Cleaner cancelled last minute due to childcare

[UmmUmar]

I've found a fantastic cleaner, single mum by the sounds of it, brings her daughter with her (I don't mind), you can tell she is struggling financially and with her little one.

Today she cancelled on me 10 mins before the appt because of childcare. I understand that with a kid, things get a bit difficult with work but a heads up would have been nice!

Since my house has been a tip I've got to do it all by myself (pregnant + toddler, and dh works long hours)

AIBU to be upset?

Skittlenommer.... Wow! Another vote for the most wanky post I've ever read on mumsnet....... And BTW if you don't have children why are you replying to issues you know nothing about?

Third world problems ! Shit happens, move on

Princess if cleaning your own house because your cleanings own child is sick, is too much for you, maybe that second baby wasn't such a great idea? Seriously there are parents on here that work full time, look after their children and clean their houses. TBH I don't think your cut out for this whole parenting thing......

Oh do piss off .

Why so triggered?!

skittlenommer you have got to be purposely goady surely?
Not only have you repeatedly written the most middle class wanky comments I've ever read but you're also breaking employment law by discriminating against parents. I really hope the cleaners, Gardner a etc all fail to attend so you see its not just parents emergencies happen to.

@Skittlenommer And a single Mum doing cleaning jobs doesn’t work hard?! This endless rhetoric that the well off have worked hard and the implication that everyone else hasn’t is really unfair.

Blimey I'd want an awful lot more than £8per hour to cleanup after someone

I think you are a bit U. I’m 7 months pregnant with a toddler. I have low blood pressure and low iron so pretty exhausted. DH works and my house is clean and reasonably tidy.
I am also self employed and there have been times when I’ve had to cancel clients at short notice due to my son being poorly.
They are not nice phone calls to have to make and as one person said you are out of pocket. More importantly I’d rather my son not be ill for his sake more than anything.
He is my priority and I’m sure her little girls is hers.
I’m pretty sure you’ll live 😉

Wow.. this thread has made a great venting place for some mums who desperately want some acknowledgement for some surfaces they clean. Suck it up buttercups.

Wow aren't you a peach? @MrsNotNice Apt user name.

YANBU to be upset. It's annoying when someone cancels on you last minute.

YABU to be moaning about your house being a tip because the cleaner can't come, unless you have additional needs and physically can not move. Pregnancy isn't an illness.

I've never had a cleaner but AFAIK aren't they just really supposed to be for when you are unable to do the basics? Like you're not really meant to live in shit for a week purposely because you know someone else is coming to clean it up? Your house is a tip - that's your own fault.

I really think it’s a joke. Surely no-one is that pathetic and spoilt?

FudgeBrownie2019

DH and I worked hard to get to a place where we don’t need to lift a finger at home. We’re not about to start doing chores now

I can’t help hoping that all your white goods break down at once - and the pipes burst.

Yes you are. Here's a thought. This time...do it yourself like most of the rest of us have to

OMG YABU

Just think of all the exercise you'll be getting ? Stretching muscles without yoga, pilates, or tai chi. all free. Start shaking your butt and do it. And just btw why did you let the place get like a tip? Are you unable to even pick up after yourself or your toddler ? Get a grip. this is real life. Grandmother here who had 3 under 5 and no housekeeper, minimal childcare and a full time job. Trust me it's good for you. :)

Yabu it's only cleaning,she can't clean it if it's a tip.

karenbokaren

Oh yeh! You are soo Amazing Karen that you managed to clean while pregnant with twins and have 2 special needs kids one who is low functioning. Isn’t that what you were after??

Coming to someone else’s thread and putting them down to get attention isn’t kind. Start your own and then we can all give you that pat on the back.

For the record op, my house is a tip right now because I have a toddler and am pregnant and exhausted due to toddler sleep regression and I can’t afford a cleaner.. but my house is clean just the mess .. but this thread has been grating on me.

It is not hard to see that both OP and the cleaner can get some empathy. Even if OP is being a bit silly. Piling on her is shit.

