to be such a sad bridezilla

[smurfgirl]

DP's brother is getting married 8 weeks before us and I am gutted.

And I know its ridulously unreasonable, I should elope without anyone because big weddings are a waste of time etc etc

But I want a big wedding, and I am peed off that his brother is doing it so soon before ours.

just make sure that yours is better

Well when he is married, the family can put ful focus onto your wedding.

My db and dsis got married in the same week. One in NY and one in Barbados. It's not a competition, get over it

obv MrsB

hmm yes touch of the geen eyed monster there smurfgirl!

Look at it this way - at least it's not the week before, or week after, or the same day ...

yes you are being unreasonable...a wedding is just one day to start your marriage...there are hundreds of people doing it the same day as you, other people will probably have hired and will hire your venue, the cake will taste the same as other peoples and the band/dj will have done tons before..

But NEVER will it have been yours and DP's special day before....so on the day nothing else will matter....and they will be dead jealous of you obce there's is over cos you have it all to look forward to.

Do you think they are deliberately out to steal your thunder ? If not then yes YABU. They get fussed over then you in turn.

I know I am jealous - partly because we have been waiting ages and still have ages to go.

Also inlaw issues, and everyone has been so excited for them, and tbh nobody gave a shit about us when we got engaged.

Eight weeks is quite a long time. Just make a mental note at their wedding of things you don't like/have gone wrong etc, and make sure your own goes soooo much more smoothly.

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I think you are a being a tad unreasonable, sorry. Eight weeks is ages! Use it as a dry run for your own - one of my best friends booked my reception venue and then had her wedding eight weeks before mine. Was mildly peeved but it was very useful to see what worked and what didn't.

It'll be fine smurfgirl - themoon66 is right - just take notes of all the things that go wrong at their wedding and make sure you do 'em better/different at yours.

Even if it is thunder stealing, you'll find it's easier to take the high road.

Also the people who don't give a shit when you get engaged are usually the people who surprise you in a nice way on the day.
I remember my MIL saying 'do you ever talk or think about anything else?" when we'd been engaged a fortnight and I was really overexcited.

She cried like a baby at the wedding and provided me with my "something borrowed" and wrote me a really lovely note to go it about how happy she was I was marrying her PFB.

I"m sure you'll have a wonderful day but do make sure you check sweetcherrypie's thread to make sure you don't commit any MN fauxs pas.

Agree Went to ex bestfriends's wedding a month before ours (our date fixed before they'd even got engaged) and mentally noted some "what not to do"s !

I agree with the get a grip, and get over it comments.

Sorry.

Why does it have any bearing on your day and whether it's a big wedding or not? You just do what you want. I just don't get it - honestly.

I know someone who had booked their wedding date a year and a half in advance.

Then, her DP's cousin and partner postponed their wedding that was 8 months earlier than theirs and arranged it for EXACTLY the same day as hers.

See now THAT is something to be peeved about.

She has now brought hers forward a couple of months so that they arent on the same day.

YABU. It's not a competition. You are making a lifelong commitment to the man you (hopefully) love with all your heart.

All the stuff afterwards is just a big party for the people who love you to celebrate with you both.

Believe me, I'm a florist and I've seen lots of weddings!!