I took my parents and kids out for dinner tonight and when we were ordering, the manager tried to tell my 8yo that he couldn’t have chips on their own. At the time i thought he was joking so just explained to him that my DS is autistic and was about to get very upset. The manager said ‘you could have warned me’ like I should put a label on my DS or something! I went from thinking he was joking to thinking he was a bit rude, but no harm. Some people don’t know how to respond. Whatever.
However, when he brought the meals over he leaned down to me and asked if I’d seen the restaurant’s Facebook page. ‘It’s not a criticism, just an observation,’ he said as he walked back to fetch something. I looked up the Facebook page and the post he was referring to was the one that’s been doing the rounds about fussy eaters going blind. I was livid.
When he came back I told him I was really offended, and particularly when I’d already explained to him that chips are the only thing on their menu that my DS eats. He got a bit shirty and told me I couldn’t take offence because he didn’t intend any. Eventually he just snapped ‘I apologise’ and walked away.
AIBU to think it was disgusting of him to do that? Even if he hadn’t known my DS is autistic, it’s none of his business what my family eat (and it definitely won’t be his business now as I won’t be going back!).
My Mum thinks I was BU because he was just trying to point out that good nutrition is important. (I’m also a bit pissed off that when I went to the loo and the manager went across and spoke to her about not wanting to offend me she told him not to worry about it, but that’s another AIBU.)
It’s a village restaurant that’s technically a pub, if you know the kind I mean, so we had paid when we ordered. I think I would have just walked out if we hadn’t.