To think that if couples post regular photos

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Of themselves all loved up on Facebook, that they arent really all that happy?

An ex?

No, work colleague.
I mean, good on her, they always look to be having an amazing time but I wonder if it really is all that blissful and wonderful. Very fortunate if it is

Some people post loads and are really happy, others hardly post at all and are really unhappy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know happy couples who post on FB.

My DD had no pictures of her and her ex, because he was never out with her and the children.

You can't judge anything from SM.

You wouldn't even know I had a DH based on what I post. We are probably pictured together publically about 5 times a year and it’s onlu SIL that posts them. I’d say we are happy. I don’t think it’s really a measure either way though.

I have loads of photos with my current husband and our dd. My ex-husband would never have his picture taken so I really make the most of showing off my family now! (Had no dc with ex)

We post quite a few when we go out or are doing stuff.
Yes very happily married.

Some people just like taking and posting photos. Are you always so negative?

All the "perfect happy life on Facebook " couple that I know, have separated or divorced.

I don’t think it’s necessarily true of pictures, but IME it’s ALWAYS true of big gushy status’s.

Yeah you're defo right. Not always the case of course but a lot of the time.

I have a family member who on Facebook and Instagram are always posting and resposting photos of each other with gushing supportive messages, what no one would guess is that they regularly fall out and go days without speaking to each other

Sometimes that’s the case, yes. But it seems a bit mean to speculate about your colleague’s happiness and relationship.

Not being mean, just curious if things really do appear that wonderful.
They are very lucky if it is.

This is purely anecdotal but the two couples we know who post the most lovey-dovey shite on FB are the most dysfunctional. In one couple, he's an abusive alcoholic and she's and enabler. In the other, she's simply a bitch who treats her husband horribly, and he's too cowardly to stand up to her. Yet there they are....full of endearments, 'making memories', and 'To the best in the World' bullshit. It's like they have to 'put it out there' to make themselves believe it.

I don’t thinks any correlation between number of pictures and happiness in a relationship...

Which isn’t to say I believe all the shiny happy people, that their lives are like hat every day.

Exavtly what @AcrossthePond55 said. a couple of my v close friends whose marriages are hanging by a thread often post very couply, gushy statuses.

Depends what you mean by loads I suppose. We are really happy and when we go out we do take photos and upload, but that is maybe once a fortnight or once a month. We are one of those very affectionate couples too, so holding hands or hand on each others leg etc.

However there is a tendency to want to show the best of your life online and I do wonder about a couple who post loved up photos all the time and write gushy status updates when they argue every time we see them.

In short, maybe, maybe not

*”think there’s ” not “thinks”

Photos, I think are genuine- it shows that a couple actually like to spend time with each other, doing thing and visiting places together etc (from what I can see in my friends list anyway)

Gushy posts, photos that only ever seem to be taken in their own front room ("spending quality time with this one"), and tagging in pics of sunsets or two sets of footprints, overlaid with cringy sentiments written in italics...hmmm

It depends. Sometimes they're just trying to convince themselves that everything is fine, sometimes they're just that kind of oversharing people. But if they start posting quotes, then you know it's all over...

We never ever post pictures together but we are perfectly happy.

YABU - there's no correlation at all. I get the impression that you don't actually want to believe your friend is in a loved-up relationship. Why wouldn't you just be happy for them?

I only know a few people who post a lot of couple pics but they genuinely are blissfully happy and incredibly well-suited. I love seeing pics of them. I don't constantly post pics of me and DP but I do now again, on holiday etc or special occasions. We've been together 16 years now and we're very happy indeed. Sorry to disappoint!

It depends. Some people really are just coupley sharers.

Equally other people use social media to present a fake image of their own lives. E.g. social media shows all the flowers and the gifts and the date nights and #famalam but then knowing them offline the flowers were to make up for yet another argument, the date night has been done because he stayed somewhere else last weekend etc.

I think it shows that on social media you're only getting a narrow snapshot

I know a couple where the husband posts pictures of him and his wife all the time, his social media profile page are all pictures of him and her......he snogs anything that moves. She has been told about but refuses to believe it, he always worms his way around it???

Depends if the photo is them in specific nice locations where they’re documenting their holiday experience and so on then plenty of people do that. You can’t really tell much they could be happy or unhappy just like how someone smiling to a photo could be deep down miserable.

But if the photo is specifically to show them all over each other and them proving their love to the world... then I guess if they’re new in a relationship then it’s an announcement but if it’s a constant thing then yeh screams insecure to me and a bit bleurgh