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Should i have a word with school

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Anonmummyoftwo · 04/09/2019 16:30

Dp thinks i should mind my own but i do want to speak to school so asking here. Taking ds to school this morning and stopped a shop seen a mum with kids in same school she was getting bits for lunch for them. All parents were giving a list or what kids can not have in school the normal no fizzy pop no sweets ect but in big black bold writing it say no nuts that a child with a nut allergy was attending. I seen this mum put a snikers bar in both her dc lunch bags. When her oldest said mum we cant have nuts or chocolate she just unwrapped it and said well eat it fast at lunch so they dont see. Shop was busy and a few mums seen. My ds is in one of her dc class and i asked him dose she normally have things like at at lunch and he said yes. My dp thinks that i should mind my own but i think i should have a word with a teacher. What if the child with the allergy comes into contact with one of the kids. So should i have a word with school

OP posts:
SimonJT · 04/09/2019 17:31

Tell the school.

I have a severe kiwi allergy, someone touching me after handling a kiwi would cause me to have a severe reaction leading to cardiac arrest.

Tonnerre · 04/09/2019 17:34

I would email the school to check if the nut ban includes peanuts (they are not technically a nut

Something tells me that, when the school sent that list round, they didn't say to themselves "Hmmmm, this child isn't allergic to peanuts, but we don't need to clarify that, do we, because of course every parent will know that a peanut is a legume not a nut".

Melancholymuffin · 04/09/2019 17:35

@laweaselNW peanuts are legumes. Hence why people with peanut allergies can often eat other nuts with no issue.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 04/09/2019 17:36

You can ban foods, however all it gives is a false sense of security.

The child in question needs to be aware of their allergies/triggers and what they can and can’t eat.

If it’s airborne then that’s a whole different ball game.

NearlyGranny · 04/09/2019 17:36

IaweaselNW, Peanuts are NOT actually nuts at all, any more than Bombay duck is duck or baby powder contains real baby!

Apologies if you were just being facetious.

Bunnybigears · 04/09/2019 17:38

@worriedaboutmygirl peanut not technically a nut? Erm, clue is in the name love

Oh dear IaweaselNW a peanut isnt a nut it is a legume.

LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 04/09/2019 17:39

Absolutely have a word with school. They could cause a serious reaction in an allergic child. People die due to but allergies.

CaptainCallisto · 04/09/2019 17:43

Speaking as a lunchtime supervisor, please tell the school. In a hall full of children, (with kids needing bags and packets opening, help cutting food up, spilled drinks, the endless opening of Frubes, kids crying because they can't fit on a table with their friends...) it's extremely unlikely that an unwrapped chocolate bar would be picked up on. Especially if the child is old enough that they're likely not to need help with anything.

Even if the school just put a note in the next newsletter/email to reiterate that the nut ban includes chocolate bars, that would be something.

Millie2017 · 04/09/2019 17:47

@poster Mummadeeze

You are spot on

@HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend
You have no idea what you are talking about. My DD has a severe nut allergy. If someone eats a snickers and then holds her hand, she will have a life threatening reaction.
Your statement that a child needs to be aware of their allergy/triggers and what they can and can’t eat is ignorant and ill informed.

Our school is nut free. One child had an anaphylactic shock when another parent sent their child in with a packed lunch with Nutella in their sandwich. An ambulance was called and the child nearly died.

Please @Anonmummyoftwo report this in any way you feel comfortable but please do report.

ImGenderfree · 04/09/2019 17:54

Agree with Captain - I’ve helped out at lunchtime occasionally (normally in the office) and it is difficult. There are often only 1 or 2 people in the dinning room with the rest of staff in the playground. Time is spent exactly how Captain describes it - it would be really difficult to spot a snickers bar without the wrapper. Please tell the school and they can’t eal with it.

Lumene · 04/09/2019 17:57

If it was my child who could die due to another parent deliberately taking in nuts when asked not to, I’d be relying on anyone who could flagging it. So I would report it.

stucknoue · 04/09/2019 18:42

Speak to school and just say that it's come to your attention that a child is bringing snickers rather than you saw her in the shop

Hederex · 04/09/2019 18:51

Absolutely I would report it. It doesn't make you 'that parent' when a firm email from the school to all parents could save a child's life.

proudredhead · 04/09/2019 18:54

Peanuts, whilst being a legume and not a tree nut, and have a very similar structure to tree nuts. Hence anyone with an allergy to "true" nuts can also be allergic to peanuts, so it really doesn't matter if it's a true not or not as far as allergies are concerned.

Good on you OP - I'd mention it too, couldn't have it on my conscience otherwise.

proudredhead · 04/09/2019 18:55

Similar protein structure that should have said!

RedElephants · 04/09/2019 19:00

Those that are saying it's none of the ops business, I guess you've not seen anyone have a reaction to a allergy and have had to administer a epipen?
Even with a little training it's bloody scary..
I would suggest you doubters, read some, and get some training!!

laweaselNW · 04/09/2019 20:06

@ALOEVERALYNN erm peaNUT

Weezol · 04/09/2019 20:14

PLEASE let the school know, confidentially, precisely what you witnessed. I would suggest an email to encourage action, as this will otherwise leave a 'paper trail' if, God forbid, something terrible were to happen and nothing had been done

You're right to raise it with the head. I'd send the email tonight, just in case you can't speak to anyone tomorrow.

WhatsMyPassword · 04/09/2019 20:21

Erm, clue is in the name love.

@IaweaselNW It's a legume not a nut, 'love'

hazeyjane · 04/09/2019 20:39

laweaselNW

"Despite its several common names, the peanut is not a truenut."

From the Encyclopedia Britannica www.britannica.com/plant/peanut

hazeyjane · 04/09/2019 20:44

...and OP, definitely let school know. They can warn lunchtime supervisors and put a reminder out to parents to avoid nut products.

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 04/09/2019 20:50

Absolutely report. In fact I'd have told her to her face.

cakeandchampagne · 04/09/2019 20:53

Let the school know. Someone could have a serious or even fatal reaction.

worriedaboutmygirl · 04/09/2019 20:54

Beside the point but coconut isn’t strictly a nut either. Nor is a donut.

PleasedToSeeYou · 04/09/2019 21:03

TulipsTwoLips are you serious? Have you seen how manic a school dinning Hall is?
How about parents stick to the rules and take some responsibility

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