Housemate woes

[Goodlookingcreature]

I recently moved in short term to a house share with the owner occupied. When I moved in it was just me and him, he said he didn’t use a microwave so I said I’d buy my own. He moved a 3rd person in and I asked him to buy a microwave; he said that I said I’d purchase one as he doesn’t use it. No problem, it’s just that there’s a new person living here now and I don’t want to be the freak saying nobody is allowed use microwave. He said the new guy didn’t eat in the house and it won’t be an issue.

Purchased microwave and sure enough new guy uses it. He’s moved a 4rd person in and they think the house comes equipped with a microwave.

What would you do?

I’m only here short term for work

The issue is the landlord. I’m the only female in the house. He seems quite laid back and nice but his DP is clearly the boss. (She lives elsewhere). She made it quite clear to me she didn’t want me moving in here but I was moved in and he said that it was a cultural issue that she was just very paranoid and possessive.

About a month into the living situation he was texting me telling me he’d massage me, I’d sleep after his massages, telling me I needed a good ride to make me tired and saying “I’ll bet you’re a horny bitch”.

I ignored all suggestive messages, and now I’m getting passive aggressive messages. “Your apples are on the wrong shelf in the fridge. Please move when home”
“Can you park your car straight on the driveway from now on”
“Can you use chopping board for chopping?”

I always use the chopping board for chopping and if the counter is marked it’s not me. When he text about my car I replied and asked if I offended him; to which he replied no, does asking you to park properly offend you? I said not at all, I just find your tone offensive.

I put the apples in the veg part of the fridge! Who gets annoyed about that?!

What is it about other people using it that annoys you?

WTF! Why are you living there after that update!?

I predict 'bakedbeangate'.

Again, the issue that annoys me is the fact the landlord REFUSED TO BUY ONE FOR THE HOUSE THAT WE PAY HIM TO LIVE IN, on the basis that NOBODY EXCEPT ME USES MICROWAVE, except when I went and bought one EVERYONE STARTED TO USE IT!

Just read the update. The microwave is the least of your concerns!

I know, a crazed jealous Latvian is a bigger fish to fry but this is about microwaving and I don’t think you can microwave big fish.

Jesus drip feed.
Get moved out of there ASAP. This is a safety issue and nothing to do with a microwave.

4rd?? So much crazy

About a month into the living situation he was texting me telling me he’d massage me, I’d sleep after his massages, telling me I needed a good ride to make me tired and saying “I’ll bet you’re a horny bitch”.

And you’re writing about a microwave?!

Move out and take your microwave with you.

About a month into the living situation he was texting me telling me he’d massage me, I’d sleep after his massages, telling me I needed a good ride to make me tired and saying “I’ll bet you’re a horny bitch”

Never mind all that. Let’s get back to the

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He sounds like a nightmare landlord but the microwave is a non-issue. You wanted one. You bought one. You store it in the kitchen so it's reasonable for others to use it too. Take it to your room if you don't want to share and when you leave, clearly you will take it with you.

*microwave

God almighty, short term rent, let them use it, take it when you go.

Oh god no, those texts are bloody far more worrying than the microwave!! Look to move out, you never want to be in the house alone with that man.

Geeeeeeet out

He sounds like a nightmare landlord but the microwave is a non-issue. You wanted one. You bought one. You store it in the kitchen so it's reasonable for others to use it too. Take it to your room if you don't want to share and when you leave, clearly you will take it with you.

^ this. If you hadn’t bought it you wouldn’t have one to use so you can either get stressed every time it beeps to alert you others are using it OR, and my suggestion would be to, move the hell out of there and away from the disgusting landlord.

What? Your microwave is the least of your issues. Why not focus on the worrying messages from your landlord?? I’d be out of there.

You can microwave a big fish, but then you have to bin the microwave.

Perhaps that's the best way out of this conundrum.

Crikey let them use microwave, it's not a big deal. Stick note on sayings ira yoir if you must and please keep it clean

That is the biggest drip feed I have seen in a long time!

I grew up in a different country, and there is a standard solution there to this. You tell the other 2 new tenants that the microwave is yours and, if they want to use it, they have to pay a third of the cost of it each. The landlord doesn't pay because he doesn't use it, but if he did pay, he would have to pay his share and the rest of you would be reimbursed accordingly and so on.

If they refuse to pay, you remove the microwave and lock it in your room if possible. Inconvenient but they don't get something for nothing in a house share.

But you have to tell them. They won't know otherwise. This is why I find this culture here difficult at times.

Just move out ASAP and take it with you,

If its that bad can't you just move elsewhere?

Mind you shared houses can be, shall we say, difficult sometimes;!

It’s not really a drip feed. I’m not concerned about the texts as I think he’s harmless, just sleezy. It’s just making a point that he’s so petty about things that don’t matter and why I’m so annoyed about such a trivial thing