This is probably very identifying but it's my 6 month old's first day at nursery today and although he's meant to be there all day, I've only dropped him off for a few hours because I'm concerned he's so unsettled there due to the way the nursery have handled his settling in.
We signed him up to the baby room (normal age range is 4-12 months old but they often have 1 year olds waiting to move up). However, in his settling in sessions he's been shuffled around between 3 rooms - the baby room and the two toddler rooms where the are even 2 year olds and a lot more children.
I dropped him off today expecting him to finally be in the baby room given it's his start date - and I was told he was in one of the toddler rooms again. I asked the nursery manager when he would be back in the baby room - and they said not until the start of October when there are enough babies for the room. I asked them whether they could at least ensure he only was in one of the toddler rooms until October and I was told they couldn't guarantee that as they put him in whichever room has enough availability.
My concerns are:
- DS won't be able to settle being shipped between 3 different rooms, given there are 3 different lots of staff and children, and 3 different environments and layouts to get used to.
-a 6 month old baby shouldn't be in a room with 15 toddlers and there's no way he'll be relaxed enough to sleep/ feed (by contrast the baby room has a maximum capacity of 6 babies). To date in all of his settles in the toddler rooms, he's refused to sleep and feed (which is why I've only put him in for a few hours today as I don't want to starve him/ stress him out too much).
- DS will pick up more germs going between different rooms. My experience with my older child has been that they get sick when they start nursery and change rooms. I'm worried this will be exacerbated by being in 3 different environments.
-the staff in the toddler rooms don't know how to handle babies. An example of this is when I dropped DS off for a settle a couple of weeks ago and I told the staff that took DS that he was due a feed in an hour (DS was staying for 2 hours). The staff told me that tea wouldn't be served until after DS finished his settle anyway. I asked her what she meant, and she explained that they couldn't give DS food in an hour because the children weren't due food altogether until after DS left. I had to tell her that DS doesn't eat food - he's 5 months old, and so when I said feed I meant the milk and bottle in his bag. She laughed and said "Ohh..we're not used to babies in here". 
-he's normally a very chilled, happy baby, and he's been so upset at the settles, and he's also starting to be really grisly and upset at home, and I'm worried it's to do with nursery.
Sorry for my long post, but would I be unreasonable to complain to my baby's nursery? And WIBU to tell them that if they can't ensure that DS is only in 1 room with 1 set of staff and children during his first month at nursery, then I won't be bringing him in or paying fees until they are ready to open up the baby room for him? I'm not sure if it's the emotions from my young baby starting nursery, or whether I have valid concerns about their handling of the situation which is why I'm asking here.