Would this bother you? Wedding

[pandaandba]

Small wedding, 19 people in total.

Groom, best man, his two brothers and our dads are wearing the same blue suit. The bridesmaids partner has bought an extremely similar style suit/same colour and will look like a groomsman.

Feel like I can't dictate what people wear. Would it bother you?

Not in the slightest! Blue is a very popular suit colour at weddings

No, it’s fine. He will be wearing a different tie and pocket square no doubt. Honestly, no one will bat an eyelid.

I don’t think it matters

I would maybe be ever so slightly miffed.....but I'd probably just try to enjoy the day and try to put it out of my mind. Most important thing is having family n friends with you to share your very special day. Hope you have a wonderful wedding and marriage OP x

Not at all.

I can understand the annoyance but in the big scheme of things I think it’s relatively minor and not worth the energy. Won’t the groomsmen be wearing buttonhole flowers too so it’ll be quite clear who they are? There are only so many suit colours after all - unless your guests go down the dumb and dumber route

Not at all. Why on earth would it?

Suits are often similar. He will have different tie/shirt. And with 19 guests I am sure everyone knows who is/isn't in the bridal party. Try not to stress about it.

On what planet have I been previously banned?

Never thought of the buttonholes! Thanks.

panda that poster is posting that on a lot of threads - I wouldn’t take any notice!

Shoes/waistcoat/tie (or cravat)/pocket square being different will make it very clear he isn’t a groomsman.

Thanks @Sparklesocks

It wouldn't worry me at all. It'll just add to the sense of unity on the day.

There are only 19 people. Even if he did look like a groomsman, which he won't, everyone will know he isn't. This is one of those silly things that feels like an issue when you're wedding planning but it really isn't.

Either way, it's not like you can tell your bridesmaid to tell her partner that he can't wear a perfectly good suit to the wedding, so just try and forget about it.

Wouldn't mind in the slightest. Of course you can't dictate what others wear (and it's not as if a blue suit is unusual). Also, how nice that he thought to buy a new suit especially to attend your wedding.

YABU- you can dictate what people wear to your wedding.

Can’t

As it's a small wedding he perhaps didnt want to stand out too much in photos. It will be fine. We turned up at sil wedding with my 4 year dd in a very similar dress to the bridesmaid. It was totally unintentional as we didnt know the colour scheme. I did apologise and sil was fine and said she will fit in all the photos.

The groom and his party should wear something more formal if they don't want people who are wearing a lounge suit looking like them.

Wouldn't worry me at all. If you want the wedding party to stand out you'll need to get them something that's less mundane than blue suit - perhaps matching vibrant waistcoats?

He should have avoided a blue suit, if possible.

But, as said, there will be a noticible difference.

Ok - it's a resounding "I'm being stupid". Thanks everyone, I needed to be told that!

Some people like to avoid black at a wedding so grey and blue are popular suit choices. Make the others different with a buttonhole, cravat or pocket handkerchief.