To kick off at school

[Kplpandd]

My daughter has just come back from her first day at a new school (year 1) and told me she didn't have lunch. I phoned school who said that office staff dont deal with lunches and to speak to teacher in the morning.

Am I being unreasonable to be fuming right now or should I just put it down to a blip?

I wonder if the lunch has different sittings and being new to year 1 they forgot to tell her what the signal for her sitting was.
If you drop off, ask in the morning if they could make sire your child knows when and how to get lunch as she had no lunch yesterday. Might be worth checking she knows where the toilets are too!
The office werent very helpful. They dont do lunches but they do have access to teaching staff.

My granddaughter started in senior school yesterday and if her older cousin had not helped her push in she also wouldn't have had anything to eat. They only get 30 minutes for lunch.

Completely ignore what I said before! I thought your dd started senior school not primary! I’d be fuming!!

@Raphael34

To be fair to the OP, what your secondary school does is totally irrelevant. The child is in Year 1.

Cross posted - sorry!

I think the office should have arranged for someone to call you back tomorrow

It doesn’t matter how late the teachers work, the odds are good that they won’t be able to investigate until tomorrow anyway

How did she expect to be served school dinner if she didn’t go into the hall? Seriously, rather than ask her that; you enquire on Mumsnet whether “kicking off” at the school might be the way to go??

YANBU to enquire as to what happened

YABVVVVU to kick off

She's obviously a wee bit upset just now. Wait until after you've all had dinner and when she's feeling full up and happier, you can ask her to explain what happened. Ask if they took her lunch order this morning (Or her lunch status as school dinner) and then ask what happened when they bell went for lunch time. Did the whole class go outside, or where they sent to different places for the packed lunches and school lunches etc. You need to ask very specific questions from little ones to get the info you need.

Ah, poor girl. I'd talk to the teacher and ask her to explain the lunchtime routine to her and before you leave, make sure she understands.

So she was in the playground and didn't hear the bell ring, someone calling year 1 or noticing that her classmates were disappearing? And this is grounds to kick off at someone else? Wow.

how did she expect to get dinner if she didn’t go into the hall

The child is in yr1 so 5-6 years old, so could easily have been caught up in playing and not heard the bell for the canteen, or whatever. Shouldn’t happen though and the office staff should have been more helpful.

So she was in the playground and didn't hear the bell ring, someone calling year 1 or noticing that her classmates were disappearing

Someone should have noticed and she should have had her lunch

Mistakes happen but the mistake isn’t necessarily the childs

Were you supposed to order in advance?
(Obvs someone should have noticed she didn't have a packed lunch either way)

My kids school all lunches have to be ordered in advance.

Do you have anger issues? Why would you even consider “kicking off” about such a easy to resolve issue.

I hope you aren't passing on such ridiculous over-reactions to your children. What strange behaviour.

Most schools I know have food first and playtime after,

You need to find out what the routine is and what actually happened,so it can be avoided in the future. Kicking off won't solve anything. Your daughter won't starve to death or get seriously ill for missing one meal.

Once you find out what happened and why,then you(and the teacher) can take steps to avoid it happening again.

“Kicking off”
Is this actually how people behave?

You are at the beginning of a long winding relationship with your daughters school. Presumably you’re at least reasonably happy with it if she’s attending, so you have another 5 years there.

it sounds like your dd was too shy to get her dinner, unfortunate but not the schools fault

Well it is the school's fault, she's only little and it's her first day.

This happened to my kids a couple of times when they were at primary. The school had 2 sittings and if they didn't hear the bell because they were at the far end of the field they missed their lunch. This system is ok for older children as it teaches them to be responsible etc but a bit more tricky for the little ones, especially if it's their first day!

I’ve already said I misread and thought she was starting high school. Of course that makes it completely different. I’d be raging

Just ask calmly tomorrow

Actually at 16:23 I’m always at home and I’ve been a secondary teacher for 11 years!!

Unless there’s a need for me to stay I don’t. Never have.

DD reported that she had had no lunch one day in year 1, it turned out to be a lie because she wanted me to provide a packed lunch. Go in calmly and find out the facts.

So where was she for the whole of lunchtime? What did she do when all the children went up to get their lunch or sit down with their packed lunch?

Christ - are all you posters hard of reading? The OP clarifies - VERY clearly for those at the back - that she will be addressing it calmly and didn't mean to say kicking off.

But all of you carry on regardless. Why bother commenting if you can't be bothered to read the thread properly?