Especially those saying she shouldn’t be a parent. Bloody hell some of you have tendencies to be emotionally abusive.

The fact you are all so worked up about this and feeling insecure goes to show that you too might need support in keeping on top of the house. Why not just be happy someone else managed to get that extra bit of help.

Yes the cleaner has her circumstances too.. when she comes here we can support her.. she lives with in laws so she probably does get some support with the house and with childcare. Or maybe not who knows.

My house is a tip because I’m pregnant and have a toddler and as a SAHM my energy is going on taking him out to play and meeting people and I think those that get to put their kids in nursery are privileged because I can’t afford to right now and so he is home with me.. Come at me silly one-upmanship ladies because my kitchen sink has dishes right now and my laundry is everywhere..

It’s stressing me out but since my toddler is my priority, and I’m sleeping when he sleeps, I’m not doing much about it.

I’m such a princess who lives in a palace too... because I’m wishing I had support from family which I don’t- some of you princesses do..

Plz come and have digs at me and at me not deserving to be a parent so I can have a go at you. Leave the OP bloody alone. She didn’t ask for this.

Why are you commenting on this Mumsnet thread if you don't have children?

It's not one up man ship

Oh really?
'I've got seven children and I clean my own house.'

''I'm a lone parent to fifteen and I clean my own house.'

'I've got innumerable health conditions and I clean my own house.'

'I've never had a hand from anyone ever in my life and I've never had two pennies to rub together and I clean my own house.'

It's like the Four Yorkshiremen.

NB I am NOT having a go at anyone's actual numbers of children or health conditions or working status or anything else, before anyone starts.

Just since I last posted people have piled on to call the OP a princess, pathetic and spoiled, point out helpfully that she won't die if her cleaner doesn't come for one week...

Is it a 'woman's work' thing? I've never seen this much vitriol in discussions about getting your car valeted or using a gardener.

I despair - the end of the world!
What's the problem with a messy house anyway? Children thrive on germs.

And for the record most lone parents out there get free hours of childcare for their toddlers. I’m which the toddler can exhaust their energy while mum sees to her needs and chores..

And those who work, their toddlers are in nursery making their mess there. When in late pregnancy they might still be getting paid while on maternity leave and their kids stay in nursery or their DH works normal hours so can help.

You do realize spending the day at home with a toddler, following them to feed, cleaning up after them while pregnant with complications, is quite physically demanding and you sometimes don’t have enough energy to stay on top of chores because of it.

The OPs DH works long hours and her toddler is exhausting their energy with her and the house is their playing space.. so becoming a mess is quite easy actually and says nothing about OP being princess or rude.. it can be stressful.

Or let’s just say OP just isn’t cut out to be a domestic goddess..why anyone is getting so worked up about this is beyond me.. it would’ve been sufficient to just tell her she is being unreasonable to not excuse the cleaner for this time..

This thread is really telling to be honest. About pp and not about OP

Tbf op I'm skint and would love a cleaner and I hate people messing me about but you really don't always know what is going on with people. Maybe there was another reason she cancelled that she couldn't tell you about...

If she's shit then get someone else preferably an agency but if she's nice is give some leeway.

And yes, I’ve been pregnant and had a toddler at the same time, husband always working and I was working and doing house stuff. It’s exhausting but possible. It’s just called being a parent. A mum.

Make your life easier where you can. If you can afford a cleaner, get one, the same with a gardener or someone doing your ironing.

No need for all this mummy martyrdom.

Sb74

So? Clap clap. That’s what OP does most days. This is the third time the cleaner is coming.

Comprehension doesn’t seem like people’s strength in here. She was complaining about being messed about. 10 minutes notice for cancelling and being late twice when this is only the cleaners third visit is hardly acceptable in any working relationship.

And no, being a mum has nothing to do with cleaning. Just like not breastfeeding doesn’t make you less of a mum.

Pathetic attention seeking tbh