" off.

No one "slags" them off though.

You cant really call discussing abuse, control, violence, narcissism etc as slagging them off. Its usually stuff that's actually happened. Posters recognising patterns of abuse .

It's my experience that gives me a pretty poor view of the male race. It does get confirmation on here, but that helps me to recognise it wasn't just me.