@chickenyhead
Well that's just the thing. It's perfectly possible to feel good about yourself, celebrate your identity, and want the best possible state of affairs for yourself, without having to simultaneously 'other' people, hate non-nationals, or do other nations down, wish harm upon them, and blame them for all that is wrong with the world.
The former does not necessitate the latter, and nor is the latter an inevitable consequence of the former.
It's why the charge of being 'England haters' often flung at Scots nationalists is so risible. It's perfectly possible to want the best possible in all respects for both Scotland and England, and both Scottish and English people, but fundamentally disagree on what is actually 'best possible' for each.
I totally understand how you feel about BNP/UKIP, because every time I see the idiots in the SDL making fools of themselves yet again, or the couple of clowns who walk around with their 'England, get out of Scotland' banner I feel exactly the same. They're the small cadre of morons who hitch themselves to Indi and set the whole thing back by their presence, but they're not representative of me, not representative of the wider movement, and they're certainly not going to shame me into hiding my Scottishness or openly admitting I'm a firm advocate of Independence.
There's nothing about Independence or Scots nationalism that requires anyone in Scotland to act, think, or talk like a bigot at all, so there's certainly no need to be ashamed of it, and nor is there any basis for ridiculous claims that all Scots nationalists are divisive, xenophobic bigots by nature. It's certainly not true of all English folk, irrespective of what the BNP/UKIP/EDL clowns get up to.