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To be bemused at people that can’t name their newborns

90 replies

Potofjoy · 07/09/2019 16:40

I have an acquaintance that still hasn’t named their baby and it’s now 4 weeks old. Surely you have a good idea what to choose, after all there’s plenty of time to draw up a shortlist! Did you all have names ready or was it a case of waiting to see what inspired you at the time?

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EdnaAdaSmith · 07/09/2019 20:22

Alexel baffled I'd agree - people who say they are"baffled" are rarely genuine... Bemused is a whole different kettle of fish and a far less strongly felt reaction, akin to musing...

Funlovingpastacat · 07/09/2019 20:26

For both my kids we had a favourite name prepared, and then when they were born, it didnt suit them.
It prob took a week to name DS. 4 weeks is pushing it though!

Funlovingpastacat · 07/09/2019 20:28

I find it more bemusing (if thats a word) when people name a baby who hasn't yet been born

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/09/2019 20:28

Dh and I had a first and middle name for dd and when she came out she was too strong for her first name so we swapped it. We were both in agreement.

Iwantacookie · 07/09/2019 20:30

We went through a baby book and wrote down a list of all our favourite names and just kept narrowing it down until we were left with one.
I thought this is what everyone did.
Names were picked by 20 weeks. I wouldn't tell anyone our names though.

BluebellCockleshell123 · 07/09/2019 20:34

Jeez - each to their own guys.

We had a shortlist for DC1 which we chose from 5 mins after the birth but didn't find it so easy for DC'S 2&3 and waited for the max amount of time allowed before we made a definite decision.

AnnaNimmity · 07/09/2019 20:43

I was 6 weeks for most of mine - exh wouldn't start thinking about it until the baby was born, and then he simply vetoed each of my choices. It took ages to reach a compromise because we had very different tastes in names. With my last I got my way because we'd split up

I'd have a very different bunch of names if he'd agreed to each of mine - Ptolemy was my favourite for ages!

m0therofdragons · 07/09/2019 20:52

Had had twins and wanted to make sure they had names in case they had to be taken to scbu or worse, died. It was a challenging pregnancy so I planned for the worst. Dtd1 left the operating theatre to be taken to scbu with a name which was what I wanted. I'd expect a name within 48 hrs, after that I find it bizarre or assume some family politics. Wouldn't say that out loud though.

tillytrotter1 · 07/09/2019 21:20

I never even considered it would be a girl, we had plenty of boys' names but no girls'.

MRex · 07/09/2019 21:34

@44PumpLane - oh poor kids, being called The Krays by everyone.

GlassCeilings · 07/09/2019 21:38

Took 6 weeks with both of mine. DH and I are very very busy people and have very demanding professional careers. We just didn’t get the time to sit down together and make a decision until after baby was born. Both times we had a very tough time with long hospital stays and readmissions etc etc, so we didn’t have the headspace to decide until weeks later. Both of their names are absolutely perfect! 🙂

GlassCeilings · 07/09/2019 21:46

There’s a lot of judgement in this thread. I honestly can’t see why anyone else would be bothered / interested / bemused by this or even care. People do a lot of things in parenting that i don’t do and can’t get my head around, like controlled crying for example, but it’s really none of my business.

GunpowderGelatine · 07/09/2019 21:48

YANBU. What gets me is "Out girl name was Ella but She doesn't look like an Ella". Your baby looks like whatever you decided to call it in pregnancy, they all have the same faces FFS

Abouttimemum · 07/09/2019 22:03

My baby was premature and I spent about 6 weeks before that in hospital, everything was a mess so we hadn’t thought about names at all. He was in special care for ages before we named him. He was known by his surname! Once we got to know him it was quite easy to pick a name.
Under normal circumstances we probably would have sorted it I’m sure.
I wouldn’t be set on a name before birth anyway though, I know a few babies whose looks and personalities just don’t suit their names.

Makesmilingyourbesthobby · 07/09/2019 22:31

3dd's and didn't name any of them until they was born as didn't know sex until they was born so only did a little name list before they was born and for me I liked to see them first but dd2 I was a single mother having her so dk if it was a factor, Her father told me he didn't mind was all I got from him and I just couldn't pick one off my list so when she was 11days old I put the names I liked in a hat (with middle names too) and let my dd1 pick and 5 years later I love her name and don't see anything else suiting her

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