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To think this is okay? Holiday Park related

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QuestionableMouse · 04/09/2019 11:36

My parents are currently staying at a caravan park near Scarborough. I dropped them off on Monday and will be picking them up on Friday. We were initially told that check out was at 12 however when we got to the site it's actually 10am.

It's about 90 miles one way to pick them up and I'm worried that I won't get to the site on time. Mam has suggested I drive down on Thursday night and sleep in the van with them. I think this sounds like a good idea rather than risking traffic (I got stuck for ages on the a171 behind a lorry on the way back due to the road conditions meaning it was impossible to overtake!) it took me four and a half hours to get home. I really don't want to get caught in traffic because they need help to pack up (so couldn't check out by themselves then we meet later on the site.)

I mentioned this to my friend who normally house sits for me and she thinks I'm being unreasonable and that the van is just for my parents and I'm being unethical by staying for one night.

What do you think?

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Jamhandprints · 04/09/2019 11:38

I don't see a problem with it.

ImNotYourGranny · 04/09/2019 11:39

Normally you pay per caravan not per person. So not an issue at all.

Lovewineandchocs · 04/09/2019 11:40

I don’t see a problem with it either. Your friend is being daft.

TheHobbitMum · 04/09/2019 11:40

No issue at all, if do the same

Disfordarkchocolate · 04/09/2019 11:40

I think it's fine.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 04/09/2019 11:41

It's fine. You pay for the caravan, not per person.

ArcheryAnnie · 04/09/2019 11:41

Is the cost of their holiday per person or per caravan? That'll give you your answer.

Do they really need help to pack up?

As for "unethical", it's a bit strong. There's lots of unethical things in the world at the moment. Sleeping in a caravan when you don't particularly want to, to help your parents out, doesn't seem so terrible as a crime.

KitKatCHA · 04/09/2019 11:42

Is it Haven? That will be totally fine, they won't even know you're there.

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 04/09/2019 11:44

Officially you shouldn't as they will have said who is staying on their original booking but I would do it. You usually pay for the caravan not per person so it's not like your cheating anyone. The only problem I see is if you want to go in any of the other facilities on-site like the restaurant or bar you won't have a pass.

LoseLooseLucy · 04/09/2019 11:45

Your friend sounds like a right prissy pants.

Madfrogs · 04/09/2019 11:48

Yabu.

The booking is for those named. If you stay and you are not named you have violated the terms and conditions of the booking. Thus putting your holiday at risk as well as voiding insurance if anything was to happen such as a fire god forbid. Also nobody would be looking for you as officially you are not on site.

They don’t have to leave leave site by 10am just the caravan itself must be empty.

IAcceptCookies · 04/09/2019 11:52

Struggling to understand why your “friend” thinks she can have and express an opinion on this. None of her chuffing business.

I think it is a good idea.

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 04/09/2019 11:52

Paid for the caravan, not per person.

They do need help packing up- it's a bit of a walk from their van to the main facilities and while they can manage without bags, they'd never manage with the luggage too.

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Drogosnextwife · 04/09/2019 12:03

Your friend is weird

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QuestionableMouse · 04/09/2019 12:04

Yes it's a Haven.

I wouldn't be using any of the facilities. It would literally be arrive on the night (tea time ish), maybe go somewhere in the car for tea, then pack up ready to leave the next morning.

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Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 04/09/2019 12:06

@Drogosnextwife she's lovely but very anxious about rules and not doing everything by the book!

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LeysaV · 04/09/2019 12:07

YANBU

Years ago now a few friends hired a caravan for a week and I joined them for their last day and night . No issues at all .

Apolloanddaphne · 04/09/2019 12:07

Sounds fine to me. I assume there is a bed and bedding you can use? They are not to know whether your parents sleep in the same bed or prefer separate beds.

Windydaysuponus · 04/09/2019 12:14

Bit ott. They won't be escorted off the site at 10!! You can stay and use the facilities. She could have a coffee /whatever while you travel!!

Choice4567 · 04/09/2019 12:18

Struggling to see why your friend cares- not really anything to do with her!

Also sounds fine, stay the night

Original poster
QuestionableMouse · 04/09/2019 12:23

@Windydaysuponus both parents are disabled and can't manage taking themselves and their luggage to use the facilities. Dad uses a stick and mam a walker. The van is a bit of a walk from the main facilities. I know they won't get kicked off the site at ten but they do need to be out of the caravan by then.

I have a sleeping bag and will sleep in the lounge. Its a four berth so a double and two single beds.

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Sarahjconnor · 04/09/2019 12:35

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LoseLooseLucy · 04/09/2019 12:40

You're doing a good thing OP, just do it 👍

HotChocolateLover · 04/09/2019 12:41

What’s it got to do with your friend?

HotChocolateLover · 04/09/2019 12:43

@Madfrogs I think you need a name change...

MadAsABoxOfFrogs 😂🤦‍♀️

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